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upsetting 2 year old
Hi there,
I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx |
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On Jan 24, 8:57 am, "nay" wrote: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx No, you are not overreaction. I've never heard of a professional cleaning person bringing her children along on the job. I would find a new cleaning person. |
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On Jan 24, 9:57 am, "nay" wrote: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. -------------- Many years ago, my husband and I were part of a dinner club where four families would take turns having the other families over for dinner. One of the families had a small child who started chasing my cats. The cats responded by running into the bedroom to hide under the beds. When the child attempted to follow the cats into the bedroom. I said to the child (very nicely): "My cats don't like to be chased. They ran in the bedroom for privacy. If they want to play, they'll come out later." Well, the child began to cry, and the mother rebuked me, saying that her child wasn't used to be scolded by anyone other than his parents. I thought to myself: "Too bad! Then, maybe she should have scolded him before I needed to." In my house, the needs of a child to chase my cats DOES NOT take priority over the needs of the cats to be free from harassment. A few years later when we were having dinner at their house (the child was a little older then and had a sister), the family was taking care of their neighbor's litter of kittens (obviously, the neighbors had allowed the mother cat to roam and had not had her spayed). The children were playing catch with one of the kittens. The parents watched and said nothing. I was mortified and again put a stop to that. They were also quite happy to share with us that another neighbor's cat who was permitted to roam outside had originally been adopted from a no-kill shelter where part of the agreement was that the cat would be inside only. At any rate, we discontinued our relationship with these people after that. I think you should tell your cleaning lady that she needs to leave the child at home. If she doesn't comply, hire somebody else. Best regards, ---Cindy S. |
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"nay" wrote in news:1169650650.458984.168340@
13g2000cwe.googlegroups.com: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx Your house, your money, your rules. If she's really good and you would have a hard time finding another cleaning lady, tell her this is her final warning. If she's not so good and there are other cleaners around, give her her notice AFTER she has cleaned your house and is about to leave (to minimize any damage she might do to your house out of spite.) Bobble -- Have you hugged your cat today? Sonny's web page -- http://web.ncf.ca/ai151/index2.html |
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My cat doesn't like kids, he's just not used to them I suppose. When
my ex's son used to come over and chase the cat, I told him he needs to be careful because the cat will get you one day, and he did. He'd chased him under the bed, and I suppose the cat felt backed into a corner, so lashed out (which is the first and only time he's done it, apart from in play), gave an almight hiss and swatted him on his nose, making it bleed. For some reason the cat was always treated with the upmost respect from that day on! On 24 Jan, 16:00, bobblespin wrote: "nay" wrote in news:1169650650.458984.168340@ 13g2000cwe.googlegroups.com: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanxYour house, your money, your rules. If she's really good and you would have a hard time finding another cleaning lady, tell her this is her final warning. If she's not so good and there are other cleaners around, give her her notice AFTER she has cleaned your house and is about to leave (to minimize any damage she might do to your house out of spite.) Bobble -- Have you hugged your cat today? Sonny's web page --http://web.ncf.ca/ai151/index2.html- Hide quoted text -- Show quoted text - |
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You are not overreacting. She's wrong to bring her child to work in the
first place, and the child must learn to treat animals properly -- who better to teach him than his mother. ep "nay" wrote in message ups.com... Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx |
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On 24 Jan, 14:57, "nay" wrote: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. get rid of this woman immediately, do not allow her into your house ever again, get another cleaner or do it yourself, do not feel guilty about it at all if anything SHE should feel guilty about what her nasty, undisciplined offspring did to your cat. Your cats have a right to enjoy their home free from harrassment by a badly brought up brat and if she does not agree then get rid of her. Christ, I would have given her her marching orders immediately and not even given it another thought. why is she bringing her obviously savage son to your house when she cleans anyway? what if he breaks something whilst she is there, which considering the way he has behaved so far seems likely to me. please post back and tell us you have given her the boot, I don't like the idea of your cats being exposed to this horrible little demon again, if you really love your cats you will do it. bookie please advise. thanx |
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First that is unprofessional of a person (s) to bring their child to
another's home while providing cleaning services specially if unannounced. Get another cleaning service they are a dime a dozen around the world. Second if any "child" as you described did this to my furballs. The "child" and his mother would have ended up on their ass out of my house if they didn't listen. If he would have grabbed Phantom's, Spirit's or Rumble's tail that child would have been shredded. In this sue happy world all it takes is a asshole judge to see the others point of view and you can loose everything. Heed this warning This happened when a friend brought his grandson to "my" house. He saw my cats and went after them screaming all the way till an abrupt stop in midair when I snatched him by his suspenders and handed him back to his grandfather. I told him if he touches the cats the will rip him to shreds and I won't stop him next time. My friend makes sure his grandson is close by but now he is old enough to understand but still NO TOUCH. "nay" wrote in message ups.com... Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx |
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"nay" wrote in message ups.com... Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanx No, you're not overreating. She should not bring a child of *any* age. I would tell her you no longer need her services (you can be diplomatic about it) and look for someone else. Incidentally, this could also protect you from possible liability. If the child were to fall and injure himself, it's possible you could be held financially liable. MaryL |
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Thank you for helping me clear this up in my head guys. I have given
my cleaning lady the boot. I offered to put him in day care for her if she wanted and even offered to arrange a sitter for her if this was her reason for bringing him to work. She blatantly told me that she was the only one who could take care of her kid and she would continue bringing him to work. I then told her that I would no longer need her services, as the contract we initially signed stated in bold letters that no children were allowed to come to work with her. At the time of drawing up the contract, my husband said I was being melodramatic but I thank my lucky stars that I did. It has given me a good loophole to let her go without any hassles. thanx again for helping me gain clarity. You see, I'm a typical cat....when things irritate, I lash out and checking in with you was just to make sure that I wasnt arching my back for nothing. love you all lots Nay On Jan 24, 5:52 pm, "Rene S." wrote: On Jan 24, 8:57 am, "nay" wrote: Hi there, I have a lady who comes to clean my home and she brings her 2 year old along with her. I have asked her not to bring him as he upsets my cats and my dog. He is forever chasing them around and this morning, he pulled one of my cats' tails. This was the last straw for me. I picked him up and put him outside in the back yard and shut the door. I went in to his mother and told her that unless she teaches him, she has to leave him home with her mother like she use to in the beginning. am I over - reacting? My 2 year old nephew comes there and plays with my cats and never ever chases them around. they even sit on his lap when he watches Barney and the eat chips with him. please advise. thanxNo, you are not overreaction. I've never heard of a professional cleaning person bringing her children along on the job. I would find a new cleaning person. |
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