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Ex-owner says se wants to
be outside---I do not and will not allow that. Oh, man, that sounds familiar. I've already posted to you about my son's cat. This is *exactly* what the deal is with him. I don't let him out here because he isn't familiar with my house and might get lost. He is allowed to go outside at home. So he turns into the cat from hell. He's a perfect gentleman at home. It would be good if there was a nice, adults-only, rural home she could go to and have outdoor access for a couple hours a day. Poor Emma. And poor you. I hope you're able to come to a good solution for both of you. Sherry Have had cats for 50 yrs---hate for them to go outside----Has been given good vet care---no illnesses---nothing---I don't think this is fair to Mimi she was in my lap one hour and kissing---loving me. What have I got myself into. Thank you guys so much. Joan self |
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Ex-owner says se wants to
be outside---I do not and will not allow that. Oh, man, that sounds familiar. I've already posted to you about my son's cat. This is *exactly* what the deal is with him. I don't let him out here because he isn't familiar with my house and might get lost. He is allowed to go outside at home. So he turns into the cat from hell. He's a perfect gentleman at home. It would be good if there was a nice, adults-only, rural home she could go to and have outdoor access for a couple hours a day. Poor Emma. And poor you. I hope you're able to come to a good solution for both of you. Sherry Have had cats for 50 yrs---hate for them to go outside----Has been given good vet care---no illnesses---nothing---I don't think this is fair to Mimi she was in my lap one hour and kissing---loving me. What have I got myself into. Thank you guys so much. Joan self |
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"Annie Wxill" wrote in message ... Good luck. You are kind to take these cats in. It was very unfair if the previous owner knowingly kept from you information that you need to know about this cat's behavior. Not to mention, why the hell did the previous owner keep the *&$% cat for 16 years and A) not rectify the bad behavior and B) give the cat up! |
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"Annie Wxill" wrote in message ... Good luck. You are kind to take these cats in. It was very unfair if the previous owner knowingly kept from you information that you need to know about this cat's behavior. Not to mention, why the hell did the previous owner keep the *&$% cat for 16 years and A) not rectify the bad behavior and B) give the cat up! |
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"Annie Wxill" wrote in message ... Good luck. You are kind to take these cats in. It was very unfair if the previous owner knowingly kept from you information that you need to know about this cat's behavior. Not to mention, why the hell did the previous owner keep the *&$% cat for 16 years and A) not rectify the bad behavior and B) give the cat up! |
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wrote in message ... In searching for the best cat info--picked your group. I am sitting here, bloody-hurt-- and oh so sad. I just wanted to say that I am really sorry the cat hurt your mother and that you are getting all of this grief instead of the joy that rescuing cats can bring. You clearly are a loving, good cat mom and you deserve better. I have never dealt with a truly vicious animan--just a REALLY MEAN one that loved me and so usually pulled her "punches," so to speak. I imagine it feels like a slap in the face. Poor kitty, too, who knows what she has been through to make her that way. I agree with you that she should not be let out if you live in an area where cars travel through. If you must rehome her as a barncat via a shelter, or even if you must return her to a death sentence, you cannot risk injury to you, your mother, or your other loved ones. I hope someone here can help you to find a solution. |
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wrote in message ... In searching for the best cat info--picked your group. I am sitting here, bloody-hurt-- and oh so sad. I just wanted to say that I am really sorry the cat hurt your mother and that you are getting all of this grief instead of the joy that rescuing cats can bring. You clearly are a loving, good cat mom and you deserve better. I have never dealt with a truly vicious animan--just a REALLY MEAN one that loved me and so usually pulled her "punches," so to speak. I imagine it feels like a slap in the face. Poor kitty, too, who knows what she has been through to make her that way. I agree with you that she should not be let out if you live in an area where cars travel through. If you must rehome her as a barncat via a shelter, or even if you must return her to a death sentence, you cannot risk injury to you, your mother, or your other loved ones. I hope someone here can help you to find a solution. |
