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helping a cat process a death?
We have the two calicos, Gracie and Jenny, sisters from the same
litter, two and a half years old. We did, rather. Today, Jenny passed away. I found her lying there, did artificial respiration, rushed her to a vet who pronounced her dead, probably of a heart attack. Before we did the cremation route, I brought the body home. My wife spent time cuddling her, and suggested something ... her idea was to have Gracie see the body, sniff it, investigate it. Gracie did indeed investigate. Probably recognized the death smell, - and- the Jenny smell, and put two and two together. She seems to know, Jenny is passed on. . . . After a while, Gracie went across the room, and sat and watched us for a while. I've brought the body to be cremated, and am back home. After that, Gracie has been staying close to us. Sitting next to me while I am at the computer. Lying next to my wife as she took a nap. The question is: .... What do you all do with a cat who has lost her companion? We had the two of them so they could play together. They've never been separated. Now Gracie will have the whole house to roam around in by herself. My wife is talking of getting another two and a half year old, definately not a kitten. Me, I don't know. Please let me know your thoughts. All three of us seem to miss Jenny terribly already. Tom |
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I am sorry for your loss. Animals do grieve so it may not be unusual for
Gracie to be experiencing some grief. I have read stories about the other animal not eating, etc. You may want to give her a little time and see how she does. But when she and you are ready, adopting another cat would be a good thing to do. S. "Tom+Gracie+Jenny" wrote in message ... We have the two calicos, Gracie and Jenny, sisters from the same litter, two and a half years old. We did, rather. Today, Jenny passed away. I found her lying there, did artificial respiration, rushed her to a vet who pronounced her dead, probably of a heart attack. Before we did the cremation route, I brought the body home. My wife spent time cuddling her, and suggested something ... her idea was to have Gracie see the body, sniff it, investigate it. Gracie did indeed investigate. Probably recognized the death smell, - and- the Jenny smell, and put two and two together. She seems to know, Jenny is passed on. . . . After a while, Gracie went across the room, and sat and watched us for a while. I've brought the body to be cremated, and am back home. After that, Gracie has been staying close to us. Sitting next to me while I am at the computer. Lying next to my wife as she took a nap. The question is: ... What do you all do with a cat who has lost her companion? We had the two of them so they could play together. They've never been separated. Now Gracie will have the whole house to roam around in by herself. My wife is talking of getting another two and a half year old, definately not a kitten. Me, I don't know. Please let me know your thoughts. All three of us seem to miss Jenny terribly already. Tom |
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helping a cat process a death?
My older cats died. One was Pickles best friend. She had been in and out
of the house near the end due to being at the vet. When Pickle's realized her friend wasn't coming home any more, she sort of looked at me like "what am I supposed to do, now." She actually seemed to lose her coordination and I rushed her to the vet. He gave her a shot, (steroid) and then she was okay. Being down to one cat, I drove Pickles down to Florida from NY for a month to stay at a beach-side cottage. I promised her I would get her a new friend when we returned home and I did. When she saw her new friend she huffed and puffed and put on a big mad act but I knew she was pleased as punch underneath it all. Two days and they were completely bonded. (Pickles was 5 at the time and the new cat 6 months old.) Barb |
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On Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:00:01 -0700 (PDT), "Tom+Gracie+Jenny"
wrote: We have the two calicos, Gracie and Jenny, sisters from the same litter, two and a half years old. We did, rather. Today, Jenny passed away. I found her lying there, did artificial respiration, rushed her to a vet who pronounced her dead, probably of a heart attack. Before we did the cremation route, I brought the body home. My wife spent time cuddling her, and suggested something ... her idea was to have Gracie see the body, sniff it, investigate it. Gracie did indeed investigate. Probably recognized the death smell, - and- the Jenny smell, and put two and two together. She seems to know, Jenny is passed on. . . . After a while, Gracie went across the room, and sat and watched us for a while. I've brought the body to be cremated, and am back home. After that, Gracie has been staying close to us. Sitting next to me while I am at the computer. Lying next to my wife as she took a nap. The question is: ... What do you all do with a cat who has lost her companion? We had the two of them so they could play together. They've never been separated. Now Gracie will have the whole house to roam around in by herself. My wife is talking of getting another two and a half year old, definately not a kitten. Me, I don't know. Please let me know your thoughts. All three of us seem to miss Jenny terribly already. Tom I did the same sort of thing. My first two cats were brothers, and when one died I took the other to see his body (it was at the vet) and he freaked out a bit but definitely understood what had happened. I think that was better than his brother just disappearing. I haven't done it since, but those two were very close. As for what to do now, I would bring in another young cat with the usual slow introduction. Gracie is young enough to easily tolerate another cat. |
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I am thanking everyone for the sympathies and the wisdom. My wife is
sad about this, and it hits me at times as well. As for Gracie . . . well, on the one hand, she does not act like she is grieving, and does act like she is enjoying the extra attention. On the other hand . . . her big solution is to want us to be the ones to play with her a lot now. We oblige as much as we can, but we can't afford to have productive times at the computer turn into romp-times on her say-so. At least not too often. So, taking it one day at a time, she seems to be adjusting for now, but we still don't know what is down the road here for her. And we two humans are going to be okay. * * * * * We two are still straddling the only-cat / get-a-cat fence. I'm up for whatever will be best for Gracie, and Gracie herself is in "good- but-thoughtful" spirits presently. For a while, during our marriage, we had birds instead of cats. Birds die almost regularly, but they are more extremely social animals than cats. And it went on for years and years ... we had A+B so they'd be together, but A died, so we got C so B+C would be together, but then B died and we had to get D so C+D would be together ... on and on. At least with cats, we would expect to measure the spans in something like a decade. We are spending lots of time now with Gracie. tom |
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On Oct 13, 5:00*pm, "Tom+Gracie+Jenny" wrote:
We have the two calicos, Gracie and Jenny, sisters from the same litter, two and a half years old. We did, rather. *Today, Jenny passed away. *I found her lying there, did artificial respiration, rushed her to a vet who pronounced her dead, probably of a heart attack. Before we did the cremation route, I brought the body home. *My wife spent time cuddling her, and suggested something ... her idea was to have Gracie see the body, sniff it, investigate it. Gracie did indeed investigate. *Probably recognized the death smell, - and- the Jenny smell, and put two and two together. *She seems to know, Jenny is passed on. . . . After a while, Gracie went across the room, and sat and watched us for a while. I've brought the body to be cremated, and am back home. After that, Gracie has been staying close to us. *Sitting next to me while I am at the computer. *Lying next to my wife as she took a nap. The question is: ... What do you all do with a cat who has lost her companion? We had the two of them so they could play together. *They've never been separated. *Now Gracie will have the whole house to roam around in by herself. My wife is talking of getting another two and a half year old, definately not a kitten. Me, I don't know. *Please let me know your thoughts. *All three of us seem to miss Jenny terribly already. Tom Cats are just dumb animals. No matter how much you wish it weren't so. They don't care about that which they can scarcely understand. They have the brain cavity the size of a kumquat. Quit trying to read things into situations that simply are not there. The Nice Mean Man http://www.careerbuilder.com/monk-e-mail/?mid=28345951 |
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helping a cat process a death?
"The Nice Mean Man" **** OFF YOU ASSHOLE |
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helping a cat process a death?
On Oct 16, 11:02*am, "Matthew"
wrote: "The Nice Mean Man" **** OFF YOU ASSHOLE SUCK A BIG HAIRY COCK, YOU USELESS FAGGOT |
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