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Aaargh - busybody neighbor! :(
I have this neighbor who seems to be convinced that I'm starving my cat.
Her concern was touching at first, but now it's just getting annoying. A bit insulting, too. If you've followed my story about Smudge conning the neighbors out of food and treats, you can jump over the next several paragraphs, because you know all this. Go down and start reading from "SMUDGE UPDATE". If you want the backstory, read on: About a month ago, a neighbor of mine came over to my house to inform me that Smudge has been getting fed by several neighbors, including herself, and she seemed extremely hungry. The neighbor was also worried because despite how Smudge would wolf down the food, she seemed thin. (It's true that Smudge has gradually lost weight over the past few years, but she *is* 12!) The neighbor thought Smudge might be hyperthyroid, and wanted to alert me to that possibility. So I took Smudge to the vet and got a complete blood panel workup. Everything came back perfectly normal. Thyroid fine, kidneys fine, etc. I told my neighbor about this, and I asked her to stop feeding Smudge so I could control what she ate. For one thing, I get very good food for my cats - Wellness brand canned food, which has almost no grains, no additives, junk fillers, etc. It's healthy food. I also add some healthy kitty treats to make it more tasty. And I have to make sure Smudge is home and hungry for breakfast on the mornings when I give her aspirin. The neighbor promised not to feed Smudge anymore. Suddenly, Smudge started coming home every morning and every night for her food. She ate everything I gave her. She stayed in at night, slept on my bed, and went out very early in the morning (before I actually get up for the day), and then came back home when I did get up, so she could get breakfast. SMUDGE UPDATE: This past week, I started noticing that Smudge wasn't coming home when I called her in the morning. Some days I ended up going to work without seeing her. She was slow coming home in the evenings, too. And she wouldn't eat very much of the food I gave her, even though it was fresh out of the can, and mixed with treats and some kitty gravy to make it tasty. I started to suspect that the neighbor was feeding Smudge again. But I didn't know how to approach her about it, because to ask her would imply that I didn't trust her to keep her word. I don't know this woman very well, and I didn't want to insult her. Today she beat me to it - she left me a message saying that Smudge has been hanging around her house, crying at the door, and wolfing down the food that the neighbor gave her - yes, she was feeding her again. So I called her back, and I asked her once again, to please stop feeding her, because it was messing up her feeding schedule at home. She tried to convince me how hungry Smudge was. I told her that yes, I do get up later than she does, so at that hour of the morning, Smudge is indeed ready for her breakfast, and behaves like a hungry cat. But she will get it at my place when I get up! I swear, this woman does not believe me when I say that I feed her twice a day and feed her excellent food. She actually had the nerve to say to me, "Do you stay with her when she's eating?" Excuse me? I said, "I've had this cat for 12 years, I think I know how to feed her." I don't want to have an argumentative relationship with a neighbor, but I couldn't let that one go by. She is very pushy about this - she really seems to believe that I'm not feeding my cat. I asked her if Smudge was disturbing her, and she said not at all, she was just concerned. I repeated that she'd had a perfect bill of health at the vet's and was fed good food twice a day. She seemed doubtful, but once again agreed to stop feeding my cat. What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. Thanks! -- Joyce ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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Aaargh - busybody neighbor! :(
Don't let your cat outside.
