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Joy wrote:
"Yowie" wrote in message ... wrote: Jo Firey wrote: wrote in message If she had really done everything she possibly could to prevent these calls from disrupting her work day, and the company still fired her, I think it's horribly unfair of the company to penalize her for something she couldn't control. They really had no choice, she was in customer service at a bank. Yeah, I guess you're right, but it burns me that someone could lose their job because of some other person's actions. Yeah, I know, life's not fair... I guess she had a very difficult situation to deal with and it was costing her, in her own life as well as in her relationship with her daughter. I don't envy anyone who has that situation! Thats a similar argument as with parents of deliquent teenagers. Whilst its probably true that most 'delinquent' kids also have 'delinquent' parents, if a teenager (particularly an older teenager, like 15+) decides to do something, there is little a parent can do to physically prevent them from doing it. Its an awefully fine line as to who is legally responsible is if a teenager does something criminal, for example. Yowie That is so true. Sometimes you can tell by the attitude of the parent. If it's "My baby can do no wrong", then the parents should be held responsible, IMNSHO. OTOH, some parents recognize that their child has done wrong and try everything they can. Our house was once broken into, and some money was stolen. The miscreants turned out to be four students from the nearby high school, and the police caught them. The father of one of the boys sent us a letter of apology and a check for half the amount that had been taken. We never heard anything from any of the other parents. I'd say that one boy had a good chance of straightening out his life. I doubt if the other three did. Its funny you say that. On my 11th birthday, I invited all the girls in my class, even the 'cool' ones that would have nothing to do with me. I didn't expect any of them to turn up, but hoped they did. One did (I have no idea why) and asked to use the phone to call the others. I said 'sure' thinking that having 'the cool girls' over would somehow increase my popularity. Unfortunately said girls only came to the party to ruin it - and started a food fight. My mother, who had prepared all the food, emerged from their bedroom (they were giving us some privacy) because of the racket, to see all her hard work, and the beautifully home baked and decorated cake spattered all across the walls. My mother demanded an apology from every single attendee of the party. Only two girls bothered with an apology. One of them came back with her mother the next day and apologised in person. Two of the girls and their mothers flatly refused to apologise, and gave my mother an earful for 'even *thinking* that their precious daughters could do such a thing' (even though there were plenty of witnesses!) Of the two who apologied, the first one is a doctor now. The one who came back with her mother ended up being high school captain, was a debating champion and is somewhere in the USA at the moment as CEO of her own very successful company. The two girls who flat out refused to apologise, one is in jail, the other is three times divorced an an alcoholic. I ran into her at the supermarket, and she looked at least 50 to my 35 at the time - I didn't know who it was until I read her name on her badge, but she recognised me. I felt almost embrassed to have what i would consider a very normal life - she had been through the wringer and it showed. Although there are exceptions, I think in general those parents who teach their kids to take responsibility for their actions are going to raise OK kids. Whilst taking responsibility for wrong doing is an important part, taking resposnibility for acheivements is just as important - it means said kid doesn't end up thinking the world owes them a favour and that everything should just drop into their lap 'just beacuse'. Yowie |
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"hopitus" wrote in message ... (Snort) they do that all the time.....see my older post re "texting" sneakily in class right under teacher's nose (well not in the front row). I think of the whole situation as just as when I was their age....something they enjoy doing to annoy the hell out of "grownups" - theirs or otherwise. Whatta you think Pam? We did something else as cell phones were not in use then. I used to play bugle calls in unlikely places....LOL. I think it is partly used to irritate us adults, partly so they can yak with their friends in other schools or classrooms, and sometimes to cheat on exams. On rare occasions, the cell phone has saved lives in the classroom. That is why I usually gave the one chance rule for those I caught with them. I figured that the student should have an opportunity to re-think their actions. There was only one time I had to take the phone away after the snot was given a chance. He howled that I was taking away his right of free speech. I told him he could talk to the office about the phone, then wrote him up for the teacher. The principal loved to read my notes, and did that afternoon. OOPS. The teacher almost got fired because he didn't teach his students how to behave for other teachers and substitutes. Apparently, the teachers on each side of the classroom were complaining about the behavior in this teacher's classes, and my note was the final straw. Worse, he was a floater, which meant that he was in three different rooms every day and at least six different teachers were having problems with the noise and behavior of his students. Needless to say, I was not this teacher's favorite sub. Pam S. |
