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Age Appropriate Dress?
and thick, large scar tissue is common on some ethnics (keloids). I dunno about ears. I wouldn't call ears "facial" would you? I dunno..I guess not, since when someone says a "facial piercing" I think about eyebrows, lips, cheeks and noses, not ears. I don't think kids should be getting piercings anyways, certainly not before they're 13 and able to understand/consent to what they're doing and the risks of scarring etc. With the possible exception of lobe earrings, as those are culturally common, but I would still hope they are the child's choice to have them done. I find it weird that my mom had my ears pierced when I was 6 because no one could tell I was a girl...she did it in an attempt to clarify what gender I was, even though I had no interest in getting earrings at the time. It feels liek something that was forcibly "Done to me," even though I came to like having pierced ears when I was 10--which was about the same age as I felt a desire to change my gender-ambiguous looks and grew my hair long. (Then, when I was 13 and wanted a second set of earrings, she kicked up such a fuss that I never did get it done. By the time I was on my own, double lobe piercings were fairly common and therefore, I opted for double helix, and the nose ring). --Fil Straight, but not feminine. |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
... On 2006-02-03, EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) penned: and for GOD'S sake lose the "empire" waists that make even the slimmest woman look fat and/or pregnant!) Phew! I thought I was the only person who thought those things make everyone look pregnant! -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully I can assure you that you aren't. I had to wear one of those as matron of honor at my sister's wedding, and I hated it. Joy |
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Enfilade wrote: and thick, large scar tissue is common on some ethnics (keloids). I dunno about ears. I wouldn't call ears "facial" would you? I dunno..I guess not, since when someone says a "facial piercing" I think about eyebrows, lips, cheeks and noses, not ears. I don't think kids should be getting piercings anyways, certainly not before they're 13 and able to understand/consent to what they're doing and the risks of scarring etc. With the possible exception of lobe earrings, as those are culturally common, but I would still hope they are the child's choice to have them done. I find it weird that my mom had my ears pierced when I was 6 because no one could tell I was a girl...she did it in an attempt to clarify what gender I was, even though I had no interest in getting earrings at the time. It feels liek something that was forcibly "Done to me," even though I came to like having pierced ears when I was 10--which was about the same age as I felt a desire to change my gender-ambiguous looks and grew my hair long. (Then, when I was 13 and wanted a second set of earrings, she kicked up such a fuss that I never did get it done. By the time I was on my own, double lobe piercings were fairly common and therefore, I opted for double helix, and the nose ring). --Fil Straight, but not feminine. Ha. I relate, Fil, to the reasons of gender clarification. I have always worn my hair long and worn earrings, because with my figure, I always thought I'd be mistaken for a boy. Sherry |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Yoj" wrote:
I can assure you that you aren't. I had to wear one of those as matron of honor at my sister's wedding, and I hated it. Well, didn't it make you look "matronly"? ducking and running -- Wayne M. |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Wayne Mitchell" wrote in message
news "Yoj" wrote: I can assure you that you aren't. I had to wear one of those as matron of honor at my sister's wedding, and I hated it. Well, didn't it make you look "matronly"? ducking and running -- Wayne M. LOL! Actually, I wasn't worrying about how it looked that day, because I was too busy struggling to breathe. Although I hadn't yet been diagnosed, I was having an asthma attack. I didn't want to spoil my sister's wedding or reception, so I didn't say anything until we were ready to leave. Then my husband took me to Emergency. Joy |
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LOL! Actually, I wasn't worrying about how it looked that day, because I
was too busy struggling to breathe. Although I hadn't yet been diagnosed, I was having an asthma attack. I didn't want to spoil my sister's wedding or reception, so I didn't say anything until we were ready to leave. Then my husband took me to Emergency. Joy That must have been a fun wedding (NOT) for you! With that dress throttling you under your diaphragm......I used to see those "empire-waist" dresses mainly on small girls and in period movies (like French Revolution, etc., famous British love stories) but now they're in serial tv shows and popular for wedding attendants attire. But my fave for strange costuming of USA running the streets was the 60's, when fashion ranged from peasant-raggedy hippie-look to what you see portrayed in all the Austin Powers movies (yes, I wore it and looked good in it).....and everyone wanted to be British, me included. |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Yoj" wrote in message . com... "Wayne Mitchell" wrote in message news "Yoj" wrote: I can assure you that you aren't. I had to wear one of those as matron of honor at my sister's wedding, and I hated it. Well, didn't it make you look "matronly"? ducking and running -- Wayne M. LOL! Actually, I wasn't worrying about how it looked that day, because I was too busy struggling to breathe. Although I hadn't yet been diagnosed, I was having an asthma attack. I didn't want to spoil my sister's wedding or reception, so I didn't say anything until we were ready to leave. Then my husband took me to Emergency. Joy A cup of strong black coffee can be a real help in a situation like that. It contains drugs that are similar to theophylin that help open up the lungs. Proper treatment is better of course, but coffee can be a real help in the mean time. Jo |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
"Jo Firey" wrote in message
