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oups.com... CatNipped wrote: "Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2005-06-26, CatNipped penned: She really needs to start exercising or she's going to have trouble not only with falling, but with osteoporosis! Well, the potential of osteoporosis is why I'm worried about her falling. She was actually going to the gym and working out a great deal before she broke her leg a couple of years ago. Yes, by falling. Apparently she broke the tibia far enough up that it was basically inside the knee. Since then, well, she's been reluctant to do much. While she was visiting, she expressed an interest in riding a bicycle. I'll have to find out if she's followed up on that. Another reason I bicycle rather than jog or even walk is my bad knees. Bicylcing is a low impact but still very good cardiovascular work-out. Hugs, CatNipped There's also those elliptical machines. They're much more low-impact than jogging, I would think. Not that I've ever jogged. LOL. Sherry Yeah, those things are *great* exercise. I'm used to doing 15 to 20 miles a day on my bike (takes my about an hour), but I'm winded after just 5 or 10 minutes on those things! Hugs, CatNipped |
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Oh, don't let it bug you. Mine was the same way. Unfortunately, I lost her at 19. Maybe your mom thinks it's her job to tell you. I remember once wearing a new outfit I thought I just looked like the cat's pajamas in, and my mom's remark was, "Aren't you getting a little hippy?" (hippy in those days meaning, a big butt) Now there's nobody to tell me when I look hippy :-( Sherry You look hippy. Gracie a mother is a mother is a mother Why, thank you Gracie. That's actually a compliment these days since gravity, age, and illness have pretty much done away with curves. I kind of think when I stick my tongue out, I look a lot like a zipper now. Sherry |
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I lost weight, not intentionally, when I had jaw surgery. My jaws
were wired together and I could only take liquid food from a syringe. Couldn't talk either. Food went through the food processor before I 'drank it'. I didn't lose too much weight but I know others lost 10 lbs through the ordeal. Winnie "CatNipped" wrote in message ... "Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... On 2005-06-26, penned: It's probably much better to have some extra weight and feel good and be healthy. Skinny isn't always healthy. That's what's important. At least you're fit; that's the most important thing. A girl here I went to school with had that stupid stomach-stapling thing done last year. She wasn't even what you'd call morbidly obese. Always was a big girl, but I would guess she was 5'7 and 225-250 lbs. or so. She had one son, in junior high, and no husband. She died. I'm sure I'd be more fit if I had a bit less fat, but I'm certainly not going to get my stomach stapled. I'm at about 5'5 and 165, and even when I was small people guaged me about 20 pounds lighter than I was (must have dense bones or something). I am pretty sure that 20 pounds lost (while working out) would result in a very fit me. She died as a result of the stapling? That's so sad. It goes wrong quite often - nurses even have an acronym for it GBGB - gastric bypass gone bad. I'd never have had it done had it been just for appearances (and I wouldn't have waited until I was 52 had it been only for appearances - older skin just doesn't "snap back" like younger skin does - think Sherpe dog ;). Nope, I'm not expecting to win in the swim suit competition - LOL. In my case I was facing death if I *hadn't* done it - blood pressure, blood glucose level, cholesterol and triglyceride levels all were way above normal. My doctor said I was looking at a heart attack, stroke, or diabetes within 5 years if I didn't lose the weight and hip or knee replacement surgery sooner than that. As long as I was healthy I was happy with my body no matter what weight I was at, but when you get older it all starts catching up with you. Yo-yo dieting all my life made it even worse than if I'd just stayed at one weight even if it was too heavy for my frame. Hugs, CatNipped -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
... On 2005-06-26, Charleen Welton penned: Ah Monique how I wish I had heard that quote many years ago. I, like you, love my mom, but oh the connection between her brain and her mouth is like a slide with no buffers or stops. (snippage) Ack! Amazing how they can make us want to collapse in tears over these things. DH was feeling ... amorous today, and it was *such* an effort to get my mom's comments out of my head so that I could enjoy the moment. Stupid, stupid. Sometimes it's hard to get the running commentary out your head. You're human, please don't beat yourself up. I know how you felt. Love and understanding is our armour. While she was visiting, Mom helped me buy some suits. This was actually a great favor, as she is good with color and fit and helped me put together colors that I would never have imagined would work well together. I looked like a million bucks in those suits. But the actual process of trying them on ... Oh GAWD. Mom or no