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"Adrian" wrote in message ... wrote: Cheryl P. wrote: I feel sorry for some of today's children who don't get the opportunity to begin to learn independence in the small ways, like going to a public toilet alone while their parents shop in the adjacent department. I know. When I was a kid, I often went out in the morning, and played all day, stopping home for lunch, and then not returning until dinner time. My parents did care where I was, and they certainly would have worried if I didn't show up for dinner. But they didn't need to micro-manage my every activity. When I was a young teen, I was allowed to take public transit from the 'burbs where we lived, into the city (Boston), and hang out there for the day. I think a lot of kids wouldn't be allowed to do that now. Several years ago I had a good friend whose son was about 13 or 14. She wouldn't let him ride public transit by himself! This was in the late 1980s. It's probably even worse now. Is the world that much more dangerous for kids now, than it was in the 60s and 70s when I was growing up? Or are people just more paranoid? People are just more paranoid, I think if anything it's safer now for kids as they are more likely to be believed. That's if they tell people what happens to them, some things that happened to me as a very young child I never told anyone about. -- Story from the Los Angeles Times a few days ago. And it wouldn't have even made the news if it weren't for the unusual result. Will probably be in the 2008 Darwin awards. Yes there are monsters out there. Jo LOS ANGELES - Two teenage girls involved in a botched robbery attempt died when the taxi they were in crashed during a high-speed chase after one teen slashed the cab driver's face, Los Angeles police said. The driver, Javier Hernandez, 40, was treated at a hospital for minor injuries, including cuts to his neck and face, Los Angeles Police Department Sgt. Lee Sands said. The two 17-year-old girls had flagged down the cab early Tuesday and asked to be taken to a nearby housing project, where one girl said her boyfriend would come and pay the fare, police said. Instead, a man shoved a handgun through the taxi window and grabbed a GPS system off the dashboard, Officer Jason Lee said. Hernandez sped away and called police after seeing a car chasing him, Lee said. "One of the females pulled out a box cutter and began cutting the taxi cab driver, and that's what caused him to crash," Officer April Harding said. Police arrived at the scene as the other car reached the crash site, Lee said. Three occupants from the second car were detained for questioning, he said. Hector Jasso and Daniel Martinez, both 20, were arrested for investigation of murder because the girls' deaths occurred during the alleged commission of a crime, Lee said. Both were being held without bail. The third occupant of the car was released. Lee said Jasso was the robbery suspect and boyfriend of one of the girls. |
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hopitus wrote:
snip FOOD fight? OMG. Interesting facts, Yowie, especially the social outcomes of your classmates back then. You don't have much chance of knowing about this, but try googling "Adam Walsh" or "AMW" when you have a quiet moment away from the Yowlet.....my son who is now 36, was playing on the exact same video game in a Sears store *the day before* Adam was abducted from the same store while - yeah - his mother shopped in "lamps" nearby the toy dept. For months everyone in Miami watched the streets like hawks for a blue panel van with a ladder vertically hung on the back.....this is to those of you who are *non-parents* for whatever reason: all it takes is *one* Adam Walsh in your circle of life. The day before...... And that is why parents now watch their kids like hawks - back 'when' you didn't hear about such things. Now you do. I may be paranoid, I may be overprotective, I may even be overparenting, but I've only got one child, and I'll go to great lengths to ensure I get to keep him. He's far far too precious for me not to. For those who don't have children: how paranoid and overprotective are you of your cats, who are natural survivors and don't need parental supervision and guidance? Times that by a trillion, and thats how I feel about Cary, how most mothers feel about their children. Yowie |
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On Apr 14, 5:25*am, "Cheryl P." wrote:
Yowie wrote: And that is why parents now watch their kids like hawks - back 'when' you didn't hear about such things. Now you do. I may be paranoid, I may be overprotective, I may even be overparenting, but I've only got one child, and I'll go to great lengths to ensure I get to keep him. He's far far too precious for me not to. For those who don't have children: how paranoid and overprotective are you of your cats, who are natural survivors and don't need parental supervision and guidance? Times that by a trillion, and thats how I feel about Cary, how most mothers feel about their children. Yowie I know it only takes one mistake to lose a child to death - and sometimes no mistake at all, just an accident. I also am now at an age where I see some 'children' in their twenties or thirties who have never learned independence and who are still totally dependant on their parents. I'm not talking about those who are physically or mentally disabled, either. There's got to be a middle ground between never allowing a child to take any risk and never taking ones' eyes of them and outright neglect and abandonment. I think finding it involves a rational assessment of risk - and, yes, every child, however adored, must learn to judge and sometimes take risks in order to mature into an independent adult. No one's going to get a rational assessment of the risk of crime in their local area by listening to the average news reports, which have a interest in exaggeration and fear-mongering. Those things make people watch. Cheryl When my son was 6, a boy in our community (same age) was snatched on the way home from school, taken into the woods, and mutilated. He survived. But that was the day I turned into an overprotective mother. I took him to school from then on. Even though we lived 3 blocks from school. There is some credence to what Cheryl is saying. It took him much longer to become an independent adult than it should, because we smothered him. We always had a houseful of kids--because I wanted him playing here where I could watch him. DH turned Boy Scouting into an obsesssion--after all, if he was Scoutmaster, he'd always be at every function/campout himself to supervise. Anyway, this kid didn't really grow up until he was nearly in his mid-20's. I blame our parenting on that. On the other hand, I'm pretty proud of the way he eventually "turned out"....so I guess we didn't do too much damage. Kids just don't come with instructions. There's a lot more pressure to being a kid than there used to. I used to catch a horse with a rope, that was so tall I had to stand on the dog house to get on her back. And disappear riding bareback for hours and hours. I'd never let my kid do that. I'd have visions of him/her lying somewhere unconscious and bleeding. Sherry |
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