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CatNipped wrote:

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy
about minor problems

Really? Why??

I don't like it when someone tries to manipulate me into listening to
their problems, no matter how minor, with no regard to whether I have the
time or interest. Is that what you mean by the above? Or do you just not
like people who are more emotive than yourself?

You're right, after I wrote that I thought about how callous it sounded - I
*DO* like people who are more emotive than me. This is rather something
that I don't like in *myself* when I do it. I'm more like the male of the
species in that I like to immediately find a solution to a problem rather
than just talking about it (and especially rather than crying about it).

And I need to clarify what I mean by "minor problems". I get impatient with
people who cry about breaking a fingernail when someone else is coping with
the loss of a job or a loved one. And for me, after the things I've been
through in my life, anything less than total disaster is a minor problem.
When I find myself crying real tears just because my boss is being
insensitive, I get very impatient with myself (I think, mygawd, there are
children and animals out there being physically abused and here you are
sniffling about having your feelings hurt by someone you don't even care
about - that sort of thing!).

I think everyone has different thresholds of frustration, anger, and
stress level. And we all have different ways of venting it. Better to
be weepy and whiny than to be like *me*, which is to get cranky and
irritable. You don't want to be around me when I'm overstressed or haven't
had enough sleep. Luckily, I no longer get PMS, or I'd have included that,
too. There are advantages to aging.

Yeah, I can't blame it on PMS either! ;

I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

Our culture is way too focused on the whole "bucking up" thing, if you
ask me. We're soooo uptight about having feelings. Whine a little! Who's
it going to harm? You might even feel better. I think that as long as one
has respect for other people's time and limits, and asks others first if
they're up for listening to us whine (and we get the go-ahead), what's
the problem??

No, that's the problem, I don't feel better, it just *lowers* my self esteem
(I don't know, maybe it was growing up with 2 older brothers and no sisters,
I got teased really badly whenever I cried about getting noogies! ;)

My whole philosophy on life can be summed up as "Bad things happen. You can
either cry about them or laugh about them. Neither reaction will change the
bad thing that happened, but laughing is so much more fun and your nose
won't get red." So when I start crying about the little things in life I
feel like I'm letting myself down.

Joyce - aiming to be one of those long-lived, cranky old ladies. (Yes!
It's
true! There have been studies: grumpy old people live longer than pleasant
ones.)

ROTFLMAO! How true, how true!!

Hugs,

CatNipped

"Steve Touchstone" wrote in message
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On Wed, 20 Oct 2004 08:11:27 GMT, bonbon wrote:

....
I've told the story before about when Rocky pinned two blue jays to
the ground at the same time. Sammy doesn't know birds as prey,
thankfully, since she's known from birth that paying to much attention
to my cockatiels gets her in trouble.
--
Steve Touchstone,

When Cinder was younger and more foolish, she was watching as I enticed some
seagulls with some scraps of food. The gulls were circling and making lots
of noise and catching the food as I threw it into the air. Some would swoop
down and take it from my hand. A few of them landed near me, I suppose,
hoping to get a handout with less effort.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw Cinder pounce on the back of one of the
gulls. The bird was about the same size as the cat and started screaming
and flapping its wings. I thought it was going to take off with Cinder
onboard.
Fortunately, she was just a little too heavy. The gull bounced around, with
Cinder riding, wide-eyed and obviously wondering what a predicament she was
in. I'm sure it seemed longer to her and the gull, but it was only about 15
seconds or so before Cinder let go and slid off, and the gull took wing.
Cinder has never messed with the gulls after that. I hope the gull learned
not to land near a cat.
Annie

"Steve Touchstone" wrote in message
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On Wed, 20 Oct 2004 08:11:27 GMT, bonbon wrote:

....
I've told the story before about when Rocky pinned two blue jays to
the ground at the same time. Sammy doesn't know birds as prey,
thankfully, since she's known from birth that paying to much attention
to my cockatiels gets her in trouble.
--
Steve Touchstone,

