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5 Month Olds are still Scared. Boyfriend is now scared too!
Feral kitties definitely present a challenge. I think it's best if
you're totally honest with yourself about whether you are willing to invest the time in them...this would be a 10-15 year committment. Nothing wrong with giving them back to ensure they have the chance for the best possible home. Just curious, did you get a chance to play with them before you adopted? LM007 via CatKB.com wrote: the kitties and their brothers and sisters were brought to the vet when they were 3 months old. the mother was never found so they don't know how long they'd been on their own but they were completely feral when they were brought in. then they spent 2 month in a cage at the vet. I spoke to the nice people at the vet and they said that the siblings of these guys are NOT adjusting well and they don't know what they are going to do with them. I think you guys are right that we need patience and that they will eventually come around. But i'm not sure that we have that kind of patience-- to be honest. and it's hard for me to believe that they won't be skittish. we don't want skittish cats that hide when people come over. I guess I'm looking for someone to tell me it's OK to take them back to the vet and let them find them a better home than we can provide. sorry to be such a bummer and thank you very much for listening to my problems. Michelle wrote: Wow, 13 days? I'm starting to wonder what sort of conditions these kitties came from. Did you get a history from the shelter? I really appreciate the responses I'm getting here. It's been 13 days since we got the kitties and we've been doing everything we can to make them feel [quoted text clipped - 43 lines] suggest that you not get another. A little shy at first is way down the list of problems one can have with a kitten/cat. -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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5 Month Olds are still Scared. Boyfriend is now scared too!
we did play with them at the vet hospital where they were living and they
were very playful. They are definitely making progress but we are still really on the fence. about 5 days ago we thought we were going to take them back but i'm already pretty attached to them and couldn't do it. They still run away if I try to touch them but they are jumping up on the bed and playing with their toy. thanks for all your responses. Michelle wrote: Feral kitties definitely present a challenge. I think it's best if you're totally honest with yourself about whether you are willing to invest the time in them...this would be a 10-15 year committment. Nothing wrong with giving them back to ensure they have the chance for the best possible home. Just curious, did you get a chance to play with them before you adopted? the kitties and their brothers and sisters were brought to the vet when they were 3 months old. the mother was never found so they don't know how long [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] suggest that you not get another. A little shy at first is way down the list of problems one can have with a kitten/cat. -- Message posted via CatKB.com http://www.catkb.com/Uwe/Forums.aspx...ealth/200608/1 |
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5 Month Olds are still Scared. Boyfriend is now scared too!
LM007 via CatKB.com wrote: so it's been 6 days since we've had the 5 month old brothers and they are still really scared and not affectionate. they lived at a shelter most of their lives so I don't know exactly how much human touch they had. they don't hiss at us but they don't let me pet them unless they are way under the tub and I'm stretched to my max. if I play with them for an hour with the toy they love and then slowly put my hand under the tub they will purr and stick their chin out for scratching. but that has only happened 2 times. most of the time if we move or make any noise they run and hide. One of them is a bit more adventurous than the other. anyhow. My boyfriend is afraid they will always be skittish and is talking about taking them back and getting one younger kitten instead. I'd hate to take them back. we are also concerned because we were planning on having them be indoor/outdoor cats but everyone seems to think we should keep them inside. we don't want to live with the smell of kitty litter (we have a tiny house) I'm so nervous that they aren't going to be affectionate. and if they aren't I won't be able to convince my boyfriend that we should keep them. I'm embarrassed that we aren't better at this- any and all thoughts/advice are welcome. Why would you want to devote your time and money to attending to them if they weren't affectionate, dear...? Don't you expect anything out of the relationship, or do you just like getting stepped on...? |
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5 Month Olds are still Scared. Boyfriend is now scared too!
In article 64f0c8170b9e7@uwe "LM007 via CatKB.com" u24697@uwe writes:
we did play with them at the vet hospital where they were living and they were very playful. They are definitely making progress but we are still really on the fence. about 5 days ago we thought we were going to take them back but i'm already pretty attached to them and couldn't do it. They still run away if I try to touch them but they are jumping up on the bed and playing with their toy. thanks for all your responses. Give them time. They apparently had more time to not know people, and to be scared than they have had to learn to trust you. Alan |
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