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wrote in message ... In searching for the best cat info--picked your group. I am sitting here, bloody-hurt-- and oh so sad. I just wanted to say that I am really sorry the cat hurt your mother and that you are getting all of this grief instead of the joy that rescuing cats can bring. You clearly are a loving, good cat mom and you deserve better. I have never dealt with a truly vicious animan--just a REALLY MEAN one that loved me and so usually pulled her "punches," so to speak. I imagine it feels like a slap in the face. Poor kitty, too, who knows what she has been through to make her that way. I agree with you that she should not be let out if you live in an area where cars travel through. If you must rehome her as a barncat via a shelter, or even if you must return her to a death sentence, you cannot risk injury to you, your mother, or your other loved ones. I hope someone here can help you to find a solution. |
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In article ,
enlightened us with... I adopted 2 beautiful short hair girls. They were due to be put down . Owner did not tell me one is unbelievable. Maybe she wasn't - with her owner. You are a stranger. No matter how long you've had her, until she trusts you, you're a stranger. I have only seen 1 trully visous(sp) cat in my life. Haven't met my Rowan. *g* Lovely cat. To me. Has big red letters that say I BITE on her vet chart. Well the battle started when we brought them to their new home- Separate carrying cases---all the best---my 90 yrs old Mom went to round up Hell cat. Why? Round up from where? Did she corner a terrified cat and expect it not to lash out? She attached. Ok--I forgave--new everything etc. Next time someone let her out Let her out where? Outside, or out of a room? Where was she? the help of a big man I got her back inside. Why did she need to go "back inside"? Did she get outside the house? A few bites drew blood---Okay, today had to gently put flea collor on---all hell broke loose. Again, why a collar? The neck is the most sensitive thing for an animal. Many animals will bite if you touch their necks if they don't know and trust you. Grabbing a cat by the scruff or any part of the neck is either dominance, discipline, or an attack to their way of thinking. Only ultra-domesticated and VERY trusting cats will quietly allow a strange, non-trusted human to handle them and put something around their neck. Think about what you are doing - from the cat's POV. A few fleas on her is preferable to destroying your chance at earning her trust. Leave off the meds she doesn't absolutely HAVE to have (all, hopefully) until she trusts you. Handling her roughly, which I assume must be done to subdue her to medicate her, would reduce her trust even more. I have done everything I know to win her over Have you left her alone? We need a lot more info here to really be of help. How long has she been with you? How old is she? Where does she usually stay? (in a room, outside, in the basement, huddled in a favorite corner...?) Have you given her time to adjust by just leaving her alone and letting her come to you? Or have you always tried to approach her? Many cats don't like or trust strangers. My girls would have a fit if I dumped them at a strange house and then the human there tried to pick them up. My boy Jeffrey would be scared, but probably love you anyway. Rowan would flay you to pieces with teeth and claws. Isis would flay you accidentally as she tried to flee out of your arms, but probably wouldn't hurt you on purpose. Is there some reason you feel the need to approach her? Why can't she live with you, free from being approached at all until such time as she chooses to initiate it? I don't know enough about your situation to know these answers, so please give us more details. As much as you can. The more you tell us, the more we can help. In the meantime, a few helpful hints on how to get my Rowan to allow you (a stranger) to touch her, in the hopes that it might give you some insight with your new girl. 1. Don't ever move towards her. Let her come sniff you. It may take awhile. Like, hours. If you move towards her, you're done for the day. She'll take off and go hide and won't come out until you're gone. 2. Don't look right in her eyes. 3. Don't talk loudly, don't move suddenly. 4. Don't EVER try to pick her up or restrain her in any way. 5. DO offer her food. 6. When offering food, toss it in her general direction, but not AT her. Don't expect her to take it from you. She won't. 7. DO speak softly and in a higher-than-normal tone of voice to her, much like you would to an infant. Kissy noises optional. *grin* 8. DO bring out the flashy kitty ribbon toy, but don't try to grab her as soon as she decides it's okay to play with it. Just play and then leave her be. Don't try to touch her right away. It took my Mom 4 hours to get the cat to sniff her foot. It took the little neighbor boy 5 minutes (for the foot-sniffing thing) when she was outside on lead. Why? Because he was busy playing - ignoring her. She was interested in his ball and not threatened in any way. As soon as he tried to pet her, though, that was it. She moved off. Had he remained still, she might have gotten even closer. Don't give up on your girl. She doesn't understand what's happened. She's only doing what she feels she must. So, it's up to you to find out why she feels she must, then go about winning her over HER way. Like humans, cats are unique beings. It may take weeks for her to trust you enough to sniff you now - be patient. I hope everything works out for all of you. -- -- ~kaeli~ "No matter what happens, somebody will find a way to take it too seriously." http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace |
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