mom, who really likes the way the lighting in those changing rooms makes you look? The mirrors really need stickers which say "Objects in mirror may be smaller than they appear!" LOL I was looking for a dress to wear to a company holiday party and I happened to be visiting my parents for Thanksgiving. (Actually, I cooked dinner, it went well.) Mom took me to this dress shop. Don't fall over, I was used to buying size 4's or 6's. Not ONE thing in this "boutique" fit me. A US size 8 was tight. Good lord, where were these clothes made?! I thought I was a 12. It turns out I'm more like a 14, and for a bit (because of one particular suit that had an awkward cut) it looked like I might be a 16. Mom clucked her tongue and began to talk about how I really needed to lose weight blah blah blah ... just what you need to hear when you're prepping for an exciting and important job interview. Oh dear. Well, doesn't help much but I can tell you from experience the more expensive the clothing the smaller that number attached to the label in the US. If that number on the tag is so very important maybe find yourself a good outlet Mall or a shop that isn't actually in your state. I'm thinking Coldwater Creek. You can often find free shipping codes and discount codes online and they have wonderful clearance items. I haven't shopped in a while... Mom will probably send me something from her closet for my birthday because they'd fit me now that I'm a size 8 LOL Jill Well, I blew my top. I told her that if she wanted to make comments about my weight, she could feel free to get on a plane and fly back home, because I wasn't putting up with it. Only maybe not with such polite words. Funny how we (at least I) turn right back into teenagers when our parents are around. I did speak to her that evening, explain to her what I'd meant to say and that I'd gotten upset and said things in a way that I regretted. -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
... Let me preface this by saying that I love my mother. She is a good person, she's kind-hearted, and she doesn't mean to hurt anyone. It's just that she seems to have no filter between her brain and her mouth. From the length of this thread, it must have struck a lot of nerves. My sympathy, as well as hugs and purrs, to those whose mothers were/are always putting them down. I was very lucky in that department. In fact, when I was a teenager, I used to get angry with my mother for telling me I was pretty. I *knew* I wasn't. Of course, now when I look at pictures of me then, I realize I was. You aren't going to be able to change your mother, and it will be difficult, if not impossible, to change the way you feel about the things she says. Since I've never been in that position, I wouldn't presume to advise you on that. However, when it comes to the things she says to or in front of other people, my advice is to bite your tongue. Arguing will just make it worse. My late husband had a tendency to exaggerate, or to say things that weren't exactly true. For instance, I got quite a grilling from my mother because once he talked about something that happened "when we were parked". Actually we were stopped at a signal, waiting to make a left turn. I used to try to correct him or explain what he said, but that never worked satisfactorily. Finally, I decided that the people who knew him realized he had this habit and liked him anyway. They just made allowances for it. I don't think he realized what he was doing, and I could never convince him, so I gave up. I was much happier after that. Hugs and purrs, Joy |
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This is nothing new. My Mom invited herself over last week and began
discussing how fat I was, and how my unattractive clothing served to make me look even fatter. I'm 165 lbs. She's over 220. Who's fat now? --Fil |
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On Sun, 26 Jun 2005 15:46:24 -0500, CatNipped wrote:
"Christina Websell" wrote in message ... "wafflycat" waffles*A*T*v21net*D*O*T*co*D*O*T*uk wrote in message ... "Mischief" wrote in message oups.com... I'm five feet tall exactly and I'm supposed to be closer to 100-110 pounds.... A load of BS if you ask me My mom once said I should be a size 4. She hasn't said it since, but i've never forgiven her for saying that. Kristi Unless you are 2 ft 6 ins high, she has got it well wrong ;-) Cheers, helen s I have an idea that USA sizes are not the same as UK ones. What would be the bust/waist/hip size for a USA size 4? I think the shoe sizes are different too. Tweed I can fit in some 3/4s, but sometimes have to get a 5/6. Bust - 34 inches (86.36 cm), waist - 23 inches (58.42 cm), hips - 34 inches (86.36 cm). [In figure measurements I prefer inches... 34-23-34 sounds much better than 86.36-58.42-86.36!! ;] I have humongous clown feet (even though I'm only 5'5") and have to get a size 8W - my feet are 10 inches long and 4 inches wide. Hugs, CatNipped Great measurements! When I was 18 I measured 34/22/34 but the dress size was 12 at that time. I think they changed the sizes to flatter the ladies. They don't seem to have done that with shoe sizes, however. |
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"mlbriggs" wrote in message