On Jun 2, 1:27�am, wrote: I have this neighbor who seems to be convinced that I'm starving my cat. Her concern was touching at first, but now it's just getting annoying. A bit insulting, too. If you've followed my story about Smudge conning the neighbors out of food and treats, you can jump over the next several paragraphs, because you know all this. Go down and start reading from "SMUDGE UPDATE". If you want the backstory, read on: About a month ago, a neighbor of mine came over to my house to inform me that Smudge has been getting fed by several neighbors, including herself, and she seemed extremely hungry. The neighbor was also worried because despite how Smudge would wolf down the food, she seemed thin. (It's true that Smudge has gradually lost weight over the past few years, but she *is* 12!) The neighbor thought Smudge might be hyperthyroid, and wanted to alert me to that possibility. So I took Smudge to the vet and got a complete blood panel workup. Everything came back perfectly normal. Thyroid fine, kidneys fine, etc. I told my neighbor about this, and I asked her to stop feeding Smudge so I could control what she ate. For one thing, I get very good food for my cats - Wellness brand canned food, which has almost no grains, no additives, junk fillers, etc. It's healthy food. I also add some healthy kitty treats to make it more tasty. And I have to make sure Smudge is home and hungry for breakfast on the mornings when I give her aspirin. The neighbor promised not to feed Smudge anymore. Suddenly, Smudge started coming home every morning and every night for her food. She ate everything I gave her. She stayed in at night, slept on my bed, and went out very early in the morning (before I actually get up for the day), and then came back home when I did get up, so she could get breakfast. SMUDGE UPDATE: This past week, I started noticing that Smudge wasn't coming home when I called her in the morning. Some days I ended up going to work without seeing her. She was slow coming home in the evenings, too. And she wouldn't eat very much of the food I gave her, even though it was fresh out of the can, and mixed with treats and some kitty gravy to make it tasty. I started to suspect that the neighbor was feeding Smudge again. But I didn't know how to approach her about it, because to ask her would imply that I didn't trust her to keep her word. I don't know this woman very well, and I didn't want to insult her. Today she beat me to it - she left me a message saying that Smudge has been hanging around her house, crying at the door, and wolfing down the food that the neighbor gave her - yes, she was feeding her again. So I called her back, and I asked her once again, to please stop feeding her, because it was messing up her feeding schedule at home. She tried to convince me how hungry Smudge was. I told her that yes, I do get up later than she does, so at that hour of the morning, Smudge is indeed ready for her breakfast, and behaves like a hungry cat. But she will get it at my place when I get up! I swear, this woman does not believe me when I say that I feed her twice a day and feed her excellent food. She actually had the nerve to say to me, "Do you stay with her when she's eating?" Excuse me? I said, "I've had this cat for 12 years, I think I know how to feed her." I don't want to have an argumentative relationship with a neighbor, but I couldn't let that one go by. She is very pushy about this - she really seems to believe that I'm not feeding my cat. I asked her if Smudge was disturbing her, and she said not at all, she was just concerned. I repeated that she'd had a perfect bill of health at the vet's and was fed good food twice a day. She seemed doubtful, but once again agreed to stop feeding my cat. What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. Thanks! -- Joyce � ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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"Sharon" wrote in message ... Don't let your cat outside. *************** This is not very practical in this case. Smudge gets out no matter what. Also not very polite. Pam S. On Jun 2, 1:27?am, wrote: I have this neighbor who seems to be convinced that I'm starving my cat. Her concern was touching at first, but now it's just getting annoying. A bit insulting, too. If you've followed my story about Smudge conning the neighbors out of food and treats, you can jump over the next several paragraphs, because you know all this. Go down and start reading from "SMUDGE UPDATE". If you want the backstory, read on: About a month ago, a neighbor of mine came over to my house to inform me that Smudge has been getting fed by several neighbors, including herself, and she seemed extremely hungry. The neighbor was also worried because despite how Smudge would wolf down the food, she seemed thin. (It's true that Smudge has gradually lost weight over the past few years, but she *is* 12!) The neighbor thought Smudge might be hyperthyroid, and wanted to alert me to that possibility. So I took Smudge to the vet and got a complete blood panel workup. Everything came back perfectly normal. Thyroid fine, kidneys fine, etc. I told my neighbor about this, and I asked her to stop feeding Smudge so I could control what she ate. For one thing, I get very good food for my cats - Wellness brand canned food, which has almost no grains, no additives, junk fillers, etc. It's healthy food. I also add some healthy kitty treats to make it more tasty. And I have to make sure Smudge is home and hungry for breakfast on the mornings when I give her aspirin. The neighbor promised not to feed Smudge anymore. Suddenly, Smudge started coming home every morning and every night for her food. She ate everything I gave her. She stayed in