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Older Cat, New Kitten
Hi folks,
Newbie here. I have a beloved older male cat, Dickson, who's about 12. He's been on his own for about 3 years, since his mother died. My girlfriend really wants to get a new kitten. We live in a large loft, but there's really only one logical place for the existance of litter boxes and cat food (for the long term). From some reading on the 'net, I understood that we would have fewer adjustment problems if the kitten were a female. Is that true? The girlfriend wants an Orange kitten, and its hard to find a female at the local shelters, so I'm wondering how important the gender of the kitten is. What I don't want is dominance struggles a year from now when the kitten gets older. Thanks in advance, Gideon |
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With a kitten, I don't think the gender matters much. A kitten is much less
threatening. Gail wrote in message oups.com... Hi folks, Newbie here. I have a beloved older male cat, Dickson, who's about 12. He's been on his own for about 3 years, since his mother died. My girlfriend really wants to get a new kitten. We live in a large loft, but there's really only one logical place for the existance of litter boxes and cat food (for the long term). From some reading on the 'net, I understood that we would have fewer adjustment problems if the kitten were a female. Is that true? The girlfriend wants an Orange kitten, and its hard to find a female at the local shelters, so I'm wondering how important the gender of the kitten is. What I don't want is dominance struggles a year from now when the kitten gets older. Thanks in advance, Gideon |
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On 2005-01-21, ceb penned:
Right now I have a cat and a dog, and they seem to like and tolerate each other much better than my former two cats ever did -- they don't compete for territory, and I think they're good company for each other. So that's something to consider if your primary motivation is getting company for your first cat. This has also been my experience. I got Oscar to keep my aging dog Puma company, and they got along fine. Then I moved into my brother's townhouse and Oscar had to deal with a very large young dog. It was a little more exciting, but they never tried to hurt each other. Then I tried to adopt Eros, a young cat. He was about a year and a half old. Oscar couldn't get away from Eros. Our house became a battleground. Eros wanted to get Oscar's attention to play; Oscar wanted nothing to do with him. She moved under the bed and wouldn't get out. The few times she tried to defend herself from his advances, she got the worst of it and now has a nick in her ear as a permanent souvenir. I'm not saying that getting another cat can't work; plenty of people have done so. But I would agree that cats are unpredictable. Also, the manager of the shelter told me as much; she said that you can never tell whether any two cats will get along. -- monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!* |
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Anyway, what is my point? It is just that I don't think you can tell
how two cats are going to get along, and the best you can do is pick a kitten whose temperament you like (color should probably be less important) Sadly, the color issue seems to be a big deal to the girlfriend. I think its a sentimental issue because of a former cat of hers. Oh well... Thanks for the advice all. Gideon |
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All I can say is that you might want to try with an older cat when your
1st cat is such a senior. We got a kitten to keep one of our older cats company (she was mourning the loss of her best pal) and it did not work out at all! While, in theory, a kitten is less threatening to an established cat, they are still kittens after all. Kittens have *way* more life force than a 12 year old cat. Your senior will probably want to mostly sleep while the kitten will want to mostly play--not a happy combination, I can assure you. It's not fair to a kitten to have to constantly chase them away from your poor older cat who wants to simply hang out and have some peace. The kitten will need to play and romp and there will be no one else to bug but your senior. And I don't even want to go into how such stress can effect a 12 year old kitty..... So, my advice would be to pick a mellow older cat. The odds of the two of them getting along will be the same, and perhaps better than with a kitten simply because an older cat won't be chasing your senior and literally driving them nuts. Good luck! dragon |
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I agree. Twelve is pretty darned old to have a baby brother! Your cat
might get pretty grouchy after getting jumped on twenty times a day. Try a friendly cat - maybe around 5 years old or so - who has experience living with other cats. They may not adore each other (or they may), but they'll probably be able to establish rules for co-existence. Even when they don't love each other madly, I think the drama of their daily interactions is sort've a stimulant for them : A very young kitten kinda turns your old guy into a cat dad. Not every old coot has it in them : And boy are there alot of sweet five year old cats that need homes.... |
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I agree with Catherine. My male cat was 14 when I got a male kitten....an
orange tabby, by the way. This was a little over a year ago. They aren't best buds, but they get along okay, better than I thought, actually. There is still some fighting that sometimes gets out of hand (or at least it sounds like it does). I think what's important is how you introduce the 2 cats. Do it very slowly. It was over a month before I would leave my 2 together alone. Make sure they both have their own spaces. Sue "ceb" wrote in message ... wrote in news:1106321757.563226.255780 @z14g2000cwz.googlegroups.com: My girlfriend really wants to get a new kitten. We live in a large loft, but there's really only one logical place for the existance of litter boxes and cat food (for the long term). From some reading on the 'net, I understood that we would have fewer adjustment problems if the kitten were a female. Is that true? The girlfriend wants an Orange kitten, and its hard to find a female at the local shelters, so I'm wondering how important the gender of the kitten is. What I don't want is dominance struggles a year from now when the kitten gets older. I think the chemistry between two cats is pretty unpredictable, although others may disagree. I think getting a kitten is a good idea but I don't know whether the gender matters (as it does mostly for dogs). But I got Madeline (who was 4 months old) when Nickleby was 7 or 8, and they really never got along despite living together for 10 years -- they came to tolerate each other and kept each other company, and they stopped hissing at each other after an initial period of hell. I think Madeline was good for Nickleby but they never developed the close relationship I had hoped for. I do have some deceptive pictures of them both lying on my desk, which was the closest they would get to each other -- only *I* know that Madeline was up there first, and Nickleby jumped up and made her move to an inferior (less sunny) spot. Anyway, what is my point? It is just that I don't think you can tell how two cats are going to get along, and the best you can do is pick a kitten whose temperament you like (color should probably be less important) and hope that s/he then meshes with the other cat whose temperament you like. Steel yourself for lots of supervising at first, and don't let them torment each other, and I'm sure they will work everything out. Right now I have a cat and a dog, and they seem to like and tolerate each other much better than my former two cats ever did -- they don't compete for territory, and I think they're good company for each other. So that's something to consider if your primary motivation is getting company for your first cat. --Catherine & Rosalie the calico |
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Finding an orange female is going to be tough. Because of that gene, 80%
of all orange tabbies are male. How about a tortoiseshell (black and orange) or calico? They are always female (well, unless you have a genetic "mistake,"), and those two can have quite a bit of orange. Rhonda wrote: The girlfriend wants an Orange kitten, and its hard to find a female at the local shelters, so I'm wondering how important the gender of the kitten is. |
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