[OT] I am *SO* P*SSED OFF!

"Enfilade" wrote in message
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--Fil
(Smoked one cigarette in my life, because I was in a fight with Dylan
and I knew it would **** him off)


I'd say that was really stupid, but its exactly the kind of thing I'd do.
LOL

"Prozack" wrote in message
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No More Retail wrote:
snipped pussified, pussy whipped drivel

tha heck is wrong with you man!

all this nonsense about a dang cigarette.

The little men in Hong Kong for example, who have little to no
incidence of heart attacks or lung cancer...THEY ROLL THEIR OWN SMOKE.
They smoke as much as we do...and they outlive us!

what is the difference?

They live off of the sea. They don't eat like we do.

It's not tobacco, it's GREASY GRITTY all you can **** buffets and
McDonalds...THOSE ARE THE THINGS THAT KILL US.

All health issues aside, smoking, when we both did, cost us $450 per month -
literally burned up in smoke. Thanks almost *HALF* our house note!

Hugs,

CatNipped

"No More Retail" wrote in message
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It has been over six years be 7 years in February I still have to stop
myself when I am around other smokers from bumming a cig. Cat if you
husband really wants to quit talk to your doctor about zyban my wife took
it and it worked for her she had tried everything at least 3 x

I am going to say this from a man's perspective one he is going outside
and away from the house that means he feels guilty about doing it. or
trying to be a sneak you are the best judge.
There is no way to hid being a smoker you smell it no matter what you use
to cover it


NOT ALL MEN ARE ALIKE SOME ARE A@SHOLE ( like me) AND THERE ARE GREAT
GUYS
( like me) OUT THERE PLEASE DON"T INCLUDE ALL OF US IN THE LYING PART.
:-)

The lying part is he making the lies obvious if so he wants to be
caught.
Catch him in the act coming around the corner with a garden hose and
soaking
his a@s to start would be awake up call. Did that to one of our kids who
lied to us about them smoking after we had quit.

If not being obvious confront him about it but be casual when you do
it.
If you attack full on all you will get is a fight denials and more lies;
men either buck up, get real defensive, lie about it or admit the truth.
Usually the first 2
Make sure you let him know that the lies are endangering the marriage and
deeply emotionally cutting you

Giving up smoking is one of the hardest challenges they are specially for
a
person who is over weight. Does he deserve some slack? Only you can
answer
that you live with him between what your family is going thru from your
post
I am surprised you haven't started back smoking. Keep strong and vent
all
you like We will listen
"Adrian" wrote in message
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CatNipped wrote:
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Yeah, I won't let him get anywhere near me with a cigarette or even
smelling of cigarettes. I'm too afraid that *I* might start smoking
again. Even after 2+ years without a cigarette, there are still
times that I crave on really badly.

Hugs,

CatNipped

I know what you mean, it's 4 years and 2 weeks since I last smoked and I
still crave them. I often dream about smoking. Purrs your husband finds
the
strength to quit again.
--
Adrian (Owned by Snoopy and Bagheera)
A House is not a home, without a cat.
http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk

Thanks for the advice NMR - it's always nice to hear an uninvolved male's
point of view.

It *has* been hard not to light up during all the stress, but I know we
really can't afford to go back to smoking - we just don't have the
$450/month it used to cost us!

One good thing is that I managed to repress my anger so that the family
could still enjoy Thanksgiving. Now that I've cooled down (and vented here
some) hopefully I can attack this issue without attacking DH.

Hugs,

CatNipped

"No More Retail" wrote in message
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get some liquid catnip or those little poppers that explode when you light
them use them on his cigarettes the liquid catnip make sure he ain't
driving either it will make him sick or give him a high with the worse
headache afterwards

Revenge is mine says the ****ed off woman

LOL! Thanks for the info!!! ;

Hugs,

CatNipped

"No More Retail" wrote in message
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I worry more about adult stage 2 diabetes

Yeah, I need to find some pictures of the gangrenous limbs of diabetic
smokers to show to him!

Hugs,

CatNipped

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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"Gabey8" wrote in message
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Purrs and purr-ayers are on the way that the next time he tries to kick
the
nicotine habit comes ASAP, and that this time, he's able to STAY
non-smoking.

I feel for him, and you. My dad took multiple tries, over a period of
decades, before he finally quit smoking. Even being diagnosed with
early
stages of emphysema didn't do the trick. ( Years later, and with a
case
of emphysema that continued progressing over time, he FINALLY kicked
the
@)#($*@#)(*$ habit. Thank God for major favors. I wish it'd happened
sooner, but I'm glad it happened at all.

I hope your DH has success quitting again, and that the success
continues.

Donna, Captain, and Stanley

I really, really worry about him - he is getting close to 300 pounds and
he
does *ZERO* exercise (and now that I've caught him he'll probably not
even
bother to go walk around the block while he smokes)! He's a heart
attack
or
stroke just waiting to happen! :

Hugs,

CatNipped

"Enfilade" wrote in message
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My suspicions were *NOT* groundless. DH (standing for d*ck-head in this
instance) was standing by the trunk of his car lighting up a
cigarette!!!!!!!!!!!

