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Hi, New and HAD a question.
Hello everyone, I am new to the board and I originally was hoping I could get some help with a problem but after seeing how people talk to eachother on here it makes me want to turn tail and run rather than ask for help.
The way people treat eachother is SCARY. Makes a newcomer looking for help feel the need to look elsewhere. Now this isn't all people or all threads. I am just a bit turned off by some of it, Needless bickering and such. Last edited by MoonDancer85 : December 9th 06 at 08:36 AM. |
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Hi, New and HAD a question.
Hi Moondancer,
I couldn't agree with you more if I tried to!Please don't tar & feather everyone with the same brush though.The critisim on here is *intended to be supportive & informative* &any who do feel the need to rip *anyone* to pieces either has no heart or no consience.There are many other people on here who would be more than happy to help you,& give you the advice that you are looking for(I certainly got help and advice here).I am a recent boarder too & have certainly taken my fair share of stick as well.If anyone speaks to you in a derogatory manner, you must bear in mind that are obviously too small/narrow minded to see anything other than their own point of view.Personaly I think that everyone is entitled to their own opinion & to air it, but not in a vindicitve manner that is hurtful & nasty.That defeats the object of airing it-If you want someone to appreciate your point of view, you must respect their's too.Unfortunately, some of the memebers forget themselve's & the point of this site, which is to be there to advise other's about their cat's in a time of need-Either that or their tendancy to over familiaraity,not realising how intimidating they can be.... I very much hope that you feel that you can come back to ask your question too btw too"o" MoonDancer85 wrote: Hello everyone, I am new to the board and I originally was hoping I could get some help with a problem but after seeing how people talk to eachother on here it makes me want to turn tail and run rather than ask for help. The way people treat eachother is SCARY. Makes a newcomer looking for help feel the need to look elsewhere. Now this isn't all people or all threads. I am just a bit turned off by some of it, Needless bickering and such. -- MoonDancer85 |
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Hi, New and HAD a question.
"MoonDancer85" wrote in message ... Hello everyone, I am new to the board and I originally was hoping I could get some help with a problem but after seeing how people talk to eachother on here it makes me want to turn tail and run rather than ask for help. The way people treat eachother is SCARY. Makes a newcomer looking for help feel the need to look elsewhere. Now this isn't all people or all threads. I am just a bit turned off by some of it, Needless bickering and such. -- MoonDancer85 Please ask your question. I absolutely agree with you that there is far too much pettiness and needless bickering on this group. In fact, I will go farther -- I think this newsgroup has declined significantly, starting with some trolls and a huge wave of really vile communication some time ago. Nevertheless, please look past that and look for the helpful messages. There are some very knowledgeable people on this group, and many who are eager to share that knowledge. I will also add this: Since you are a newcomer, you may not realize that *some* of the remarks you object to were probably aimed at well-known flame-throwers...those who deliberately post messages simply intended to fan the flames and not a genuine attempt to gain help. There are also many who post messages where their cat is clearly in distress, when *anyone* should know that the only logical course is to contact a veterinarian (often after the poor kitty has been suffering for a long time), and the reactions you have read are sometimes posted out of annoyance, frustration, and great concern about a cat that has continued to decline while the person posting wastes untold time waiting for "communication." There are also occasions when we post without realizing how our messages will be interpreted. I know I have been guilty of that myself -- somewhat like the times when we say something in person, can see from the expression on the other person's face that it was taken in the wrong way, but at that time can correct it by saying, "oh, what I was really trying to say is...." Finally, learn to just ignore the annoying messages and click on to the next one. Again: Please post your question and give the group a chance to respond. MaryL |
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