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I am SO loving my new "kitchenette". I'm getting cold drinks, cooking,
making coffee and sandwiches... I didn't realize that Ben had gotten me so (I don't know what the right word is, "intimidated" isn't it), that I was just doing without things I really wanted just so I wouldn't hear "Whaaaat Naaaow?!?" yelled at me whenever I called his name. Don't get me wrong, I know it's got to be aggravating to have someone constantly asking you to run and fetch - I would feel uncomfortable doing that even with a paid employee. But it's SO nice to just be able to get up and do it, or get it myself! -- Hugs, CatNipped See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped See the RPCA FAQ site, created by "Yowie", maintained by Mark Edwards, at: http://www.professional-geek.net/rpcablog/ Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net |
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"CatNipped" wrote in message ... I am SO loving my new "kitchenette". I'm getting cold drinks, cooking, making coffee and sandwiches... I didn't realize that Ben had gotten me so (I don't know what the right word is, "intimidated" isn't it), that I was just doing without things I really wanted just so I wouldn't hear "Whaaaat Naaaow?!?" yelled at me whenever I called his name. Don't get me wrong, I know it's got to be aggravating to have someone constantly asking you to run and fetch - I would feel uncomfortable doing that even with a paid employee. But it's SO nice to just be able to get up and do it, or get it myself! -- Hugs, CatNipped The word you're looking for might be conditioned. It's a natural reaction to the "what now?" response. At some point you just stop asking because you don't want to bother the other person. I completely understand. It's nice to be able to be a little more self-reliant, isn't it? I'm glad this is working out for you. Jill |
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CatNipped wrote in news:9k07fdF83gU1
@mid.individual.net: I am SO loving my new "kitchenette". I'm getting cold drinks, cooking, making coffee and sandwiches... I didn't realize that Ben had gotten me so (I don't know what the right word is, "intimidated" isn't it), that I was just doing without things I really wanted just so I wouldn't hear "Whaaaat Naaaow?!?" yelled at me whenever I called his name. Don't get me wrong, I know it's got to be aggravating to have someone constantly asking you to run and fetch - I would feel uncomfortable doing that even with a paid employee. But it's SO nice to just be able to get up and do it, or get it myself! How awful of him. If you love somebody, you don't yell "Whaaat naaaow?" when they need you. Even if you think it, you keep it inside. My opinion of him went further downhill. Glad you won't have to hear that any more. Bobble |
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On Dec 4, 7:51*am, Bobble wrote:
How awful of him. *If you love somebody, you don't yell "Whaaat naaaow?" when they need you. *Even if you think it, you keep it inside. My opinion of him went further downhill. Ever been in that situation? I have and believe me it doesn't matter how much I love Dave I said "Whaaaat naaaow?" more than once. (along with "Remind me again- what did your last slave die of?"). Everyone has a breaking point. Being asked however nicely and however much you know the other person needs it done if you could "Cook breakfast?" when it's 8.30am on a Saturday after a rotten week at work and all you want to do is have a lie in with the cats isn't going down too well however much you appreciate the other person needs you to do it Believe me if I had kept it inside all that time I would have burst several blood vessels. Carers have to vent sometimes Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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On 12/03/2011 08:24 PM, CatNipped wrote:
I am SO loving my new "kitchenette". I'm getting cold drinks, cooking, making coffee and sandwiches... I didn't realize that Ben had gotten me so (I don't know what the right word is, "intimidated" isn't it), that I was just doing without things I really wanted just so I wouldn't hear "Whaaaat Naaaow?!?" yelled at me whenever I called his name. Don't get me wrong, I know it's got to be aggravating to have someone constantly asking you to run and fetch - I would feel uncomfortable doing that even with a paid employee. But it's SO nice to just be able to get up and do it, or get it myself! Like I keep reminding myself: What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Good wishes. MLB |
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On 12/4/2011 11:54 AM, Lesley wrote:
On Dec 4, 7:51 am, wrote: How awful of him. If you love somebody, you don't yell "Whaaat naaaow?" when they need you. Even if you think it, you keep it inside. My opinion of him went further downhill. Ever been in that situation? I have and believe me it doesn't matter how much I love Dave I said "Whaaaat naaaow?" more than once. (along with "Remind me again- what did your last slave die of?"). Everyone has a breaking point. Being asked however nicely and however much you know the other person needs it done if you could "Cook breakfast?" when it's 8.30am on a Saturday after a rotten week at work and all you want to do is have a lie in with the cats isn't going down too well however much you appreciate the other person needs you to do it Believe me if I had kept it inside all that time I would have burst several blood vessels. Carers have to vent sometimes Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Yep, exactly. Being together for 25 years we've also gotten to that butt-naked honesty that comes when the honeymoon has long been over. The truth is it's hard on both of us. And however much this may be his "job" since he isn't working so he can take care of me, it still gets to be irritating... for *both* of us. -- Hugs, CatNipped See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped See the RPCA FAQ site, created by "Yowie", maintained by Mark Edwards, at: http://www.professional-geek.net/rpcablog/ Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net |
