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Boyfie is in a bad mood
Because I've had a day at the seaside and left him.
He had to be fed very early, just after 6 a.m. - which he enjoyed of course and ate it all up. I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. I got back and he was out. This is a sign he is not best pleased as he always know the second I come home . He came in when I shut Francis Drake up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear about his wet food when I came in. He sneered at it and went back outside in a huff. I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. Two can play at that game, though. If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
Christina Websell wrote:
I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. I got back and he was out. This is a sign he is not best pleased as he always know the second I come home . He came in when I shut Francis Drake up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear about his wet food when I came in. He sneered at it and went back outside in a huff. I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. Two can play at that game, though. If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. They'll rule your life if you do. Christina, you're more manipulated when you do it this way. I mean, you're engaging in a battle of wills with a *cat*. I think you're anthropomorphizing just a bit. I doubt that cats have the same motivations for such behaviors that humans do. Why engage with him as though he were a recalcitrant child? He's not a human at all. Why not try to make life as easy for him as possible, without (1) sacrificing your own occasional pleasures, even if it means you're sometimes gone longer than he wants you to be, and (2) giving him more food than you think he should have? Within those restrictions, I think you could just "let the baby have his bottle", as we used to say. Why engage with him? The cat has you hooked into his battle-of-wills game. Joyce -- In war, there are no unwounded soldiers. -- Jose Narosky |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
On Aug 15, 8:42*pm, wrote:
Christina Websell wrote: * I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. * I got back and he was out. *This is a sign he is not best pleased as he * always know the second I come home . *He came in when I shut Francis Drake * up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) * Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear * about his wet food when I came in. *He sneered at it and went back outside * in a huff. * I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. * Two can play at that game, though. *If he does not come in before I go to * bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the * morning. * He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't * play, either with dogs or cats. *They'll rule your life if you do. Christina, you're more manipulated when you do it this way. I mean, you're engaging in a battle of wills with a *cat*. I think you're anthropomorphizing just a bit. I doubt that cats have the same motivations for such behaviors that humans do. Why engage with him as though he were a recalcitrant child? He's not a human at all. Why not try to make life as easy for him as possible, without (1) sacrificing your own occasional pleasures, even if it means you're sometimes gone longer than he wants you to be, and (2) giving him more food than you think he should have? Within those restrictions, I think you could just "let the baby have his bottle", as we used to say. Why engage with him? The cat has you hooked into his battle-of-wills game. Joyce -- In war, there are no unwounded soldiers. * * * * *-- Jose Narosky I love my cats and spoil them dearly. They're highly intelligent creatures, but no, they aren't humans, and they're not dogs either. I don't think he's going to put 2+2 together, and think "Gee, I stayed out too late, thus my supper has disappeared. I'll remember next time to behave more appropriately and eat my supper with gratitude the moment it is served." I don't think a cat's reasoning abilities are that advanced. You really can't control a cat in that fashion. I just spoil 'em and love 'em and don't try to control behavior simply because it's behavior I don't like. I can control (to a certain degree) inappropriate scratching, etc. but honestly. I can't control whether they eat when they're told to, or give me the "ear". Nor would I want to. Cats are independent creatures and free spirits. I like them that way. Sherry |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
and if you catch it early it can be dealt with, with as many as i have and
Tiger being nurotic its a bit more difficult, and the others try and play his games but i don't deal the same with them, its weird to see DH says the others are like wtf on their face when they get a different reaction than he does, Lee "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... Because I've had a day at the seaside and left him. He had to be fed very early, just after 6 a.m. - which he enjoyed of course and ate it all up. I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. I got back and he was out. This is a sign he is not best pleased as he always know the second I come home . He came in when I shut Francis Drake up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear about his wet food when I came in. He sneered at it and went back outside in a huff. I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. Two can play at that game, though. If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
"Christina Websell" wrote in
: Because I've had a day at the seaside and left him. He had to be fed very early, just after 6 a.m. - which he enjoyed of course and ate it all up. I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. I got back and he was out. This is a sign he is not best pleased as he always know the second I come home . He came in when I shut Francis Drake up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear about his wet food when I came in. He sneered at it and went back outside in a huff. I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. Two can play at that game, though. If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed I see things differently. I spoil my cat within reason and as long as it doesn't affect his health. He's the last cat I will own (due to my age and circumstances), and I can't bear the thought of how sad I will be when he's gone to the RB and I can't have any more cats to make me happy. I want him to be the happiest cat on earth. He deserves it for all the pleasure he gives me. Bobble |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
