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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ...
"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need to vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy) several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used the same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing uproariously all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all that money on a blind cat." This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future. -- MaryL Hi Everyone, Thanks for all the helpful comments. It helped to "vent," and it did me a LOT of good to see all the support from this group. I usually calm down pretty quickly, and that is true now. However, even when thinking about this incident in "the coolness of the day," I find it hard to believe that anyone would be so insensitive (and stupid! because he has now lost a good customer). Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter in which I will inform him that I will not use his services after this and tell him exactly why he has lost a customer of 8 or 9 years' standing. Many of you suggested this route, and I particularly like the way Rona described it. This will give me a chance to clearly state my feelings and will also avoid the possibility that he could later misquote me. Among other things, I am going to point out that my two cats are members of my family - I look on them as my children. I am going to ask him how he would react if he heard someone say something like that about a blind person (although my suspicion is that he probably has little empathy for what he would see as "less than perfect" people, either). I am also going to point out that he showed a complete lack of respect for me by taking this position in my house and continuing with it after I objected. Building on what Rona said, I can honestly tell him that I have recommended him in the past and sent new customers to him - and make it clear that any comments I make from now on will be negative and will include details of this encounter. Incidentally, I love Jeremy's suggestion about handing out buttons but admit that I can't see myself actually following through on that one. A fine idea, though! Duffy is a complete delight. He is one of the sweetest, best-natured cats I have ever seen. Holly and Duffy together bring me such joy - and I think I bring joy to them. They are both happy, loving, playful cats. I doubt that the man who will receive my letter can even understand this type of relationship, but maybe he will understand the relationship between my letter and some loss of income. Thanks, again, for all your help. I'm not going to rush this. I'm going to take plenty of time this weekend and try to write a thoughtful and accurate letter, so I'm open to more suggestions. I hope I can be "intelligent, articulate, unflustered and factual," as Sherry suggested. MaryL (take out the litter to reply) Photos of Duffy and Holly: 'o' http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in") Great thing to take care of a cat like that. With that out of the way... Jeez, this is an illustration of what someone said to me the other day, to wit: "People who have no *real* problems make up ones to keep themselves occupied". Get someone else to clean your carpets. Quit fixating. Use your excess time to visit some older people in a nursing home who could use some company. |
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ...
"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need to vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy) several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used the same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing uproariously all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all that money on a blind cat." This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future. -- MaryL Hi Everyone, Thanks for all the helpful comments. It helped to "vent," and it did me a LOT of good to see all the support from this group. I usually calm down pretty quickly, and that is true now. However, even when thinking about this incident in "the coolness of the day," I find it hard to believe that anyone would be so insensitive (and stupid! because he has now lost a good customer). Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter in which I will inform him that I will not use his services after this and tell him exactly why he has lost a customer of 8 or 9 years' standing. Many of you suggested this route, and I particularly like the way Rona described it. This will give me a chance to clearly state my feelings and will also avoid the possibility that he could later misquote me. Among other things, I am going to point out that my two cats are members of my family - I look on them as my children. I am going to ask him how he would react if he heard someone say something like that about a blind person (although my suspicion is that he probably has little empathy for what he would see as "less than perfect" people, either). I am also going to point out that he showed a complete lack of respect for me by taking this position in my house and continuing with it after I objected. Building on what Rona said, I can honestly tell him that I have recommended him in the past and sent new customers to him - and make it clear that any comments I make from now on will be negative and will include details of this encounter. Incidentally, I love Jeremy's suggestion about handing out buttons but admit that I can't see myself actually following through on that one. A fine idea, though! Duffy is a complete delight. He is one of the sweetest, best-natured cats I have ever seen. Holly and Duffy together bring me such joy - and I think I bring joy to them. They are both happy, loving, playful cats. I doubt that the man who will receive my letter can even understand this type of relationship, but maybe he will understand the relationship between my letter and some loss of income. Thanks, again, for all your help. I'm not going to rush this. I'm going to take plenty of time this weekend and try to write a thoughtful and accurate letter, so I'm open to more suggestions. I hope I can be "intelligent, articulate, unflustered and factual," as Sherry suggested. MaryL (take out the litter to reply) Photos of Duffy and Holly: 'o' http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in") Great thing to take care of a cat like that. With that out of the way... Jeez, this is an illustration of what someone said to me the other day, to wit: "People who have no *real* problems make up ones to keep themselves occupied". Get someone else to clean your carpets. Quit fixating. Use your excess time to visit some older people in a nursing home who could use some company. |