Dylan (my DP's) parents used to smoke when he was a kid. When he was a
teen, they quit.

Well, when his dad came to visit us in 2002 we caught him sneaking out
to have a smoke. THis is after Christmas 2001 when we found cigarette
butts in the bathroom and we weren't sure if they were his dad's or his
younger brothers'

(Turns out both his younger brothers were ALSO smoking, the middle one
openly but the younger one since he was 14, clandestinely)

And last year, Dylan found out that it wasn't just his dad smoking in
the basement, but his mom again too.

So now he's the only person in his family not a smoker, and he's going
to be a DOCTOR so he is seeing people all the time who've smoked
themselves sick.

***

I hope that with some encouragement, you will be able to help Ben quit
again and encourage him to exercise. Maybe you could find some kind of
exercise that you could do together, or that he could do with his
grandkids. That would make it more enjoyable to do.

***

I struggle with caffeine...Everyone says "caffeine addiction, ha ha"
but I have stomach problems and even a can of pop can leave me too sick
to eat for several hours. Yet I'm lucky if I can cut myself down to
one every other day. I remember when I had bad ulcers I had to quit
entirely for several months and even through the painkillers i was on,
I had the headaches from hell every day, starting at 2 pm until I
passed out asleep, for over a month.

Gods. I probably have no right to tell the smokers to knock it off,
considering that my grandpa Ludwig died in his sixties from stomach
problems.

--Fil
(Smoked one cigarette in my life, because I was in a fight with Dylan
and I knew it would **** him off)

Any addiction is bad news. Doesn't it seem odd, though, that humans are
prone to all these addictions - sort of counter-evolution.

Hugs,

CatNipped

"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote in message
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CatNipped wrote:



Yeah, I won't let him get anywhere near me with a cigarette or even
smelling
of cigarettes. I'm too afraid that *I* might start smoking again. Even
after 2+ years without a cigarette, there are still times that I crave
on
really badly.

That's the worst part of an addiction - you may "kick" it,
but the urge never entirely goes away. I'm fortunate that
my only addiction is to food (although that can be bad
enough - "I keep losing weight, but it keeps finding me
again"). I had an alcoholic friend who managed to stay dry
for eight years, but when he came under stress (partly
financial, partly losing a few close friends to AIDS) he
began drinking again. He told me once "I know I COULD quit,
if I really wanted to, but it just doesn't seem worth the
effort". (However, he was apparently suffering from
clinical depression for the last year or so of his life,
although no one realized it until after his death - that can
play havoc with your determination to do things, since
EVERYTHING can seem "too much trouble".)

Yeah. The really insidious thing is that when you get a bad craving you
start thinking to yourself, "Heck, why bother to quit this if I'm only going
to crave it incessantly for the rest of my life?"

I have an addition to food also - and this addiction is truly hard kick
because you *have* to have at least some of the substance you're addicted to
in order to live!

Hugs,

CatNipped

"CatNipped" wrote

It *has* been hard not to light up during all the stress, but I know we
really can't afford to go back to smoking - we just don't have the
$450/month it used to cost us!

Not to encourage anyone to start or resume a smoking habit, but if the urge
becomes overpowering, there *is* an alternative to the high cost of
manufactured cigarettes which are full of chemicals. There are some good
clean brands of rolling tobacco - NOT "Top" or "Bugler" - that can be
purchase by the pound or in smaller quantities. One such brand is "Midnight
Special" which comes in six-ounce bags for around $5-6 including tax, and
papers enough to roll the entire package are included.

To break this down into the equivalent of "packs" of cigarettes, six ounces
works out to about 1/2 cartons, or fifty cents a pack @ $6.00/bag.

Making the cost even lower is the fact that these hand rolled smokes do not
continue to burn when laid down and can be relit. And if they are rolled in
the shape of a cone and lit on the fat end, there is almost no waste of
tobacco in the butt. Thus, twenty smokes last as long as sixty of the
ready-roll variety.

Plus due to the necessity of rolling, it is not so easy to just grab one and
light up. The act of rolling becomes a ritual during which one may if so
inclined contemplate whether or not one truly desires this particular
cigarette at this particular time - often leading one to stop and wait to
smoke until a later time.

works out to about 1/2 cartons, or fifty cents a pack @ $6.00/bag.

Typo changed meaning: 1/2 should read 1.2

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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Yeah, I need to find some pictures of the gangrenous limbs of diabetic
smokers to show to him!

Hate to tell you CatNipped, but the pictures probably won't work. My dad
smoked off an on since he was a preteen. He tried quitting but never was
able to. We tried the pictures, etc. His attitude was nothing has happened
to me, so that won't either.

Good luck. An off the wall suggestion, that just might work. Maybe you can
make a pact with Ben that if he walks with you around the block he can have
1/2 a cigarette, but outside. Once you get him moving, you maybe able to
get him to quite and continue with the walking.

Diane