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For Joy and other people who cats with cancer
On 6/23/2014 12:16 PM, Christina Websell wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message ... On 6/15/2014 9:35 AM, Christina Websell wrote: "Joy" wrote in message ... I know it was best for him, but it hurts! Joy I know, as do most of us here and I admire you for not letting him go on for too long. I've sometimes been guilty of that but hindsight is a wonderful thing that I don't have. I will regret until the end of my life not having KFC put down a week or two earlier. She was failing, and getting confused and I was coming to the decision to let her go, then I got taken into hospital as an emergency. Without me she would not stay in the house, she went out looking for me, and we all know what happened. I should probably have done it when she went missing earlier that year - and went 2 doors away claiming she was lost. They took her in, and because they thought she was a sick kitten (she was very small) they took her to the vet (not mine) who told them she was a very old lady. I got her back then by putting posters up on lamp posts. I should have realised then about her confusion and it might be time but I didn't want to give up on her. The result of this was she was snatched from the street by the RSPCA and put down and I wasn't even able to get her ashes back- she was probably cremated with all the other dogs and cats that no-one cares about. I will never, ever, get over this. She should have been buried under a tree in my garden. and this is why, Joy, you did the right thing. Thank you. I understand why you are so upset about that. I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have put Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only lived about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't help, and it only makes me feel worse than I already do. Joy But if there is a chance, you do it, don't you? If it helps you not feeling so guilty I would have gone the same route for Nanki-Poo. The fact that he only lived another 5 months was not your fault and you had no idea about it.. It might well have been a lot more. I still feel slightly guilty that I put Pearl whippet through an operation to have her spleen removed when it burst for no apparent reason. 8 months later her front leg broke when she got out of bed through bone cancer which turned out to be the primary cancer. I did what I thought best at the time. Had I known what would happen, I would have let her go. But I thought I was doing the best for her,giving her a chance. You have done the best for your Boy. Sometimes we cannot save them. Tweed Thank you. You're right, of course. However, it seems to be human nature to find something to feel guilty about. Joy -- Joy Unlimited Colorful Crocheted Critters Photos at http://www.PictureTrail.com/joy9 |
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For Joy and other people who cats with cancer
Joy wrote:
I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have put Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only lived about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't help, and it only makes me feel worse than I already do. You can't second-guess things that you did at a time when all you had to go on was what you knew at the time. Many decisions have to be made on insufficient information, and you couldn't have known that he would only live another 5 months after the treatments. Your hope at the time was that the treatments would help him and give him a better and longer life, longer than he ended up having. It's only natural to act on that hope, especially if a medical expert recommends it. Don't condemn yourself because the outcome wasn't as good as you were hoping for. Good decisions, IMO, are those that are made for the right reasons, regardless of the outcome. We don't have any control over that. He did live considerably longer than the time it took to have the treatments, and that's a good thing. -- Joyce Loneliness is comforted by the closeness and touch of fur to fur, skin to skin, or -- skin to fur. -- Paul Gallico |
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For Joy and other people who cats with cancer
On 7/2/2014 6:37 PM, Bastette wrote:
Joy wrote: I shut myself down every time I start wondering whether I should have put Nanki-Poo through five weeks of radiation treatments, since he only lived about another five months after the treatments ended. It doesn't help, and it only makes me feel worse than I already do. You can't second-guess things that you did at a time when all you had to go on was what you knew at the time. Many decisions have to be made on insufficient information, and you couldn't have known that he would only live another 5 months after the treatments. Your hope at the time was that the treatments would help him and give him a better and longer life, longer than he ended up having. It's only natural to act on that hope, especially if a medical expert recommends it. Don't condemn yourself because the outcome wasn't as good as you were hoping for. Good decisions, IMO, are those that are made for the right reasons, regardless of the outcome. We don't have any control over that. He did live considerably longer than the time it took to have the treatments, and that's a good thing. Thank you. Joy -- Joy Unlimited Colorful Crocheted Critters Photos at http://www.PictureTrail.com/joy9 |
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