Mom is worried, need some Purrs (OT)

Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

Mom said he hasn't left the house in 5 days. He just sits in bed, reading.
Dad has always been very active. At the very least he'll get up and watch
the news and read a book while watching TV (and call me to fuss at me about
my job situation). Mom says he doesn't even have the energy to do that.

She's worried about him. At the same time, I think she has resigned herself
to the fact that she's going to be a widow sometime soon. When I told her I
wished there was something I could do to help she said, "Jill, there's
nothing anyone can do." Fatalistic, if you get my drift.

Purrs please, for my dear old Dad... he's a pain in the ass but I know I'm
going to lose him soon. Purrs for my Mom, too, who has been married to him
for over 50 years. But she's strong... she'll manage. I'll help her.

Jill

Lots of purrs and best wishes for your dad to regain his energy,
Polonca and Soncek

jmcquown wrote:

Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

Mom said he hasn't left the house in 5 days. He just sits in bed, reading.
Dad has always been very active. snip

"jmcquown" wrote in message
...
Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his
legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

Mom said he hasn't left the house in 5 days. He just sits in bed,
reading.
Dad has always been very active. At the very least he'll get up and watch
the news and read a book while watching TV (and call me to fuss at me
about
my job situation). Mom says he doesn't even have the energy to do that.

She's worried about him. At the same time, I think she has resigned
herself
to the fact that she's going to be a widow sometime soon. When I told her
I
wished there was something I could do to help she said, "Jill, there's
nothing anyone can do." Fatalistic, if you get my drift.

Purrs please, for my dear old Dad... he's a pain in the ass but I know I'm
going to lose him soon. Purrs for my Mom, too, who has been married to
him
for over 50 years. But she's strong... she'll manage. I'll help her.

Jill



I just had a talk with my "kids" to send purrs your way. Purrs for Miss
Persia & Peaches, too, in case you end up relocating to help out.

kili

jmcquown wrote:
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Purrs please, for my dear old Dad... he's a pain in the ass but I
know I'm going to lose him soon. Purrs for my Mom, too, who has been
married to him for over 50 years. But she's strong... she'll manage.
I'll help her.

Jill

Lots of purrs for your Dad, most of them are a pain in the ass sometimes,
but you only get one. Purrs for your Mom too.
--
Adrian (Owned by Snoopy and Bagheera)
A House is not a home, without a cat.
http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk

"jmcquown" wrote

Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

Purrs for a smooth transition when it becomes due time

Gordon & the FF

On Sun, 20 Nov 2005 03:24:09 -0600, "jmcquown"
yodeled:

Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

Mom said he hasn't left the house in 5 days. He just sits in bed, reading.
Dad has always been very active. At the very least he'll get up and watch
the news and read a book while watching TV (and call me to fuss at me about
my job situation). Mom says he doesn't even have the energy to do that.

She's worried about him. At the same time, I think she has resigned herself
to the fact that she's going to be a widow sometime soon. When I told her I
wished there was something I could do to help she said, "Jill, there's
nothing anyone can do." Fatalistic, if you get my drift.

Purrs please, for my dear old Dad... he's a pain in the ass but I know I'm
going to lose him soon. Purrs for my Mom, too, who has been married to him
for over 50 years. But she's strong... she'll manage. I'll help her.

Jill


Oh Jill. I am so sorry. I don't know of anything I am more afraid of,
for myself or my family, than Alzheimers. Purrs for your mom, and
you, too.


Theresa
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Make Levees, Not War

On Sun, 20 Nov 2005 03:24:09 -0600, jmcquown wrote:

Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've got all of the furkids revved up and purring their best for your dad
and the rest of your family.

Dan

jmcquown wrote:
Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

Mom said he hasn't left the house in 5 days. He just sits in bed, reading.
Dad has always been very active. At the very least he'll get up and watch
the news and read a book while watching TV (and call me to fuss at me about
my job situation). Mom says he doesn't even have the energy to do that.

She's worried about him. At the same time, I think she has resigned herself
to the fact that she's going to be a widow sometime soon. When I told her I
wished there was something I could do to help she said, "Jill, there's
nothing anyone can do." Fatalistic, if you get my drift.

Purrs please, for my dear old Dad... he's a pain in the ass but I know I'm
going to lose him soon. Purrs for my Mom, too, who has been married to him
for over 50 years. But she's strong... she'll manage. I'll help her.

Jill

Purrs for you, your Mom, and your Dad too. Maybe his health problems
and not feeling well has caused depression to set in. Your mom is kind
of right, though. You can only do so much. We practically hog-tied my
father and took him to a geriatric psychiatrist. They gave him Effexor
and it worked *wonders*. Until he decided six months ago he wasn't
going to take it anymore. Now he is worse than he was before. I can't
make him take his meds. You just try the best you can. Good luck.

Sherry

"jmcquown" wrote in message
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Mom called me yesterday and said my dad is "not doing well".

I've already acknowledged he is in early stages of altzheimers. He's a
lymphoma survivor and has also had two surgeries for blockages in his
legs,
one of which didn't "take" so they did a vein graft from one leg and
rerouted the artery in the other one.

snip
Jill



The one type of "interference" I would recommend for you and your siblings
is to *insist* that your father have a complete medical checkup. You can't
simply assume that he has Alzheimer's unless he has had that diagnosis
(which is still based on an evaluation because AFAIK there still is no
"test" for Alzheimer's). However, there are many other medical conditions
that can cause similar problems, and your reference to previous surgeries
could be a indicator of some of them (poor circulation, for example, or
ischemic strokes). Make sure he is checked to rule out the possibility of
something that could be treated or at least delayed.

I know how hard this is. My father had triple bypass surgery when that was
still a "new" procedure but lived 25 years. Each trip to the hospital was
painful for all of us and reminded us of how short life is.

MaryL

MaryL wrote:
The one type of "interference" I would recommend for you and your siblings
is to *insist* that your father have a complete medical checkup. You can't
simply assume that he has Alzheimer's unless he has had that diagnosis
(which is still based on an evaluation because AFAIK there still is no
"test" for Alzheimer's). However, there are many other medical conditions
that can cause similar problems, and your reference to previous surgeries
could be a indicator of some of them (poor circulation, for example, or
ischemic strokes).

That is a good point, Mary. Especially when vascular problems are
already present in the legs, the carotid artery can become occluded and
it really impairs the person's ability to think clearly. Symptoms are a
lot like alzheimers.

Sherry