at night, slept on my bed, and went out very early in the morning (before I actually get up for the day), and then came back home when I did get up, so she could get breakfast. SMUDGE UPDATE: This past week, I started noticing that Smudge wasn't coming home when I called her in the morning. Some days I ended up going to work without seeing her. She was slow coming home in the evenings, too. And she wouldn't eat very much of the food I gave her, even though it was fresh out of the can, and mixed with treats and some kitty gravy to make it tasty. I started to suspect that the neighbor was feeding Smudge again. But I didn't know how to approach her about it, because to ask her would imply that I didn't trust her to keep her word. I don't know this woman very well, and I didn't want to insult her. Today she beat me to it - she left me a message saying that Smudge has been hanging around her house, crying at the door, and wolfing down the food that the neighbor gave her - yes, she was feeding her again. So I called her back, and I asked her once again, to please stop feeding her, because it was messing up her feeding schedule at home. She tried to convince me how hungry Smudge was. I told her that yes, I do get up later than she does, so at that hour of the morning, Smudge is indeed ready for her breakfast, and behaves like a hungry cat. But she will get it at my place when I get up! I swear, this woman does not believe me when I say that I feed her twice a day and feed her excellent food. She actually had the nerve to say to me, "Do you stay with her when she's eating?" Excuse me? I said, "I've had this cat for 12 years, I think I know how to feed her." I don't want to have an argumentative relationship with a neighbor, but I couldn't let that one go by. She is very pushy about this - she really seems to believe that I'm not feeding my cat. I asked her if Smudge was disturbing her, and she said not at all, she was just concerned. I repeated that she'd had a perfect bill of health at the vet's and was fed good food twice a day. She seemed doubtful, but once again agreed to stop feeding my cat. What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. Thanks! -- Joyce ? ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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Aaargh - busybody neighbor! :(
wrote in message .... What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. Thanks! -- Joyce ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. Joyce, I don't know where you live or what your financial resources are, so this may not be very practical. However, some people have fenced their back yard with an extension on the top that prevents cats from escaping. Other than keeping your cat indoors as much as possible, I don't know of any other steps to take. You have already spoken to the neighbor (more than once), and she sounds like someone who will ignore what you say and go right on doing what she wants to do. MaryL |
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"tanadashoes" wrote in message m... "Sharon" wrote in message ... Don't let your cat outside. *************** This is not very practical in this case. Smudge gets out no matter what. Also not very polite. Pam S. But also to be ignored also since it was their first and only post here |
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Sharon wrote: Don't let your cat outside. Why punish the cat for the neighbor's transgressions? On Jun 2, 1:27�am, wrote: snip What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. |
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"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote:
Sharon wrote: Don't let your cat outside. Why punish the cat for the neighbor's transgressions? Yeah, that's how I feel. Smudge *loves* being outside. I believe she needs to be able to go out, for her well-being. This is not true of all cats. I keep my other two inside all the time, but Smudge is very social with humans. When I'm gone during the day, she would be very lonely if she didn't get to visit all her pals in the neighborhood (most of whom don't feed her!). -- Joyce ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote:
wrote: What would you guys do about this situation? For now, I don't have to do anything since she said she would stop again. But I have a funny feeling this isn't over. I'd like to be ready with a strategy for dealing with it if it comes up again. Is there any way you can confine Smudge to her own yard, so the neighbor doesn't get the chance to interfere? I don't have a yard - I live in an apartment building. I used to keep Smudge tethered to the railing in the stairwell (the stairs to my apt. are outdoors), so she could go down and hang out in the bushes. But (1) she almost died when dogs attacked her and she was unable to run away, and (2) I would never have left her like that when I wasn't home, anyway. I agree you don't want to antagonize your neighbor without cause, but you are more forbearing than I. If I were in your place, once she was aware Smudge had a home but continued feeding her, I would start talking about forms of legal recourse, such as "restraining orders"! ;-) I was wondering if I had any legal recourse, but I don't believe this woman is breaking any laws, and she certainly isn't harming my cat. She's causing more inconvenience for me than for Smudge, although I think the food I give her is better quality. I know the woman means well, but she's very pushy and she seems to have an attitude about me, that I'm not taking care of Smudge properly or something. I guess in her mind, that justifies what she's doing. -- Joyce ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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