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Tweed I need advice
Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB
"Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks. " He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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Tweed I need advice
Lesley wrote: Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB "Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks. " He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs I think I'd tell SOMEONE - better raise an unnecessary alarm than overlook a case of abuse. (Kids have no means of protection, if the adults in their lives don't notice their plight.) |
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Tweed I need advice
On Sun, 07 Jul 2013 14:09:12 -0700, EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
Lesley wrote: Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB "Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks. " He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs I think I'd tell SOMEONE - better raise an unnecessary alarm than overlook a case of abuse. (Kids have no means of protection, if the adults in their lives don't notice their plight.) When I was 10 years old there was a girl who sat behind me in school who stretchewd her mouth with her fingers. It made her have an ugly mouth, One day I asked her why she did it and she said it was to make her stop crying. One day I rtealized she was crying and I turned around and asked her what was wrong. Her reply was that her peepee hurt. In a few minutes the teacher called me to her desk, turned my back to the class ans asked me what Mae told me. I repeated her reply. In a few minutes the teacher said she had to leave for a few minutes and we must all be as quiet as mice. Shortly thereafter the teacher and Princial came in thru the side door and took Mae out. We didn't see her again for a week or so. When she returned she was a much betterr looking and happier girl. That night, I heard my mother tell a neighbor they had finally got rid of "that guy". It was a lifetime ago and I was 10 but I never forgot it though I rerally didn't understand it. Yes! tellsomeone who can investigate. MLB |
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Tweed I need advice
On 8/07/2013 12:18 AM, Lesley wrote:
Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB "Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks." He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Absolutely he should follow through. If nothing else it should be reported, with as many details as he can remember, to the police. The school and social services (here in Australia, ours is called "DOCS" - Department of Child Services) would also benefit from contact (and he could let them know he's also contacted the other organisations). If he's lucky, they'll tell him that she's already "known" to that service, but most likely they'll simply thank him for his call and say they'll investigate. He won't be told anything more about the case, so as to protect that girl's privacy. His phone call could quite literally be the difference between life & death for that little girl. But even if its not, if he does nothing, that little girl will haunt his conscience for the rest of his days. Please encourage him in the strongest way possible, to follow through. Yowie |
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Tweed I need advice
On 7/7/2013 6:17 PM, Yowie wrote:
On 8/07/2013 12:18 AM, Lesley wrote: Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB "Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks." He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Absolutely he should follow through. If nothing else it should be reported, with as many details as he can remember, to the police. The school and social services (here in Australia, ours is called "DOCS" - Department of Child Services) would also benefit from contact (and he could let them know he's also contacted the other organisations). If he's lucky, they'll tell him that she's already "known" to that service, but most likely they'll simply thank him for his call and say they'll investigate. He won't be told anything more about the case, so as to protect that girl's privacy. His phone call could quite literally be the difference between life & death for that little girl. But even if its not, if he does nothing, that little girl will haunt his conscience for the rest of his days. Please encourage him in the strongest way possible, to follow through. Yowie I agree completely. Children have no way to defend themselves. I also agree it is first the teacher/school authorities duty to report suspected abuse. Bruises aside (what a terrible thing for me to say!)... The dirty clothes, unkempt appearance. That enough should be enough to trigger an investigation. But only if someone files a report. I have no idea why some adults turn a blind eye. Jill |
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Tweed I need advice
"jmcquown" wrote in message ... On 7/7/2013 6:17 PM, Yowie wrote: On 8/07/2013 12:18 AM, Lesley wrote: Sorry to ask but you're probably the best person to ask. A friend of mine works in a theatre group that does a lot of work with small children and he just posted this on FB "Out of the thousands of children visiting the theatre last week one little girl still haunts me. She was smaller than her classmates, frail and looked malnourished. Her hair was matted and unkempt. Her white polo shirt was dirty and discoloured. Worst of all she had bruises on her small arms, the size of adult finger marks." He doesn't know her name although he can find out what school she is from. None of us know where he could go although we all think he should raise this- should he talk to the school? Police? Social Services? I could ignore smaller, frail looking and looking malnourished- she might have an underlying medical condition but the bruises? The matted hair and dirty clothes? There may be a reason maybe she's even known to child protection but he should follow this through do you think? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Absolutely he should follow through. If nothing else it should be reported, with as many details as he can remember, to the police. The school and social services (here in Australia, ours is called "DOCS" - Department of Child Services) would also benefit from contact (and he could let them know he's also contacted the other organisations). If he's lucky, they'll tell him that she's already "known" to that service, but most likely they'll simply thank him for his call and say they'll investigate. He won't be told anything more about the case, so as to protect that girl's privacy. His phone call could quite literally be the difference between life & death for that little girl. But even if its not, if he does nothing, that little girl will haunt his conscience for the rest of his days. Please encourage him in the strongest way possible, to follow through. Yowie I agree completely. Children have no way to defend themselves. I also agree it is first the teacher/school authorities duty to report suspected abuse. Bruises aside (what a terrible thing for me to say!)... The dirty clothes, unkempt appearance. That enough should be enough to trigger an investigation. But only if someone files a report. I have no idea why some adults turn a blind eye. Jill ~~~~~~ There is actually a legal obligation in the U.S. (at least in most states--probably all of them) to report suspected cases of child abuse. The person submitting this information is not subject to law suits unless it is a case of harassment, which normally would mean numerous unfounded reports. I am not familiar with child abuse laws in other nations, but I suspect there are similar obligations and protections. So, I would view this as both a moral and a legal obligation, and I would applaud the person who follows through in this case. MaryL |
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Tweed I need advice
He's spoken to the school, he's not the only person to have raised concerns about this girl and the matter is with social services but the teacher thanked him because they need every statement of concern they can get as the mother isn't co-operating with social services and denies anything is going on
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Tweed I need advice
"Lesley" wrote in message ... He's spoken to the school, he's not the only person to have raised concerns about this girl and the matter is with social services but the teacher thanked him because they need every statement of concern they can get as the mother isn't co-operating with social services and denies anything is going on Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs ~~~~~~~ Thanks for the update. I hope social services acts quickly and thoroughly. There have been numerous cases in the U.S. where social services have done an exemplary job, but there have also been numerous instances where they have failed to take action when they should have--including tragedies ending death. Staffing of social services always seems to be inadequate for the case load. MaryL |
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Tweed I need advice
On 7/8/2013 10:18 AM, Lesley wrote:
He's spoken to the school, he's not the only person to have raised concerns about this girl and the matter is with social services but the teacher thanked him because they need every statement of concern they can get as the mother isn't co-operating with social services and denies anything is going on Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Thank you for the follow-up. I do hope they can do something to continue investigating. If there *is* something going on, naturally the mother is going to deny it. Jill |
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Tweed I need advice
Lesley wrote:
[snip, because (1) the situation has progressed, and (2) my comment is unrelated] Where *is* Tweed, anyway? I haven't seen a post from her in a while, and I'm surprised she hasn't responded to this post yet. Is anyone in touch with her? Hope she's OK. -- Joyce Fluffy Mackerel Pudding - "Once upon a time, the world was young and the words 'mackerel' and 'pudding' existed far, far away from one another. One day, that all changed. And then, whoever was responsible somehow thought the word 'fluffy' would help." -- Hilarious recipes at: www.candyboots.com |
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