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Rhonda wrote:
/snip/ What can I tell her? I'm trying very hard not to be ****ed that this cat was left behind, but I am ****ed. I cannot believe a 2-day trip could have been worse than this. Thanks, Rhonda Some people don't seem to get it when they adopt a pet. Our latest cat Morrison had a very rough life. He was born blind (detached retinas we have been told) but he was adopted by an elderly lady who wanted company. She passed away when he was about a year old and some relatives kept him outside because they didn't like cats. Then they turned him over to the local rescue center where he was adopted out to a young man who returned him when he got transfered out of the country. The next owner returned him when her son became allergic to cats. The owner before us returned him because (this you may find hard to swallow) "there is something wrong with his eyes" (yes they don't focus because he is blind you nimrod). After spending a couple of days wandering around the house (getting to know his way around) he has settled in and displays just the sweetest personality. He has bonded with the youngest (and rowdiest) cat and they play together constantly. I don't know how anyone gave him up. God luck with your cat. |
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"coorslte" wrote in message ... Rhonda wrote: /snip/ What can I tell her? I'm trying very hard not to be ****ed that this cat was left behind, but I am ****ed. I cannot believe a 2-day trip could have been worse than this. Thanks, Rhonda Some people don't seem to get it when they adopt a pet. Our latest cat Morrison had a very rough life. He was born blind (detached retinas we have been told) but he was adopted by an elderly lady who wanted company. She passed away when he was about a year old and some relatives kept him outside because they didn't like cats. Then they turned him over to the local rescue center where he was adopted out to a young man who returned him when he got transfered out of the country. The next owner returned him when her son became allergic to cats. The owner before us returned him because (this you may find hard to swallow) "there is something wrong with his eyes" (yes they don't focus because he is blind you nimrod). After spending a couple of days wandering around the house (getting to know his way around) he has settled in and displays just the sweetest personality. He has bonded with the youngest (and rowdiest) cat and they play together constantly. I don't know how anyone gave him up. God luck with your cat. Bless you. |
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On Thu 04 Aug 2005 12:30:26a, Rhonda wrote in
rec.pets.cats.health+behav ): 3 years ago Walter (sig.other) trapped 3 kittens where he works. They had not been handled by humans until then. The vet said they were about 10 wks old. We had all of them for 3 weeks as they got their shots, worming, etc. We worked for hours to socialize them, and had good luck. The orange guy especially turned into a love bug. We found a home for the orange guy -- a cat lover in Oregon. He was very skittish at first, but came to love her and his new cat friend. I've been keeping in touch with her since then, but here's the tough part. She didn't answer an email recently so I called someone else I knew in her office (a different branch of our company.) The cat-lover was in the process of moving to Utah, without the orange guy! She had decided that he did not take the last move to a new apartment well, and didn't want to put him through a drive to Salt Lake. She gave him to a co-worker and took the other cat with her!!! I'm now in contact with the new owner and trying to provide support. The cat is FREAKED. He has lost his home, his human, and his cat partner. He has reverted to semi-feral mode. She has not been able to touch him for 2 weeks and he is hiding behind the appliances and in cupboards (which they all did in our bathroom as kittens.) She is a new cat owner and this is a lot to lay on someone who wanted their first cat. I've been giving advice over the phone -- sit and talk to him, get him used to your voice, lay treats in front of him, try to play with him with a fishing-pole toy, etc. She is scared of him hasn't gotten too close because he huddles away from her, and she is afraid he will attack. He is not a mean cat and I told her to just go slow, but it's important to start getting closer to him. Any advice I could pass on? I told her I'd drive down there and help any time. She had a friend who is a more experienced cat-person come over and he talked baby talk to the cat, and actually got close enough to pet him. The cat let him do it, although he was hiding and tense. She's too afraid to attempt that on her own, and he went back in a cupboard as soon as the other guy left. He is coming out when she's not there and eating and using the litter box. What can I tell her? I'm trying very hard not to be ****ed that this cat was left behind, but I am ****ed. I cannot believe a 2-day trip could have been worse than this. Thanks, Rhonda This is so maddening, Rhonda. I know how you feel because you put a lot of your own love and care into socializing him, found him what you thought was a forever home, and have this happen! I hate people sometimes. I wonder if he'd be better off in a smaller space until he isn't as freaked out? Maybe in a spare room if they have one, or just closed in her room and have her go in, sit on the floor and talk quietly with him? If she's afraid of him, her own room might not work, but maybe a bathroom with a box on its side (opening away from the door) and lots of blankets to make it soft, some soft music maybe? My Bonnie spent her first 2 weeks in my house in the bathroom downstairs. She freaked when I even went in there, so she was by herself a lot. As much as I hated it, she seemed to adjust better. Of course, she was feral and older than the orange boy when she was trapped. Most of her socializing after that was in a cage for 2 months. How is he now? Have you spoken with her? Good luck to her. So sad, but glad she's going to give him a chance! -- Cheryl "The clever cat eats cheese and breathes down rat holes with baited breath." - W.C. Fields |