news On Sun, 26 Jun 2005 15:46:24 -0500, CatNipped wrote: "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... "wafflycat" waffles*A*T*v21net*D*O*T*co*D*O*T*uk wrote in message ... "Mischief" wrote in message oups.com... I'm five feet tall exactly and I'm supposed to be closer to 100-110 pounds.... A load of BS if you ask me My mom once said I should be a size 4. She hasn't said it since, but i've never forgiven her for saying that. Kristi Unless you are 2 ft 6 ins high, she has got it well wrong ;-) Cheers, helen s I have an idea that USA sizes are not the same as UK ones. What would be the bust/waist/hip size for a USA size 4? I think the shoe sizes are different too. Tweed I can fit in some 3/4s, but sometimes have to get a 5/6. Bust - 34 inches (86.36 cm), waist - 23 inches (58.42 cm), hips - 34 inches (86.36 cm). [In figure measurements I prefer inches... 34-23-34 sounds much better than 86.36-58.42-86.36!! ;] I have humongous clown feet (even though I'm only 5'5") and have to get a size 8W - my feet are 10 inches long and 4 inches wide. Hugs, CatNipped Great measurements! When I was 18 I measured 34/22/34 but the dress size was 12 at that time. I think they changed the sizes to flatter the ladies. They don't seem to have done that with shoe sizes, however. Yep, you're right. When I was a teenager the "perfect" size was a 12 and there wasn't any such thing as "negative" sizes as there is now. Hugs, CatNipped |
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On 2005-06-26, CatNipped penned:
I have humongous clown feet (even though I'm only 5'5") and have to get a size 8W - my feet are 10 inches long and 4 inches wide. Very funny. *I* have humongous feet. I'm 5'5" with ... hrm, depending on the shoe, but let's say 9 1/2 wide. Or more likely 11, since it's hard to find shoes wide, so I just get them extra long. If I can get away with it, I buy men's shoes, in which I'm about an 8 1/2. (Depending again on the width). More accurately, I'm a European 41 wide. Not only that, but the part of my foot that sticks out, making it so wide, is also extremely sensitive. Buying ice skates, ski boots, etc is a nightmare for me, especially as conventional wisdom is to buy them as tight as possible for best control. I eventually bought professional-grade men's ice skates, a model specifically intended for wide feet, in a wide size, and then also had the sides punched out. Finally my feet aren't screaming after an hour on the ice. Ski boots .... I've been through so many pairs of ski boots, all of which made me miserable. The latest pair is the best -- I got a wide women's boot with a custom foam liner and orthotics. $1500 later, yes, just for boots, I can ski for more than an hour or two without crying. I thought that I was screwed for finding nice shoes, but then I found this store called Phelps. They carry foot-friendly shoes. Specifically, they carry Germanic brands like Birkenstock and Dansko. Now, I had no idea that Birk makes some darn nice shoes, but they do. No pointy toes (my feet can't do that, anyway), but neat strappy things that can actually be worn with dresses. I finally think I understand why so many women enjoy shoe shopping. I've always hated it, because they rarely had my size in stock at all, and if they did, the shoe that looked so cute as a size 6 on display looked like a boat on my foot. What a nightmare. I can't count the number of times I've cried, or felt like crying, when shopping for shoes for some special occasion. But at this store I found, wow, even some of their display shoes fit me. They carry lots of wide stuff. I'm like a kid in a candy store. Unfortunately, the average cost of a pair of shoes there is about $100 ... but even my ultra-frugal mom insists that good shoes are worth good money, because if your feet aren't happy, you aren't happy. Now that I actually have some nice shoes that I don't mind wearing, I find myself wearing nice clothes more often. It's such a difference. Literally, I used to think about wearing something nice and think, Yes, but I don't have any shoes to go with that, or well, there's this pair, but they make my feet ache. Now I can actually say, yes, I'll wear that, and I'll wear it with this pair, and I'll be comfy. It's amazing. And since this is a thread about mothers, I'll share another one of my mom's amazing statements. When I was a late teen/early college kid kind of age, my mother told me that I've been ruining my feet by wearing sneakers. Yes, ruining. You see, according to my mother, not only should I have been wearing flats to not ruin my feet, but they would have kept my stride shorter and more lady-like. To be honest, I'm sure my years of barefoot martial arts have at least something to do with the width of my foot. My feet were so callused as a teen that I could walk across gravel painlessly. I even got a screw embedded about a quarter inch in my foot, and it didn't hurt. But while I've been "ruining" my feet, I've never had a cracked heel or bunions, unlike my mom, who IIRC had bunion surgery. Because, you know, she kept her feet healthy by wearing 5" spike heels for years. -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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