For Joy and other people who cats with cancer

On 6/23/2014 12:16 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message
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On 6/15/2014 9:35 AM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message
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I know it was best for him, but it hurts!

Joy

I know, as do most of us here and I admire you for not letting him go on
for
too long. I've sometimes been guilty of that but hindsight is a
wonderful
thing that I don't have.
I will regret until the end of my life not having KFC put down a week or
two
earlier. She was failing, and getting confused and I was coming to the
decision to let her go, then I got taken into hospital as an emergency.
Without me she would not stay in the house, she went out looking for me,
and
we all know what happened.
I should probably have done it when she went missing earlier that year -
and
went 2 doors away claiming she was lost. They took her in, and because
they
thought she was a sick kitten (she was very small) they took her to the
vet
(not mine) who told them she was a very old lady. I got her back then by
putting posters up on lamp posts.

I should have realised then about her confusion and it might be time but
I
didn't want to give up on her.
The result of this was she was snatched from the street by the RSPCA and
put
down and I wasn't even able to get her ashes back- she was probably
cremated
with all the other dogs and cats that no-one cares about.
I will never, ever, get over this. She should have been buried under a
tree
in my garden.
and this is why, Joy, you did the right thing.

Thank you. I understand why you are so upset about that.

I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have put
Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only lived
about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't help,
and it only makes me feel worse than I already do.

Joy

But if there is a chance, you do it, don't you? If it helps you not feeling
so guilty I would have gone the same route for Nanki-Poo.
The fact that he only lived another 5 months was not your fault and you had
no idea about it.. It might well have been a lot more.
I still feel slightly guilty that I put Pearl whippet through an operation
to have her spleen removed when it burst for no apparent reason. 8 months
later her front leg broke when she got out of bed through bone cancer which
turned out to be the primary cancer.
I did what I thought best at the time. Had I known what would happen, I
would have let her go. But I thought I was doing the best for her,giving
her a chance.
You have done the best for your Boy. Sometimes we cannot save them.

Tweed

Thank you. You're right, of course. However, it seems to be human
nature to find something to feel guilty about.

Joy

--
Joy Unlimited
Colorful Crocheted Critters
Photos at http://www.PictureTrail.com/joy9

Joy wrote:

I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have
put Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only
lived about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't
help, and it only makes me feel worse than I already do.

You can't second-guess things that you did at a time when all you had to
go on was what you knew at the time. Many decisions have to be made on
insufficient information, and you couldn't have known that he would only live
another 5 months after the treatments. Your hope at the time was that the
treatments would help him and give him a better and longer life, longer
than he ended up having. It's only natural to act on that hope, especially
if a medical expert recommends it. Don't condemn yourself because the
outcome wasn't as good as you were hoping for. Good decisions, IMO, are
those that are made for the right reasons, regardless of the outcome. We
don't have any control over that.

He did live considerably longer than the time it took to have the
treatments, and that's a good thing.

--
Joyce

Loneliness is comforted by the closeness and touch of fur to fur,
skin to skin, or -- skin to fur. -- Paul Gallico

On 7/2/2014 6:37 PM, Bastette wrote:
Joy wrote:

I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have
put Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only
lived about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't
help, and it only makes me feel worse than I already do.

You can't second-guess things that you did at a time when all you had to
go on was what you knew at the time. Many decisions have to be made on
insufficient information, and you couldn't have known that he would only live
another 5 months after the treatments. Your hope at the time was that the
treatments would help him and give him a better and longer life, longer
than he ended up having. It's only natural to act on that hope, especially
if a medical expert recommends it. Don't condemn yourself because the
outcome wasn't as good as you were hoping for. Good decisions, IMO, are
those that are made for the right reasons, regardless of the outcome. We
don't have any control over that.

He did live considerably longer than the time it took to have the
treatments, and that's a good thing.


Thank you.

Joy

--
Joy Unlimited
Colorful Crocheted Critters
Photos at http://www.PictureTrail.com/joy9