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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me?
my girlfriend's cat cannot stand me. he pees on my pillow whenever i visit and jumps on me at 5 a.m. while i'm sleeping. believe me, i'm trying everything to be this cat's best friend: i buy him toys and try to play with him, feed him, pet him etc. if anyone has ever had to deal with this kind of love triangle, can you tell me what you did to improve things? thanks in advance. |
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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me?
the cat is neutered. i can't close the bedroom door because he sleeps in the room. not sure that would go over well with the cat or my girlfriend. On Nov 26, 4:53 pm, "Matthew" wrote: wrote in message ... my girlfriend's cat cannot stand me. he pees on my pillow whenever i visit and jumps on me at 5 a.m. while i'm sleeping. believe me, i'm trying everything to be this cat's best friend: i buy him toys and try to play with him, feed him, pet him etc. if anyone has ever had to deal with this kind of love triangle, can you tell me what you did to improve things? thanks in advance. Is the cat neutered? Can you close the bedroom door |
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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me? (LONG REPLY)
wrote in message ... my girlfriend's cat cannot stand me. he pees on my pillow whenever i visit and jumps on me at 5 a.m. while i'm sleeping. believe me, i'm trying everything to be this cat's best friend: i buy him toys and try to play with him, feed him, pet him etc. if anyone has ever had to deal with this kind of love triangle, can you tell me what you did to improve things? thanks in advance. Hi, first I must commend you for trying to work with this kitty rather than antagonize him and make things worse! So, explain in more detail what you do when you interact with this cat and what his reactions are; it sounds like you're doing a lot of good stuff, especially in playing with him and giving him positive attention. Do he seem to enjoy playing (what kind of playing -- a string, feather wand, laser pointer ...?) One thing I'd suggest is that kitties are definitely creatures of habit and if you establish a play/feeding/treat routine with him on a daily basis I can't help but think you'll make progress with him. The waking up at 5 a.m. part I don't know if this is something directed just at you as my 4 cats all conspire to wake me up at 5 a.m., too. What do you do when he does this? In my household they know they're about to get fed soon and that precipitates a lot of this (also how do you tell a cat that daylight savings time has ended?). A question about the pillow that gets peed on -- do you get brand new pillows every time or do you try to wash out the old one? You can try washing them with an enzymatic pet odor cleaner like Nature's Miracle or Petzyme for Cats (both you can get from Petsmart) but in the end you may want to check out putting a new pillow out and maybe covering it and the area of the bed you're sleeping on with aluminum foil - some cats don't like the sound or feel of foil... When I took a new cat into my household years ago, one of mine protested by peeing on my pillow nightly, too -- I had a pillow graveyard on my patio by the time I got things sorted out; I used the foil and kind of burned out on Nature's Miracle at the time, too. But things got better over time and later on the 2 cats became friends, more or less. Could there be some cat pee residual that ended up on the mattress (hopefully not, but if so, it might explain the re-marking of the area) -- another thing I did at the time was buy a waterproof crib sheet that I put over the mattress for awhile. Do you have any pets of your own whose scent might be on you/your clothes? I can also give you the email address of a cat rescue acquaintance of mine who has a lot of experience with cat behavior issues; I'll email you this separately. hope this might help, don't give up... regards, Christine |
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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me? (LONG REPLY)
On Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:14:51 -0700, Christine Burel wrote:
A question about the pillow that gets peed on -- do you get brand new pillows every time or do you try to wash out the old one? I just wash the water-proof pillow protector. They and waterproof mattress pads are available in breathable treated fabric and plastic sheet types. Personally, I don't like the plastic film type, but they are much cheaper. I couldn't live with cats without both. -- T.E.D. ) UMR becomes MST soon. |
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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me?
wrote in message ... my girlfriend's cat cannot stand me. he pees on my pillow whenever i visit and jumps on me at 5 a.m. while i'm sleeping. believe me, i'm trying everything to be this cat's best friend: i buy him toys and try to play with him, feed him, pet him etc. if anyone has ever had to deal with this kind of love triangle, can you tell me what you did to improve things? thanks in advance. We never had a problem as I've only once met a dog or cat that didn't adore Charlie. (Where cats are concerned there will always be at least one exception to everything) For starters you need to look at your attitude. Ugh and knife are agressive words. Then I'd recommend you stop trying. It may make points with your girlfriend but it won't make any points with most cats. Let him come to you. And don't worry about being his best friend. It will be his choice. The 5am thing BTW is just normal cat behavior. You may learn to sleep though it. Or not. Jo |
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ugh, this kitty wants to knife me?
thanks very much, folks, for all the great help. let me try to begin to answer some questions. i play with him with a laser pointer and a feather toy that he digs but i don't remember the name of it. yeah, i like cats, though maybe he senses i've only owned dogs. still, even if he judges me to be a shady character, he seems to put it aside when i have the laser pointer or some other toys. i haven't asked my girlfriend how she'd feel about shutting the cat out, but i'm not sure i want to at this point since it sounds like it might only make matters worse between us (me and the kitty). i'd kind of like to coexist peacefully. but she seems to think things will improve, particularly if i were a more regular member of the household. but we seem to take a step back before taking any step forward. as far as cleaning the pillow, we just through it in the wash. it didn't seem like he missed the pillow (gosh, i hope he didn't). but he's peed only on my pillow and he's jumped only on me. the thing is, i could swear it's almost a man-of-the-household thing, even though that might sound goofy. he's a beautiful black cat and he likes to hunt. he brings back field mice and leaves on in the dogs bag of dog food while leaving another in my girlfriend's backpack. it's almost like he's the provider and he's packing lunches for them. so i can't help but feel like we have a little love triangle going on here even though i'm happy to cede the head-of-household title to him or anyone else there who's a permanent resident. am i reading too much into this? thanks very much, everyone, for your help and suggestions. appreciate it. |
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