When Cinder was younger and more foolish, she was watching as I enticed some
seagulls with some scraps of food. The gulls were circling and making lots
of noise and catching the food as I threw it into the air. Some would swoop
down and take it from my hand. A few of them landed near me, I suppose,
hoping to get a handout with less effort.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw Cinder pounce on the back of one of the
gulls. The bird was about the same size as the cat and started screaming
and flapping its wings. I thought it was going to take off with Cinder
onboard.
Fortunately, she was just a little too heavy. The gull bounced around, with
Cinder riding, wide-eyed and obviously wondering what a predicament she was
in. I'm sure it seemed longer to her and the gull, but it was only about 15
seconds or so before Cinder let go and slid off, and the gull took wing.
Cinder has never messed with the gulls after that. I hope the gull learned
not to land near a cat.
Annie

"Steve Touchstone" wrote in message
...
On Wed, 20 Oct 2004 08:11:27 GMT, bonbon wrote:

....
I've told the story before about when Rocky pinned two blue jays to
the ground at the same time. Sammy doesn't know birds as prey,
thankfully, since she's known from birth that paying to much attention
to my cockatiels gets her in trouble.
--
Steve Touchstone,

When Cinder was younger and more foolish, she was watching as I enticed some
seagulls with some scraps of food. The gulls were circling and making lots
of noise and catching the food as I threw it into the air. Some would swoop
down and take it from my hand. A few of them landed near me, I suppose,
hoping to get a handout with less effort.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw Cinder pounce on the back of one of the
gulls. The bird was about the same size as the cat and started screaming
and flapping its wings. I thought it was going to take off with Cinder
onboard.
Fortunately, she was just a little too heavy. The gull bounced around, with
Cinder riding, wide-eyed and obviously wondering what a predicament she was
in. I'm sure it seemed longer to her and the gull, but it was only about 15
seconds or so before Cinder let go and slid off, and the gull took wing.
Cinder has never messed with the gulls after that. I hope the gull learned
not to land near a cat.
Annie

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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Thanks Nan - I guess I was just being a big ole drama queen (Victor had me
pegged to a tee ;) but, as I explained to Victor I love this group so
much I would throw myself on a live grenade to save it!! ;
.... CatNipped

Wow! That certainly sounds dramatic to me. (And very messy, too.) I think
you need to stay away from grenades.
Annie (grinning)

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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Thanks Nan - I guess I was just being a big ole drama queen (Victor had me
pegged to a tee ;) but, as I explained to Victor I love this group so
much I would throw myself on a live grenade to save it!! ;
.... CatNipped

Wow! That certainly sounds dramatic to me. (And very messy, too.) I think
you need to stay away from grenades.
Annie (grinning)

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
Thanks Nan - I guess I was just being a big ole drama queen (Victor had me
pegged to a tee ;) but, as I explained to Victor I love this group so
much I would throw myself on a live grenade to save it!! ;
.... CatNipped

Wow! That certainly sounds dramatic to me. (And very messy, too.) I think
you need to stay away from grenades.
Annie (grinning)

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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....I've been thinking about doing a "Cooking With Mommy" story about
what I go through when I have to do that culinary chore. I promise to get
right to it this weekend!
CatNipped

Great. I love your Sammy stories. I'll be watching for it.
Annie

"CatNipped" wrote in message
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....I've been thinking about doing a "Cooking With Mommy" story about
what I go through when I have to do that culinary chore. I promise to get
right to it this weekend!
CatNipped

Great. I love your Sammy stories. I'll be watching for it.
Annie

"CatNipped" wrote in message
...
....I've been thinking about doing a "Cooking With Mommy" story about
what I go through when I have to do that culinary chore. I promise to get
right to it this weekend!
CatNipped

Great. I love your Sammy stories. I'll be watching for it.
Annie