Interesting Henry update: possible adoption

"KellyH" wrote in message
...
"Mary" wrote
This is exactly what Brian did and why he doesn't want to let go of
Henry.
He felt this woman's ambivalence--that is what really seemed to bother
him--
and I cannot imagine he will be happy sending Henry to her. Because he
loves
Henry.


Why are you making this even harder? Have you ever done an adoption? Do
you deal with people who are looking to adopt after losing a cat? It is
very common for someone not to act over the moon about a cat on the first
meeting.
If it is NOT working out at Brian's home, and he's losing sleep over it,
and
there is another good home lined up, why shouldn't he do this? I don't
get
it. I wouldn't keep a cat that is making my other cats miserable.
Sometimes it just doesn't work.
--

I understand that you feel this way. I also understand Brian's
fear that nobody will love and care for Henry as he does.

KellyH Wrote:
Why are you making this even harder?
Have you ever done an adoption? Do you
deal with people who are looking to adopt
after losing a cat? It is very common for
someone not to act over the moon about a
cat on the first meeting.
If it is NOT working out at Brian's home,
and he's losing sleep over it, and there is
another good home lined up, why
shouldn't he do this? I don't get it.

This is one of the many perfect examples of the vast, unadulterated evil
Mary perpetrates on a daily basis. Her response has nothing to do with
any genuine concern for Brian, Henry or their welfare. Her only reason
for doing this is because I'm involved and her vendetta against me
outweighs everything, even if it means jeopardizing what will be a
better situation until a wonderful and permanent home is found for
Henry. Fortunately for Henry, Brian is too smart to fall for her
garbage.

Megan



"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do
nothing."

-Edmund Burke

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splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then
providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and
material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his
way."

- W.H. Murray

On Tue, 8 Mar 2005 15:05:24 -0500, "Mary"
wrote:


"KellyH" wrote in message
...
"Mary" wrote
This is exactly what Brian did and why he doesn't want to let go of
Henry.
He felt this woman's ambivalence--that is what really seemed to bother
him--
and I cannot imagine he will be happy sending Henry to her. Because he
loves
Henry.


Why are you making this even harder? Have you ever done an adoption? Do
you deal with people who are looking to adopt after losing a cat? It is
very common for someone not to act over the moon about a cat on the first
meeting.
If it is NOT working out at Brian's home, and he's losing sleep over it,
and
there is another good home lined up, why shouldn't he do this? I don't
get
it. I wouldn't keep a cat that is making my other cats miserable.
Sometimes it just doesn't work.
--

I understand that you feel this way. I also understand Brian's
fear that nobody will love and care for Henry as he does.


Yup, I'm ambivalent. I want to keep Henry. I don't want to keep Henry.

The way I see it is that this is like the person with a dying cat
taking extraordinary measures for months, though the cat is miserable
with no hope of recovery.

At that point, whose welfare is being considered? Who benefits? Not
that cat, imho...

Same here. We could keep Henry around, and after living on the street
spending half the day in a dark basement may be a step up. But for
Louis and Tiger it's pretty unfair. Tiger's approaching his twilight
years too, and I sure don't want to screw him up.

And of course there's the "innappropriate urination" issue..

Nah - this is the best outcome atm.

BLink

In article ,
Brian Link wrote:

Yup, I'm ambivalent. I want to keep Henry. I don't want to keep Henry.

The way I see it is that this is like the person with a dying cat
taking extraordinary measures for months, though the cat is miserable
with no hope of recovery.

At that point, whose welfare is being considered? Who benefits? Not
that cat, imho...

Same here. We could keep Henry around, and after living on the street
spending half the day in a dark basement may be a step up. But for
Louis and Tiger it's pretty unfair. Tiger's approaching his twilight
years too, and I sure don't want to screw him up.

And of course there's the "innappropriate urination" issue..

Nah - this is the best outcome atm.

BLink

I think you're absolutely right. Please don't let anyone sabotage what
sounds like a good solution.

Priscilla
--
"You can't welcome someone into a body of Christ and then say only
certain rooms are open." -- dancertm in alt.religion.christian.episcopal

wrote in message
...
KellyH Wrote:
Why are you making this even harder?
Have you ever done an adoption? Do you
deal with people who are looking to adopt
after losing a cat? It is very common for
someone not to act over the moon about a
cat on the first meeting.
If it is NOT working out at Brian's home,
and he's losing sleep over it, and there is
another good home lined up, why
shouldn't he do this? I don't get it.

This is one of the many perfect examples of the vast, unadulterated evil
Mary perpetrates on a daily basis. Her response has nothing to do with
any genuine concern for Brian, Henry or their welfare. Her only reason
for doing this is because I'm involved and her vendetta against me
outweighs everything, even if it means jeopardizing what will be a
better situation until a wonderful and permanent home is found for
Henry. Fortunately for Henry, Brian is too smart to fall for her
garbage.


I love this. "Vast unadulterated evil."

Brian loves this cat and I hate to see him give him up. It is that
simple. How you get from there to "Vast unadulterated evil"
speaks volumes about you. You are sick, Megan.