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"Klinger" wrote in message om... Jeez, this is an illustration of what someone said to me the other day, to wit: "People who have no *real* problems make up ones to keep themselves occupied". Get someone else to clean your carpets. Quit fixating. Use your excess time to visit some older people in a nursing home who could use some company. This is not going to become a fixation. The incident only happened yesterday. I will send a letter this week because I think this guy needs to know why I willno longer have him in my home (or give him any more business). I agree that people in nursing homes are often desperately in need of company. I was the sole caregiver for my mother for five years. After she became completely bed-ridden, I had to place her in a nursinghome. I am now her advocate, visit her approximately three times a week, and do everything I can to assure quality care for her. How often do you visit someone in a nursing home? MaryL |
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"Klinger" wrote in message om... Jeez, this is an illustration of what someone said to me the other day, to wit: "People who have no *real* problems make up ones to keep themselves occupied". Get someone else to clean your carpets. Quit fixating. Use your excess time to visit some older people in a nursing home who could use some company. This is not going to become a fixation. The incident only happened yesterday. I will send a letter this week because I think this guy needs to know why I willno longer have him in my home (or give him any more business). I agree that people in nursing homes are often desperately in need of company. I was the sole caregiver for my mother for five years. After she became completely bed-ridden, I had to place her in a nursinghome. I am now her advocate, visit her approximately three times a week, and do everything I can to assure quality care for her. How often do you visit someone in a nursing home? MaryL |
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From: "Linda E"
When I was spending $400/month for cat meds, a different person at the pharmacy would wait on me every month..... they'd always look at me like I had three eyes and say, "you realize how much this is, right...?" I would just reply with, "Yeah. But, it's for my cat. I'd *never* spend this kind of money on a kid!"....... that would usually shut them up...... I love it! ________ See my cats: http://community.webshots.com/album/56955940rWhxAe Raw Diet Info: http://www.holisticat.com/drjletter.html http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html Declawing Info: http://www.wholecat.com/articles/claws.htm |
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From: "Linda E"
When I was spending $400/month for cat meds, a different person at the pharmacy would wait on me every month..... they'd always look at me like I had three eyes and say, "you realize how much this is, right...?" I would just reply with, "Yeah. But, it's for my cat. I'd *never* spend this kind of money on a kid!"....... that would usually shut them up...... I love it! ________ See my cats: http://community.webshots.com/album/56955940rWhxAe Raw Diet Info: http://www.holisticat.com/drjletter.html http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html Declawing Info: http://www.wholecat.com/articles/claws.htm |
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MaryL wrote:
Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter [snip great letter content] I think when something like this happens, I know with myself at least, I am so shocked by what the person is saying, that I can't even react properly, until after they are gone. I think the letter sounds like a great idea. Sometimes letters can convey a message better than saying something in person. Lauren ________ See my cats: http://community.webshots.com/album/56955940rWhxAe Raw Diet Info: http://www.holisticat.com/drjletter.html http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html Declawing Info: http://www.wholecat.com/articles/claws.htm |
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MaryL wrote:
Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter [snip great letter content] I think when something like this happens, I know with myself at least, I am so shocked by what the person is saying, that I can't even react properly, until after they are gone. I think the letter sounds like a great idea. Sometimes letters can convey a message better than saying something in person. Lauren ________ See my cats: http://community.webshots.com/album/56955940rWhxAe Raw Diet Info: http://www.holisticat.com/drjletter.html http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html Declawing Info: http://www.wholecat.com/articles/claws.htm |
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER
wrote in message Upset at rude comments from the carpet cleaning man... First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree... I explained that Duffy is blind...he laughed so hard... then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" ..."But it's just so funny that you would spend all that money on a blind cat." I can understand his reaction - so many people doen't think of cats as worthwhile. It's too bad his parents didn't instill better behavior in him as a child (but maybe they triee and he's ignored his early training). If he has a boss, I wonder if the boss has explained the proper behavior expected of an employee when going to a client's home as a representative of that company. If this guy is self-employeed, I wonder how many people have only used him once or twice and then moved on to more someone who was more professional... Either way, please feel free to write a classy note stating that you do not expect ridicule from service personelle and as a result of the completely disrespectful behavior of the carpet cleaner, you will no longer be using his services, nor will you be able to provide references for him. Include a cute photo of your cat, if you wish. ~Shelly~ |
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