Bobble wrote:
"Christina Websell" wrote in : Because I've had a day at the seaside and left him. He had to be fed very early, just after 6 a.m. - which he enjoyed of course and ate it all up. I left him with some dry food as I knew I'd be back late, around 10 pm. I got back and he was out. This is a sign he is not best pleased as he always know the second I come home . He came in when I shut Francis Drake up and I gave him his wet food (the same food he loved this morning.) Not only had he not touched his dry food all day but he gave me the ear about his wet food when I came in. He sneered at it and went back outside in a huff. I know why, he's annoyed I left him for so long. Two can play at that game, though. If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed I see things differently. I spoil my cat within reason and as long as it doesn't affect his health. He's the last cat I will own (due to my age and circumstances), and I can't bear the thought of how sad I will be when he's gone to the RB and I can't have any more cats to make me happy. I want him to be the happiest cat on earth. He deserves it for all the pleasure he gives me. Bobble Good for you. I try to accommodate TuTu wants as best I can. Tweed's Boyfie had probably had his fill of bugs or a mouse and really didn't feel like eating at the time. Best wishes. MLB |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
Two can play at that game, though. *If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. *They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed The Princess Rita scolds me at the top of her lungs for at least half an hour when I'm gone, whether it's just for a regular day of work or being out on a weekend day. The scolding does get louder and longer when I'm gone longer, though. I was out ALL DAY on saturday, and thought I'd never hear the end of it! I love her, though, and even her scolding sounds like music to my ears. Jane - owned and operated by the Princess Rita |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
On Aug 17, 4:15*am, LadyJane wrote:
Two can play at that game, though. *If he does not come in before I go to bed and eat his supper, I shall take it up and he'll go without until the morning. He's starting to get quite manipulative and that's a game I definitely don't play, either with dogs or cats. *They'll rule your life if you do. Tweed The Princess Rita scolds me at the top of her lungs for at least half an hour when I'm gone, whether it's just for a regular day of work or being out on a weekend day. *The scolding does get louder and longer when I'm gone longer, though. *I was out ALL DAY on saturday, and thought I'd never hear the end of it! I love her, though, and even her scolding sounds like music to my ears. Jane - owned and operated by the Princess Rita My Smokie does that. When we get back from a trip, she follows us around, constantly complaining. I think she is telling on the others, since she appears to enjoy doing that. You know, "You left me alone. And they were chasing me. And they were trying to bite me. And they got in the cupboard. And they pulled my whiskers. And they threatened me. And they wouldn't let me eat my food. And they wouldn't let me sleep on the bed. And they..." Well, you get the idea. However, back to Tweed's post. I've never had one say no to food (and it isn't like they aren't being fed, it just isn't meowmie and paw making it, so they tend to stick their noses up at it), then again, my furkids are all innies. Most are not even remotely interested in the "Big Out", unless there is glass or screening between them and it. |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
wrote in message ... Christina Websell wrote: . I doubt that cats have the same motivations for such behaviors that humans do. Why engage with him as though he were a recalcitrant child? He's not a human at all. Why not try to make life as easy for him as possible, without (1) sacrificing your own occasional pleasures, even if it means you're sometimes gone longer than he wants you to be, and (2) giving him more food than you think he should have? Within those restrictions, I think you could just "let the baby have his bottle", as we used to say. Why engage with him? The cat has you hooked into his battle-of-wills game. You are suggesting that I allow him to run this house. This ain't gonna happen. If I gave him as much food as he demands he'd become obese, that isn't going to happen either. If my neighbour went away and I fed her cat, the cat would turn her back on them for at least a day when they came home. They were not spoken to. Which is what Boyfie was doing. I was gone too long and he made it clear he didn't like it. Tweed |
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Boyfie is in a bad mood
tweed while you are stricter than i am, i do understand that you must make
the best choices for boyfriend and those chices include your mental well being, while cats and dogs are not humans, one of the reasons they live with us and we love them, and for my part i think they in some ways return that love, is the many personality traits we have in common. If TV were an only cat, i would carefully monitor his food to prove to myself his weight issues aren't from over feeding, but from DH watching him i am sure for him it is a metabolic issue... but agin i made the best choices for the entire household, it does appear that the smarter the cat the more they try and manipulate, Lee "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... wrote in message ... Christina Websell wrote: . I doubt that cats have the same motivations for such behaviors that humans do. Why engage with him as though he were a recalcitrant child? He's not a human at all. Why not try to make life as easy for him as possible, without (1) sacrificing your own occasional pleasures, even if it means you're sometimes gone longer than he wants you to be, and (2) giving him more food than you think he should have? Within those restrictions, I think you could just "let the baby have his bottle", as we used to say. Why engage with him? The cat has you hooked into his battle-of-wills game. You are suggesting that I allow him to run this house. This ain't gonna happen. If I gave him as much food as he demands he'd become obese, that isn't going to happen either. If my neighbour went away and I fed her cat, the cat would turn her back on them for at least a day when they came home. They were not spoken to. Which is what Boyfie was doing. I was gone too long and he made it clear he didn't like it. Tweed |
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