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On Fri 05 Aug 2005 04:02:11p, Karen wrote in
rec.pets.cats.health+behav ): "coorslte" wrote in message ... Rhonda wrote: /snip/ What can I tell her? I'm trying very hard not to be ****ed that this cat was left behind, but I am ****ed. I cannot believe a 2-day trip could have been worse than this. Thanks, Rhonda Some people don't seem to get it when they adopt a pet. Our latest cat Morrison had a very rough life. He was born blind (detached retinas we have been told) but he was adopted by an elderly lady who wanted company. She passed away when he was about a year old and some relatives kept him outside because they didn't like cats. Then they turned him over to the local rescue center where he was adopted out to a young man who returned him when he got transfered out of the country. The next owner returned him when her son became allergic to cats. The owner before us returned him because (this you may find hard to swallow) "there is something wrong with his eyes" (yes they don't focus because he is blind you nimrod). After spending a couple of days wandering around the house (getting to know his way around) he has settled in and displays just the sweetest personality. He has bonded with the youngest (and rowdiest) cat and they play together constantly. I don't know how anyone gave him up. God luck with your cat. Bless you. DITTO what Karen said! That is one kitty that deserves lots of TLC. I'm glad you have him now! -- Cheryl "The clever cat eats cheese and breathes down rat holes with baited breath." - W.C. Fields |
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Thanks, Karen. I'll read that site.
Rhonda Karen wrote: It is a synthetic phermone. It is not unsafe. It is not a drug. You can read more at www.feliway.com. I think it would be a definite thing to try. It seems to help my cats get along better. |
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Wow, what a history your cat has had! They can be such survivors, it is
amazing. I'm glad Morrison now has a REAL forever home. Rhonda coorslte wrote: Some people don't seem to get it when they adopt a pet. Our latest cat Morrison had a very rough life. He was born blind (detached retinas we have been told) but he was adopted by an elderly lady who wanted company. |
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I passed along the suggestion of a smaller room to her today -- Kelly
has mentioned that too. She said she may put him in a spare room and see if that helps him feel more comfy with her. She was open to the idea. She had a friend and her husband come over last night, they are both cat lovers. They got him out a few times, but she said he mostly ran and hid. At least he was out a bit. They told her he seems very traumatized. She said she knows this will take a lot of patience on her part, but she seems committed to helping him. We're lucky that she's not one to give up easily. I'm putting together a cat-care package, and will be sending it to her. I should put a beer in it for her, too... Thanks for the suggestions, Rhonda Cheryl wrote: This is so maddening, Rhonda. I know how you feel because you put a lot of your own love and care into socializing him, found him what you thought was a forever home, and have this happen! I hate people sometimes. I wonder if he'd |
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I had major issues with my cats adjusting--I adopted three cats from the
humane society. One thing that helped us tremendously was using Bach Flower Essence Aspen--we had major issues with adjusting and such-and this seemed to calm them all down and bring them to the same level. I used it for two weeks. I highly suggest this. If you do get it--note: the bottle has to be shook first to activate it and about 4-5 drops in the water bowl. There is also a Bach Flower Essence spray that worked for Girly--especially with transporting. Another thing that helped us get use to each other--I played with them with cat toys--you know those kind with bells and shiney ribbons on a pole? It seemed to give them the focus on something but not the focus on me and it brought them closer into my personal space. I wish them the best. Sincerely, Jen Rhonda wrote: I passed along the suggestion of a smaller room to her today -- Kelly has mentioned that too. She said she may put him in a spare room and see if that helps him feel more comfy with her. She was open to the idea. She had a friend and her husband come over last night, they are both cat lovers. They got him out a few times, but she said he mostly ran and hid. At least he was out a bit. They told her he seems very traumatized. She said she knows this will take a lot of patience on her part, but she seems committed to helping him. We're lucky that she's not one to give up easily. I'm putting together a cat-care package, and will be sending it to her. I should put a beer in it for her, too... Thanks for the suggestions, Rhonda This is so maddening, Rhonda. I know how you feel because you put a lot of your own love and care into socializing him, found him what you thought was a forever home, and have this happen! I hate people sometimes. I wonder if he'd -- Message posted via CatKB.com http://www.catkb.com/Uwe/Forums.aspx...ealth/200508/1 |
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