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On 12/4/2011 12:22 PM, MLB wrote:
On 12/03/2011 08:24 PM, CatNipped wrote: I am SO loving my new "kitchenette". I'm getting cold drinks, cooking, making coffee and sandwiches... I didn't realize that Ben had gotten me so (I don't know what the right word is, "intimidated" isn't it), that I was just doing without things I really wanted just so I wouldn't hear "Whaaaat Naaaow?!?" yelled at me whenever I called his name. Don't get me wrong, I know it's got to be aggravating to have someone constantly asking you to run and fetch - I would feel uncomfortable doing that even with a paid employee. But it's SO nice to just be able to get up and do it, or get it myself! Like I keep reminding myself: What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Good wishes. MLB I'm still loving it, but boy today I'm feeling it. I haven't been up and about, much less doing chores, in a long, long time and my muscles (especially my stomach muscles) are screaming at me this morning - and kept me up most of the night! -- Hugs, CatNipped See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped See the RPCA FAQ site, created by "Yowie", maintained by Mark Edwards, at: http://www.professional-geek.net/rpcablog/ Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net |
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On Dec 4, 11:27*am, CatNipped wrote:
.. *Being together for 25 years we've also gotten to that butt-naked honesty that comes when the honeymoon has long been over. We've been together 33 years and I know what you mean- we've been through let's see 5 redudancies 3 parental losses 2 losses of close friends 4 losses of feline owners 5 near evictions 1 actual eviction (Our 5th or 6th date) 1 major hospital stay then months of aftercare 3 house moves Multiple near misses on the bankrupcy front 1 minor cancer scare I think we can yell at each other from time to time- we've earned it Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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"Lesley" wrote in message ... On Dec 4, 7:51 am, Bobble wrote: How awful of him. If you love somebody, you don't yell "Whaaat naaaow?" when they need you. Even if you think it, you keep it inside. My opinion of him went further downhill. Ever been in that situation? I have and believe me it doesn't matter how much I love Dave I said "Whaaaat naaaow?" more than once. (along with "Remind me again- what did your last slave die of?"). Everyone has a breaking point. Being asked however nicely and however much you know the other person needs it done if you could "Cook breakfast?" when it's 8.30am on a Saturday after a rotten week at work and all you want to do is have a lie in with the cats isn't going down too well however much you appreciate the other person needs you to do it Believe me if I had kept it inside all that time I would have burst several blood vessels. Carers have to vent sometimes Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs When I came here to take care of my parents Mom was still ambulatory. After Dad died she took to her bed. I can understand that; she'd been married for 57 years so naturally she was depressed and despondent. But that didn't mean she couldn't get out of bed. She simply chose not to. I bought baby monitors in case she needed anything in the middle of the night. That didn't mean I wanted to wake up hearing her say, "Where's my coffee?" at 6AM. It gets very tiring being a full-time care giver. It takes a lot of energy trying to meet someone elses' needs 24/7. And yes, sometimes I needed to vent. I think it's great Lori is taking advantange of her new "kitchenette" situation. Jill |
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On 12/4/2011 1:54 PM, Lesley Madigan wrote:
On Dec 4, 11:27 am, wrote: . Being together for 25 years we've also gotten to that butt-naked honesty that comes when the honeymoon has long been over. We've been together 33 years and I know what you mean- we've been through let's see 5 redudancies 3 parental losses 2 losses of close friends 4 losses of feline owners 5 near evictions 1 actual eviction (Our 5th or 6th date) 1 major hospital stay then months of aftercare 3 house moves Multiple near misses on the bankrupcy front 1 minor cancer scare I think we can yell at each other from time to time- we've earned it Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Gawds, I'm not even going to try to list the things we've been through and survived - but same here. ; -- Hugs, CatNipped See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped See the RPCA FAQ site, created by "Yowie", maintained by Mark Edwards, at: http://www.professional-geek.net/rpcablog/ Email: L(dot)T(dot)Crews(at)comcast(dot)net |
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