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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
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, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" wrote: snip Family was created to force us to be with people we would not necessarily choose to be around - Rabbi David Wolpe (paraphrased by Smokie Darling). On the other hand, somebody else once said, "Friends are the family we choose." Baird -- You know you're getting old when Muzak plays the Top 40 of your salad days. |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
"Christina Websell" wrote in message ... I was surprised to see him on Saturday as he hadn't been in touch since before my recent operation, although he knew about it. He was a bit sniffy that my house was not as tidy as he thought it should be, which is surprising as he never lifts a finger in his own house but lets his wife do it all. My garden was more overgrown that he would like too. I got the impression he thought I was a bit lazy. I reminded him that I'd been quite ill recently and had been unable to do it myself. I said he might have sent his wife to tidy the house and himself to do the garden if he was that bothered and indeed it might have made me feel better so why didn't he think of it as it would helped me so much? Total silence. Good. This is the little boy that I taught to read before he went to school which gave him so much advantage that he gained a degree in biology and got a great job. Is it too much to ask him to help me now? I certainly never taught him to let his wife do all the domestic tasks when she works too. Tweed That is incredibly rude. What does he care for anyway? None of his business. And he certainly should help you out, and you shouldn't have to ask. I'm sorry, this must hurt you. Karla |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
"Christina Websell" wrote in message ... "Magic Mood Jeep" wrote in message ... A few words about your brother: ungrateful little _________________ (fill in the blank) Yes he is. I was 13 when he was born and 15 for my other brother who lives just a mile away and gave me one meal two days after I came out of hospital and hasn't been in contact since. I did not want to bother my aunt again with looking after me for days as she has enough to do with my uncle recently breaking his hip, so I was hoping my brother might step up to the plate. Nope. They've both forgotten what I did for them. I made flash cards when they were 3 to teach them to read to give them a good start in life. Which it did, and they both earn more money than I do. I bought them Tonka toys so they would give up their soothers in return. All I ask is they acknowledge I need some help now and will well, help. Fat chance. The last phone conversation I had with my brother, he suggested I got rid of all my chickens and Francis Drake "in case you cannot look after them because of your health" He did not mention Boyfriend, although when he was here he referred to him as "it" Boyfie was in the kitchen and my brother asked if I could put "it" outside. He didn't need to ask, Boyfie took one look at him and was gone. I don't blame him. I must have done something wrong rearing this brother, my other brother has Tigger who he spent a fortune on repairing his jaw after a road accident. Tigger is fine now. I would like to make friends with him but he thinks I am the pits. I try to to stroke him but he just says Oh, F.O and disappears out of the cat door. Can't help liking him though, he is very good with the children. Myself, had I kittens to rehome I would not have given one to my brother with 3 small children. I would have been wrong. Children are happy with the cat, cat is happy with the children. One of the children described Tigger as her brother. My brother said "Tigger is a cat, he's not your brother." She disagreed. As far as she is concerned Tigger is her brother. She will not be moved from this idea. Tweed You struck gold with your niece! Karla |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
"Christina Websell" wrote in message ... (snip) There is a problem because I have found half sisters and brothers through Genes Reunited. I knew my father had other children and now I've found them. My two brothers who I was brought up with since 11 had a different father so when I found my new family they went berserk. Why? Because it will affect their inheritance if I haven't made a will LOL Well, that completes a not very pretty picture. But sadly, very common. Please give Boyfie a pet from me, I'm sorry he got called "it". That drives me crazy.. Karla |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
Christina Websell wrote:
snip One of the children described Tigger as her brother. My brother said "Tigger is a cat, he's not your brother." She disagreed. As far as she is concerned Tigger is her brother. She will not be moved from this idea. Tweed Your niece sounds delightful. :-) When I stayed with my sister a couple of weeks ago she apologised for her untidy house. I said "who cares, so long as Lucky is happy." -- Adrian (Owned by Snoopy, Bagheera & Shadow) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
"Kreisleriana" drtmuirATearthlink.net wrote in message
m... "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... I was surprised to see him on Saturday as he hadn't been in touch since before my recent operation, although he knew about it. He was a bit sniffy that my house was not as tidy as he thought it should be, which is surprising as he never lifts a finger in his own house but lets his wife do it all. My garden was more overgrown that he would like too. I got the impression he thought I was a bit lazy. I reminded him that I'd been quite ill recently and had been unable to do it myself. I said he might have sent his wife to tidy the house and himself to do the garden if he was that bothered and indeed it might have made me feel better so why didn't he think of it as it would helped me so much? Total silence. Good. This is the little boy that I taught to read before he went to school which gave him so much advantage that he gained a degree in biology and got a great job. Is it too much to ask him to help me now? I certainly never taught him to let his wife do all the domestic tasks when she works too. Tweed This makes me feel so sad-- I think brothers and sisters should be close, and I am rather unhappy about my relationship with my brother, at the moment, although it's not exactly like what you describe. I wish I could find a magic formula that would bring me and my brother, and you and yours, and Jill's and her's, and everybody else's back