"Brian Link" wrote in message
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On Tue, 8 Mar 2005 15:05:24 -0500, "Mary"
wrote:


"KellyH" wrote in message
...
"Mary" wrote
This is exactly what Brian did and why he doesn't want to let go of
Henry.
He felt this woman's ambivalence--that is what really seemed to
bother
him--
and I cannot imagine he will be happy sending Henry to her. Because
he
loves
Henry.


Why are you making this even harder? Have you ever done an adoption?
Do
you deal with people who are looking to adopt after losing a cat? It
is
very common for someone not to act over the moon about a cat on the
first
meeting.
If it is NOT working out at Brian's home, and he's losing sleep over
it,
and
there is another good home lined up, why shouldn't he do this? I don't
get
it. I wouldn't keep a cat that is making my other cats miserable.
Sometimes it just doesn't work.
--

I understand that you feel this way. I also understand Brian's
fear that nobody will love and care for Henry as he does.


Yup, I'm ambivalent. I want to keep Henry. I don't want to keep Henry.

The way I see it is that this is like the person with a dying cat
taking extraordinary measures for months, though the cat is miserable
with no hope of recovery.

At that point, whose welfare is being considered? Who benefits? Not
that cat, imho...

Same here. We could keep Henry around, and after living on the street
spending half the day in a dark basement may be a step up. But for
Louis and Tiger it's pretty unfair. Tiger's approaching his twilight
years too, and I sure don't want to screw him up.

And of course there's the "innappropriate urination" issue..

Nah - this is the best outcome atm.

BLink

It is your decision, that is for sure. My motive in posting what I have is
the
obvious love you have for this cat, as evidenced in every post you have
made beginning months ago. I don't mean to make it harder on you.
I just don't want to see you living with the heartache of giving up
a creature you love. My opinion that Megan is a Giant Horse's
Ass has nothing to do with this. (Sure, she is useful in placing
cats at times. Even Giant Horse's Asses can be useful.)

"Priscilla Ballou" wrote in message
...
In article ,
Brian Link wrote:

Yup, I'm ambivalent. I want to keep Henry. I don't want to keep Henry.

The way I see it is that this is like the person with a dying cat
taking extraordinary measures for months, though the cat is miserable
with no hope of recovery.

At that point, whose welfare is being considered? Who benefits? Not
that cat, imho...

Same here. We could keep Henry around, and after living on the street
spending half the day in a dark basement may be a step up. But for
Louis and Tiger it's pretty unfair. Tiger's approaching his twilight
years too, and I sure don't want to screw him up.

And of course there's the "innappropriate urination" issue..

Nah - this is the best outcome atm.

BLink

I think you're absolutely right. Please don't let anyone sabotage what
sounds like a good solution.


That is not at all what I am trying to do. You can **** off too.
Brian is going to be sorry for the rest of his life if he gives this
cat up, I can tell.

On 2005-03-08, Mary penned:

It is your decision, that is for sure. My motive in posting what I have is
the obvious love you have for this cat, as evidenced in every post you have
made beginning months ago. I don't mean to make it harder on you. I just
don't want to see you living with the heartache of giving up a creature you
love. My opinion that Megan is a Giant Horse's Ass has nothing to do with
this.

I do believe Mary on this one. She and I got into a nasty tiff a while back
about my cat Eros, whom I adopted and later brought to a (carefully selected)
shelter, and who eventually found a home. Mary can't imagine a situation in
which she'd give up her pet, regardless of the turmoil caused to the
household. Well, I couldn't imagine it, either, until it happened to me, or
more specifically, it happened to my husband and Oscar, neither of whom could
tolerate Eros for different reasons. So I do understand where Mary is coming
from. ("From whence Mary comes?" Hrmmmm...)

To the OP: our shelter provides pet loss counselling, and they said I could go
to some sessions about Eros. I ended up not going, but if you find yourself
having trouble coming to terms with your situation, maybe you could ask around
and see if anyone in the area offers similar services.

--
monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully

pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca

Monique wrote:
I do believe Mary on this one.

Heh. Even *after* Brian posted making it clear why it was in the best
interests of Henry, she then continues by saying he's going to regret it
for the rest of his life? That's just twisting the knife in further and
is clearly an attempt to sabotage. If you really believe there is an
honest motive behind what Mary is perpetrating, then I have a bridge in
Brooklyn...

Megan



"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do
nothing."

-Edmund Burke

Learn The TRUTH About Declawing
http://www.stopdeclaw.com

Zuzu's Cats Photo Album:
http://www.PictureTrail.com/zuzu22

"Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one
elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and
splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then
providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and
material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his
way."

- W.H. Murray

On 2005-03-08, penned:
Monique wrote:
I do believe Mary on this one.

Heh. Even *after* Brian posted making it clear why it was in the best
interests of Henry, she then continues by saying he's going to regret it for
the rest of his life? That's just twisting the knife in further and is
clearly an attempt to sabotage. If you really believe there is an honest
motive behind what Mary is perpetrating, then I have a bridge in Brooklyn...

Megan

She did the same in my case, even though she had no history with me and you
weren't involved. *shrug* I truly do believe Mary wants to find a way to let
Brian keep Henry. The fact that she can tweak your nose while she's at it
just sweetens the deal for her, but doesn't alter the original premise.

Anyhoo, those were my two cents and I'm outta here.

--
monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully

pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca