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Christina Websell wrote:
"Adrian" wrote in message ... Mischief wrote: I'm only 26, but I also suffer from depression. And back in July I am sorry to say that I was close to suicide. But one thing stopped me. Who would take care of my cats? My roommate would probably take care of them to a point, but she probably would have to move out since she can't afford to pay rent for our apartment by herself. And she can't take them home to her family in Anaheim, because they have about 14 cats anyway, and I don't want my furkids to be outdoor kitties. I got Imp from a cat adoption group, so she would probably call them and ask them to take Imp and Mischief too. I know they would find good homes. I am happy to say, that I'm feeling much better and I'm no longer contemplating suicide. I'm back on my meds, and I've cut down doing thigns that depress me (I won't go into what they are, but they weren't really healthy) I love my kitties very much. I've gone as far as to think of what would happen if there was a huge disaster and I had to evacuate. I'm not talking just putting the cats into carriers and then driving off in my car, I'm talking extreme disaster, like Day after Tomorrow or The Stand. (Hey, what can I say, I have an overactive imagination) Whatever would happen, I would not leave my furkids behind. Kristi I'm glad you're feeling better, I have been in the same position and knowing how much Snoopy loves me is what stopped me. I'm certain if it wasn't for Snoopy, I ouldn't be here now. -- Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. It was only knowing that my animals and birds depended on me that kept me going last year after my mother (we were very close) was found dead. No warning. Tweed I'm *very* glad you're still here. Hugs and purrs. -- Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. |
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On Sat, 2 Oct, Tweed wrote:
---------------------snip---------------------- I became almost totally unable to function. I fed the animals and not myself. ---------------------snip---------------------- I feel for anyone who suffers from this disease, it's been a chronic condition most of my adult life. Reading your remarks though, there's something that stands out -- lack of appetite and not eating as symptoms. I guarantee that there are people who read your remarks and could not help but say to themselves, "I should be so lucky as to not want to eat when I'm depressed." Please, do not take my remarks as in any way belittling or marginalizing the feelings you experienced -- it's just that so many people who suffer from obesity also suffer depression. The last time I was thin, I had a good six year run when I would bicycle eight miles to work and thirty miles through the hills on the way home. Gradually, my two nemeses crept up on me and took over my life again. Playing and 'exchanging strokes' with the cats and, recently, reading and writing about cats on rpca are some of the very positive things in my life besides the love DH and I share. Oh well, the grass always looks greener, even when you and your neighbor are both looking at the world through dark gray colored glasses. Regards and Hugs to those fellow sufferers who may read this. O J |
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On Sat, 2 Oct, Tweed wrote:
---------------------snip---------------------- I became almost totally unable to function. I fed the animals and not myself. ---------------------snip---------------------- I feel for anyone who suffers from this disease, it's been a chronic condition most of my adult life. Reading your remarks though, there's something that stands out -- lack of appetite and not eating as symptoms. I guarantee that there are people who read your remarks and could not help but say to themselves, "I should be so lucky as to not want to eat when I'm depressed." Please, do not take my remarks as in any way belittling or marginalizing the feelings you experienced -- it's just that so many people who suffer from obesity also suffer depression. The last time I was thin, I had a good six year run when I would bicycle eight miles to work and thirty miles through the hills on the way home. Gradually, my two nemeses crept up on me and took over my life again. Playing and 'exchanging strokes' with the cats and, recently, reading and writing about cats on rpca are some of the very positive things in my life besides the love DH and I share. Oh well, the grass always looks greener, even when you and your neighbor are both looking at the world through dark gray colored glasses. Regards and Hugs to those fellow sufferers who may read this. O J |
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"O J" wrote in message
... Please, do not take my remarks as in any way belittling or marginalizing the feelings you experienced -- it's just that so many people who suffer from obesity also suffer depression. Very often the obesity is the *cause* of the depression - and it forms a cycle, you eat when you feel depressed. I know, I battled that my whole life. I just recently had gastric bypass surgery and have lost 80 pounds in 6 months (I still have 20 pounds to lose to get to my "ideal" weight, but the doctor only "guaranteed" that I would lose 80% of my excess weight and my weight loss has either slowed to a crawl or stopped). My biggest fear is that there will come a time when I *don't* get sick from eating (it scares me when I can eat a whole "Lean Cuisine" frozen dinner without barfing). You know what is really sad, though - and always makes me really, really mad - is how differently obese people are treated by most people. They are viewed as slothful, lazy, sloppy, nasty, dirty, somehow for some reason below human consideration. I used to get really mad at job interviews when I would get fantastic responses on the initial phone interview and then a total turn-off as soon as I showed up for the face to face interview. I know how differently I'm being treated now than I was just 6 months ago - *AND I'M THE SAME PERSON, NOT CHANGED IN ANY WAY EXCEPT THAT THERE'S JUST LESS OF ME*!!!! I once walked into a "5-7-9" shop here (for those of you in other countries it's a shop that sells only women's clothes through size 9). The girl made a point of coming around the counter to confront me to tell me, "We don't sell your size here!", all the while eying my up and down with a disgusted look on her face. I said, "That's really too bad that you won't let me shop in your store because I was looking for a formal prom dress for my daughter who is a size -1. I guess I'll take my $500 and go find a store where they want my business!" What I really did was go out to my car and cry, and then I went to the nearest fast food joint. Anyway, I think society needs to do something about this "thin is in" mentality - we're losing too many teen-aged girls to anorexia and too many obese adults to suicide and we're devaluing people who could otherwise contribute a lot but aren't given a chance just because of a body size that is usually genetic and can't be helped even with a constant, starvation diet (I know, I tried them all and even on an 800 calorie a day diet managed to gain weight!!!). Hugs, CatNipped |
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"O J" wrote in message
... Please, do not take my remarks as in any way belittling or marginalizing the feelings you experienced -- it's just that so many people who suffer from obesity also suffer depression. Very often the obesity is the *cause* of the depression - and it forms a cycle, you eat when you feel depressed. I know, I battled that my whole life. I just recently had gastric bypass surgery and have lost 80 pounds in 6 months (I still have 20 pounds to lose to get to my "ideal" weight, but the doctor only "guaranteed" that I would lose 80% of my excess weight and my weight loss has either slowed to a crawl or stopped). My biggest fear is that there will come a time when I *don't* get sick from eating (it scares me when I can eat a whole "Lean Cuisine" frozen dinner without barfing). You know what is really sad, though - and always makes me really, really mad - is how differently obese people are treated by most people. They are viewed as slothful, lazy, sloppy, nasty, dirty, somehow for some reason below human consideration. I used to get really mad at job interviews when I would get fantastic responses on the initial phone interview and then a total turn-off as soon as I showed up for the face to face interview. I know how differently I'm being treated now than I was just 6 months ago - *AND I'M THE SAME PERSON, NOT CHANGED IN ANY WAY EXCEPT THAT THERE'S JUST LESS OF ME*!!!! I once walked into a "5-7-9" shop here (for those of you in other countries it's a shop that sells only women's clothes through size 9). The girl made a point of coming around the counter to confront me to tell me, "We don't sell your size here!", all the while eying my up and down with a disgusted look on her face. I said, "That's really too bad that you won't let me shop in your store because I was looking for a formal prom dress for my daughter who is a size -1. I guess I'll take my $500 and go find a store where they want my business!" What I really did was go out to my car and cry, and then I went to the nearest fast food joint. Anyway, I think society needs to do something about this "thin is in" mentality - we're losing too many teen-aged girls to anorexia and too many obese adults to suicide and we're devaluing people who could otherwise contribute a lot but aren't given a chance just because of a body size that is usually genetic and can't be helped even with a constant, starvation diet (I know, I tried them all and even on an 800 calorie a day diet managed to gain weight!!!). Hugs, CatNipped |
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Lots of hugs and purrs for you to keep feeling better,
-- Polonca & Soncek "Mischief" wrote in message om... I'm only 26, but I also suffer from depression. And back in July I am sorry to say that I was close to suicide. But one thing stopped me. Who would take care of my cats? snip |
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Lots of hugs and purrs for you to keep feeling better,
-- Polonca & Soncek "Mischief" wrote in message om... I'm only 26, but I also suffer from depression. And back in July I am sorry to say that I was close to suicide. But one thing stopped me. Who would take care of my cats? snip |
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I'm so very sorry to hear this.
Lots of gentle hugs and purrs, -- Polonca & Soncek "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... It was only knowing that my animals and birds depended on me that kept me going last year after my mother (we were very close) was found dead. No warning. Tweed |
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I'm so very sorry to hear this.
Lots of gentle hugs and purrs, -- Polonca & Soncek "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... It was only knowing that my animals and birds depended on me that kept me going last year after my mother (we were very close) was found dead. No warning. Tweed |
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Anyway, I think society needs to do something about this "thin is in"
mentality - we're losing too many teen-aged girls to anorexia and too many obese adults to suicide and we're devaluing people who could otherwise contribute a lot but aren't given a chance just because of a body size that is usually genetic and can't be helped even with a constant, starvation diet (I know, I tried them all and even on an 800 calorie a day diet managed to gain weight!!!). Hugs, CatNipped Isn't it tragic how so many people not afflicted with obesity view those who are? I started putting on weight when I was in college, and didn't really stop until I was well into my 30's. I'm finally managing to lose some of my excess weight with a lot of effort, but dealing with the attitudes of some of the more prejudiced skinny folk doesn't make it any easier. And as bad as it is in the US, when I used to travel to China fairly frequently I found it to be even worse there. |
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