I am so angry (vent)

On 01 Nov 2003 00:53:29 GMT, Sherry wrote:
Good point. (except Mary didn't exercise restraint because she's coward, it's
because she is just an inherently nice person)......but you're right. The idiot
will continue to go through life behaving like an uneducated, uncouth moron
unless somebody points out to him that he's going to lose business over it.

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that she was a coward for exercising
restraint. I most likely would have done the same thing in her
situations. However, if she's contemplating writing a letter then I
think that she most certainly should do so. A lot of people don't
follow through on ideas like that and, as I mentioned before, someone
can't learn from their mistakes if they don't know that they are making
them. Hopefully a well worded letter of complaint will make him realize
the error of his ways.

I think that some people who don't own pets don't realize how pets
quickly become part of one's family. I know my cat is a part of my
family and I wouldn't tollerate someone making fun of my cat any more
than I would tollerate someone making fun of my daughter. Some folks
just think that because it's an animal that they're talking about that
it's somehow different.

Anyway, Mary, I hope you once you cool off you can write a letter to
give this guy some perspective and decent manners.

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

I agree, Mary, he sounds loike an a-hole. I have people tease me a lot about
my feelings for my cats, mostly guys at work, of course, but I think they're
just yanking my chain. This guy sounds like he really thought it was
hysterical if he couldn't even control himself. Tell him goodbye and good
riddance. I would write a letter at the least and tell him to stuff himself.



Candace
(take the litter out before replying by e-mail)

See my cats:
http://photos.yahoo.com/maccandace

"One does not meet oneself until one catches the reflection from an eye other
than human." (Loren Eisely)

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

I agree, Mary, he sounds loike an a-hole. I have people tease me a lot about
my feelings for my cats, mostly guys at work, of course, but I think they're
just yanking my chain. This guy sounds like he really thought it was
hysterical if he couldn't even control himself. Tell him goodbye and good
riddance. I would write a letter at the least and tell him to stuff himself.



Candace
(take the litter out before replying by e-mail)

See my cats:
http://photos.yahoo.com/maccandace

"One does not meet oneself until one catches the reflection from an eye other
than human." (Loren Eisely)

"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
...
I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need
to
vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy)
several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used
the
same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will
be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got
for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally
attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and
what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started
laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop
momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you
just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I
would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing
uproariously
all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all
that money on a blind cat."

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL



Hi Everyone,

Thanks for all the helpful comments. It helped to "vent," and it did me a
LOT of good to see all the support from this group. I usually calm down
pretty quickly, and that is true now. However, even when thinking about this
incident in "the coolness of the day," I find it hard to believe that anyone
would be so insensitive (and stupid! because he has now lost a good
customer).

Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make
a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to
the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only
seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since
that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter in which I will
inform him that I will not use his services after this and tell him exactly
why he has lost a customer of 8 or 9 years' standing. Many of you suggested
this route, and I particularly like the way Rona described it. This will
give me a chance to clearly state my feelings and will also avoid the
possibility that he could later misquote me. Among other things, I am going
to point out that my two cats are members of my family - I look on them as
my children. I am going to ask him how he would react if he heard someone
say something like that about a blind person (although my suspicion is that
he probably has little empathy for what he would see as "less than perfect"
people, either). I am also going to point out that he showed a complete lack
of respect for me by taking this position in my house and continuing with it
after I objected. Building on what Rona said, I can honestly tell him that I
have recommended him in the past and sent new customers to him - and make it
clear that any comments I make from now on will be negative and will include
details of this encounter. Incidentally, I love Jeremy's suggestion about
handing out buttons but admit that I can't see myself actually following
through on that one. A fine idea, though!

Duffy is a complete delight. He is one of the sweetest, best-natured cats I
have ever seen. Holly and Duffy together bring me such joy - and I think I
bring joy to them. They are both happy, loving, playful cats. I doubt that
the man who will receive my letter can even understand this type of
relationship, but maybe he will understand the relationship between my
letter and some loss of income.

Thanks, again, for all your help. I'm not going to rush this. I'm going to
take plenty of time this weekend and try to write a thoughtful and accurate
letter, so I'm open to more suggestions. I hope I can be "intelligent,
articulate, unflustered and factual," as Sherry suggested.

MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Duffy and Holly: 'o'
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")

"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
...
I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need
to
vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy)
several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used
the
same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will
be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got
for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally
attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and
what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started
laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop
momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you
just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I
would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing
uproariously
all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all
that money on a blind cat."

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL



Hi Everyone,

Thanks for all the helpful comments. It helped to "vent," and it did me a
LOT of good to see all the support from this group. I usually calm down
pretty quickly, and that is true now. However, even when thinking about this
incident in "the coolness of the day," I find it hard to believe that anyone
would be so insensitive (and stupid! because he has now lost a good
customer).

Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough to make
a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and escorted him to
the door, as was also suggested). That would have been perfect - but I only
seem to think of those perfect reactions after it is much too late. Since
that opportunity has passed, I am going to write a letter in which I will
inform him that I will not use his services after this and tell him exactly
why he has lost a customer of 8 or 9 years' standing. Many of you suggested
this route, and I particularly like the way Rona described it. This will
give me a chance to clearly state my feelings and will also avoid the
possibility that he could later misquote me. Among other things, I am going
to point out that my two cats are members of my family - I look on them as
my children. I am going to ask him how he would react if he heard someone
say something like that about a blind person (although my suspicion is that
he probably has little empathy for what he would see as "less than perfect"
people, either). I am also going to point out that he showed a complete lack
of respect for me by taking this position in my house and continuing with it
after I objected. Building on what Rona said, I can honestly tell him that I
have recommended him in the past and sent new customers to him - and make it
clear that any comments I make from now on will be negative and will include
details of this encounter. Incidentally, I love Jeremy's suggestion about
handing out buttons but admit that I can't see myself actually following
through on that one. A fine idea, though!

Duffy is a complete delight. He is one of the sweetest, best-natured cats I
have ever seen. Holly and Duffy together bring me such joy - and I think I
bring joy to them. They are both happy, loving, playful cats. I doubt that
the man who will receive my letter can even understand this type of
relationship, but maybe he will understand the relationship between my
letter and some loss of income.

Thanks, again, for all your help. I'm not going to rush this. I'm going to
take plenty of time this weekend and try to write a thoughtful and accurate
letter, so I'm open to more suggestions. I hope I can be "intelligent,
articulate, unflustered and factual," as Sherry suggested.

MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Duffy and Holly: 'o'
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")

MaryL wrote:

Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough
to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and
escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have
been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions
after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am
going to write a letter [snip great letter content]

You also might want to mention that some of the most frequent
users of carpet cleaners are animal owners, and that he might
find himself losing more of his best customers if he does not
change his piggish ways.

You are a very good and special person to care for disabled
and ailing critters. Those of us who are compassionate and generous
are always facing ridicule from those who, let's face it, just do not
measure up. If they don't jeer they might have to admit that they
are not doing what they should to help the creatures (and people!)
who need it.

MaryL wrote:

Here is what I have decided. First, I wish I had thought fast enough
to make a comment such as those that several of you suggested (and
escorted him to the door, as was also suggested). That would have
been perfect - but I only seem to think of those perfect reactions
after it is much too late. Since that opportunity has passed, I am
going to write a letter [snip great letter content]

You also might want to mention that some of the most frequent
users of carpet cleaners are animal owners, and that he might
find himself losing more of his best customers if he does not
change his piggish ways.

You are a very good and special person to care for disabled
and ailing critters. Those of us who are compassionate and generous
are always facing ridicule from those who, let's face it, just do not
measure up. If they don't jeer they might have to admit that they
are not doing what they should to help the creatures (and people!)
who need it.

I don't blame you. What a jerk! Make sure you know why he lost your
business, and make sure to tell are your friends not to hire him, and
to let him know why they aren't. Maybe *that* will give him something
to ponder in the future.

Ginger-lyn

On Fri, 31 Oct 2003 14:22:57 -0600, "MaryL"
-OUT-THE-LITTER wrote:

I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need to
vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy)
several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used the
same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will
be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got
for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally
attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and
what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started
laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop
momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you
just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I
would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing uproariously
all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all
that money on a blind cat."

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Holly and Duffy:
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")

I don't blame you. What a jerk! Make sure you know why he lost your
business, and make sure to tell are your friends not to hire him, and
to let him know why they aren't. Maybe *that* will give him something
to ponder in the future.

Ginger-lyn

On Fri, 31 Oct 2003 14:22:57 -0600, "MaryL"
-OUT-THE-LITTER wrote:

I am so angry!! This isn't a problem where I need any advice, but I need to
vent. Some of you know that I adopted a beautiful blind kitty (Duffy)
several months ago. Today I had my windows and carpets cleaned. I used the
same man who has done this cleaning for a number of years -- but this will
be my last time. First he started to laugh when he saw the cat tree I got
for Duffy and Holly. I could handle that alright -- I am not emotionally
attached to furniture. However, when I explained that Duffy is blind and
what I was trying to accomplish with some of the cat furniture, he started
laughing again and laughed so hard he couldn't stop. He would stop
momentarily, then say "A blind cat -- that is so funny -- why didn't you
just get rid of it and get a healthy cat" and would laugh again. When I
would intervene, he would say "I'm sorry," then start laughing uproariously
all over again and say, "But it's just so funny that you would spend all
that money on a blind cat."

This whole thing made me so angry I can hardly describe what I feel. What
kind of heartless monster would react like that?? Anyway, it will be his
last time here. I am going to find someone else for the future.

--
MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Holly and Duffy:
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")

In article , AKE-
OUT-THE-LITTER says...
I'm going to
take plenty of time this weekend and try to write a thoughtful and accurate
letter, so I'm open to more suggestions. I hope I can be "intelligent,
articulate, unflustered and factual," as Sherry suggested.

MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Duffy and Holly: 'o'
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")




Those of us who have followed the Duffy and Holly saga know you have a
kind heart, Mary, so I'm not surprised that you're going to give him the
benefit of an explanation for not hiring him in future. My experience
with people like your cleaning man is that they were taught from
childhood that animals are to be used and discarded at will. He has
probably never bonded with an animal, and the idea of doing so would seem
ridiculous to him. At least, however, he may learn to keep his fool
mouth shut.

Deb
--
Don't let perfection get in the way of 'pretty damn good'. - "Coach" Jack
Donohue