together. (((((((((Christina)))))))))) -- Theresa and Dante Stinky Forever: http://pets.webshots.com/album/125591586JWEFwh Yes, (((((Christina))))) Theresa, sometimes there is no going back. Unfortunately, family members are often the least considerate. I don't expect to mend fences with my middle brother. He got greedy and wanted to be in control of everything. He was the least helpful and hindered me the most in my completion of my appointed duties as executrix. (I'm still not done, by the way... the estate cannot be officially settled until August and then I have tax forms to file in October.) I sent my brother an email and offered to drop off my grandmother's china when I went back to Memphis (it was stored there). I told him when I'd be in town and said I could drop it off. I never heard a word from him. So guess what? The china moved here with me. I still have it and here it will stay. He was too stubborn to reply to my email, to call me or whatever. Just so happens it is the most expensive of all the china in the family. Guess what? He missed out. All because he wouldn't reply to my email. Ungrateful, that's what he is. I did all the work taking care of our parents, my mother, and both of their estates. He got money, the furniture of his choice delivered from this house without any effort on his part. I extended an olive leaf, he ignored it. Sorry, I'm done. I do wish Christina's brothers would do more to help her. I'd have handed that one a broom. If you don't like the way I keep house when I just got out of the hospital, here, deal with it. I completely understand her frustration. Jill |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
Christina wrote:
I must have done something wrong rearing this brother, my other brother has Tigger who he spent a fortune on repairing his jaw after a road accident. Tigger is fine now. I remember that he was allowed outside even though he really was too young. Is he more street-savvy now? Or is he kept indoors? One of the children described Tigger as her brother. My brother said "Tigger is a cat, he's not your brother." She disagreed. As far as she is concerned Tigger is her brother. She will not be moved from this idea. Smart kid. When I was a kid, the animals were more "family" to me than the human family. -- Joyce ^..^ To email me, remove the XXX from my user name. |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
On Jun 18, 2:06*pm, "Christina Websell"
wrote: I was surprised to see him on Saturday as he hadn't been in touch since before my recent operation, although he knew about it. He was a bit sniffy that my house was not as tidy as he thought it should be, which is surprising as he never lifts a finger in his own house but lets his wife do it all. *My garden was more overgrown that he would like too. *I got the impression he thought I was a bit lazy. (respectful snip) You've just been operated on, not to mention all the other things happening around that time. Would it be too presumptuous of me to say that Brother sounds like an award-winning douchebag? In an ideal world you'd think family would pitch in for each other, not sit and criticize. If people wonder why I prefer the company of four-legged people much of the time... Blessed be, Baha |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
I'm so sorry, Christina, that your brother is so insensitive -- sometimes we
keep hoping and thinking people will change so I'm sure his responses were pretty hurtful. I like Matthew's response about handing him the broom and telling him to get busy! Definitely, in many cases, friends are superior to family. Many hugs for you. Purrs, too. Christine "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... I was surprised to see him on Saturday as he hadn't been in touch since before my recent operation, although he knew about it. He was a bit sniffy that my house was not as tidy as he thought it should be, which is surprising as he never lifts a finger in his own house but lets his wife do it all. My garden was more overgrown that he would like too. I got the impression he thought I was a bit lazy. I reminded him that I'd been quite ill recently and had been unable to do it myself. I said he might have sent his wife to tidy the house and himself to do the garden if he was that bothered and indeed it might have made me feel better so why didn't he think of it as it would helped me so much? Total silence. Good. This is the little boy that I taught to read before he went to school which gave him so much advantage that he gained a degree in biology and got a great job. Is it too much to ask him to help me now? I certainly never taught him to let his wife do all the domestic tasks when she works too. Tweed |
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First visit from one of my brothers for months (OT)
"Adrian" wrote in message om... Christina Websell wrote: snip One of the children described Tigger as her brother. My brother said "Tigger is a cat, he's not your brother." She disagreed. As far as she is concerned Tigger is her brother. She will not be moved from this idea. Tweed Your niece sounds delightful. :-) When I stayed with my sister a couple of weeks ago she apologised for her untidy house. I said "who cares, so long as Lucky is happy." It's actually not "that" untidy, except by the standards of his wife who is an uber-housewife. I think she would die of shame if there was anything out of place or a speck of dust in her house. To me, that's not natural. She once said to me "you will never open one of *my* cupboards and not find it spotless!" as if she thought it mattered somehow and it might impress me. It didn't, quite the reverse. I secretly thought it was obsessive. I hoover and tidy my house once weekly on a Saturday, unfortunately my brother arrived at 9.30 a.m. Saturday when I'd just got up. I like to sleep in on Saturday & Sunday to recover from the week of rising at 7, 45 minutes commute each way, 5 days of emotionally draining work. Which my brother seems to think is not worthwhile as I am dealing with "the dregs of society" He does not realise he could have been the dregs of society himself, since my mother was forced to leave my stepfather was he was 4 and my younger brother Andrew was 2 due to domestic violence and his emotional abuse of me We had no money so I abandoned any hope of further education and went to work at 15 to help my mother with my wages. She could easily have put them into care but she didn't. He seems to have forgotten all this. Yes, Matthew is right, I should have offered him the Dyson & strimmer and said "get going, brother.." Tweed |
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