... "Yoj" wrote in message . com... "Wayne Mitchell" wrote in message news "Yoj" wrote: I can assure you that you aren't. I had to wear one of those as matron of honor at my sister's wedding, and I hated it. Well, didn't it make you look "matronly"? ducking and running -- Wayne M. LOL! Actually, I wasn't worrying about how it looked that day, because I was too busy struggling to breathe. Although I hadn't yet been diagnosed, I was having an asthma attack. I didn't want to spoil my sister's wedding or reception, so I didn't say anything until we were ready to leave. Then my husband took me to Emergency. Joy A cup of strong black coffee can be a real help in a situation like that. It contains drugs that are similar to theophylin that help open up the lungs. Proper treatment is better of course, but coffee can be a real help in the mean time. Jo Thanks I'll try to remember that for future reference. And if I get in a situation where it is needed and possible, I'll try to drink it. I don't like coffee, and on the rare occasions I do drink it, I usually load it with sugar and cream, so I'd have a hard time getting it down. It would, of course, be worth it, if it helped. Fortunately, since I've been taking Singular regularly, I almost never have asthma attacks any more. I haven't had a really bad one in years, and that was before (just before, actually) I started taking the Singulair. Joy |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
Cheryl Perkins wrote:
you're using a narrow definition of 'judgement' which seems to be based on the idea that one person can never think or say that something another person is doing is wrong or inappropriate. No, I'm not saying that. I do make judgements when I think someone is doing something harmful, dishonest, disrespectful, etc, either to me, or to someone else (including animals, of course!!). So, to use your example, if someone were to wear torn, dirty clothes to a traditional funeral, I'd have a judgement about that, because I'd feel it was disrespectful toward the mourners of the deceased, and I'd feel bad for them. I would think it was wrong of the wearer to show up at such a gathering dressed in a way that might feel insulting or hurtful to people who are grieving. I make judgements about behavior when somebody does something that is bad for me or for someone else. I use my own definition of "bad", of course, and it might not correspond precisely with yours. It generally includes things like harm to someone's body or psyche (ie, abuse or violence), violation of another's boundaries (anything from physical harm, to theft, to restraining someone, curtailing their freedom), dishonesty (including manipulation, outright lies, most lies of omission, and so on), treating someone disrespectfully, harmful neglect. And I'm sure there are many other things, but I can't come up with a comprehensive list off the top of my head. So if you say, "Well, what about X?" I'll probably say, "Yeah, and X, too." But if someone's just doing their own thing and not hurting anyone, then no, I don't make judgements about it. I make a distinction between doing *harm* or being hurtful (the above list) and causing discomfort in others as a result of their not liking who you are. I'm sorry, but we can't live our lives trying to accomodate everyone's every little sensibility. We'd all be paralyzed! I think that's co-dependent and not healthy. No matter what you do, what you enjoy, how you express who you are, there are going to be people who dislike it. That's life. For example, if someone is openly gay, that might make some people uncomfortable, because they're not comfortable with homosexuality. I don't judge the gay person for this - it's the homophobic people's problem. I think people should be able to be who they are, and do what they please, as long as they're not violating other people's human rights, safety, informed consent about participating, and so on. I might have a *feeling* about something a person does, but if they're not hurting anyone, then that's my problem. If they asked for my honest opinion, I might answer truthfully, depending on the circumstances, but otherwise I'd stay out of it. Furthermore, I would not believe, or say to anyone else, that the person *shouldn't* be doing it (eg, wearing something I think is ugly, enjoying music I think is horrible, decorating their house with what I consider hideous objects, etc). Again, a judgement, to me, is "YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING THAT". This applies to all actions that I think are harmful, dishonest, etc (which I detailed above). It means I think the person is *wrong* for doing them, and I think they should stop. An opinion or response to something isn't a judgement, it's just my personal experience of someone else's behavior. I'm entitled to that - we all are. In fact, none of us can help having our reactions, can we? But that doesn't mean I think the person I'm reacting to is *wrong* or should stop. Example: An old woman with varicose veins and age spots all over her wrinkly, flabby legs, who chooses to wear a miniskirt to the mall, is not interfering with anyone's human rights, she's not treating anyone disrespectfully, she's not being dishonest to anyone (at least with respect to the miniskirt ) - so I have no judgement about it. I do not think, "She shouldn't wear that," or "she should know better than to go out in public like that." I might think she looks terrible, but it doesn't matter whether I think she looks good or not. My personal response is irrelevant. we make judgements every day, all the time. Judgements about when it's safe to cross the road, who we will speak to, what tone and topic we will use in conversation, how we interpret ambiguous statements made by others, whether the person approaching us in the street is likely to be a mugger or a lost tourist, whether the person at the reception desk in an office is the receptionist, the computer repair person, or the company owner checking messages. Sure. I didn't say that every kind of judgement is wrong. I just don't see why we need to make negative *moral* judgements of people who are merely expressing who they are in non-harmful, non-interfering ways. It's really not anyone's business. And I hope *that* makes it more clear! Joyce |
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[OT] Age Appropriate Dress?
Adrian wrote:
Last year, I was walking along the beach and came across a _very_ large lady wearing a bikini. I was surprised and a little shoked at first, then I thought, good for her, why worry what other people think if you're comfortable, it certainly doesn't hurt anybody. I think it was very courageous of her to do that, considering that many people aren't as respectful as you were. You might have privately thought she looked bad, but I guarantee she received comments from some clods who were incapable of restraining their opinions. Good for you, too! Joyce |
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