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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in
the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli from her long enough to get them both inside at once, so I could have a talk with them about their fighting. I locked the cat flap right after Lily came in but in that couple of seconds they already started to fight. I whapped Eli and he scampered into the bathroom cupboard. Meanwhile Lily ran under the bed to hide. I locked Eli in the bathroom and dragged Lily, growling the whole time, out from under the bed and carried her into the bathroom, where we all had a long talk. I started off by apologizing to Eli for all the times I had punished him for attacking Lily, and explained to Lily that it "takes two" and that When she *expects* to be attacked, and goes on the defensive, runs away, etc. it is an invitation that Eli cannot resist. I told her that just like Abelard learned to act bored when Eli started challenging him, she too would have to change her attitude, lose the fear, and calm down so we can have a peaceful home again. At first Lily would not take her face out of the crook of my arm and look at Eli, or if I made her look at him, she'd pin her ears and start growling. I just kept talking to the both of them and petting them, and calming Lily down. Eli was very cool about the whole thing, he never growled, hissed or acted the least bit threatening. Although I had a lot of work waiting for me, I promised myself I would stay there in the bathroom with these cats for however long it took for them to make peace. And it did not take a long time. Within half an hour, Lily was laying next to her dear Uncle Eli, with both of them purring. I stayed with them for another five minutes or so and then let them go. So far there have been no further fights, but if it does happen again we will go through another round of peace talk in the bathroom, each and every time until these two cats can co-exist without upsetting everyone else. |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
I have no idea why my original subject line was replaced by the first
sentence of the message body here. It was supposed to say "The Peace Talk". |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
"Pat" wrote:
Although I had a lot of work waiting for me, I promised myself I would stay there in the bathroom with these cats for however long it took for them to make peace. And it did not take a long time. Within half an hour, Lily was laying next to her dear Uncle Eli, with both of them purring. I stayed with them for another five minutes or so and then let them go. So far there have been no further fights, but if it does happen again we will go through another round of peace talk in the bathroom, each and every time until these two cats can co-exist without upsetting everyone else. OMG, you made two enemy cats make up in half an hour!? I am not worthy. I will nominate you for a Nobel prize. |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
"Takayuki" wrote OMG, you made two enemy cats make up in half an hour!? I am not worthy. I will nominate you for a Nobel prize. Yeah, they could send me to the middle east or something, eh? |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
"Takayuki" wrote OMG, you made two enemy cats make up in half an hour!? Actually, they were great friends up until Abelard got to be blasé toward Eli's attacks, and then Eli picked Lily as his new target of aggression. And, I'm sure this truce is very temporary. We've all seen enemy cats being nice to one another when both are very sleepy and content... haven't we? But I do intend to enforce the truce as needed, and remind Lily of how to handle Eli whenever she forgets. |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
Pat wrote: "Takayuki" wrote OMG, you made two enemy cats make up in half an hour!? I am not worthy. I will nominate you for a Nobel prize. Yeah, they could send me to the middle east or something, eh? It would be a cat walk for you |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
Heh. Just like kids. I remember once my mom tied my wrist to my sister's wrist with a single piece of sewing thread for a couple of hours. Presumably it would make us stop fighting. (????) Wouldn't recommend it though, specially not for cats!! Sherry --- who loves my sister dearly now |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
OMG, you made two enemy cats make up in half an hour!? I am not worthy. I will nominate you for a Nobel prize. Yeah, they could send me to the middle east or something, eh? It would be a cat walk for you I wonder if we could lock the leaders of two warring countries into the bathroom together and feed them treats until they stop fighting. Jane - owned and operated by Princess Rita |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
"Pat" wrote in message ... I have no idea why my original subject line was replaced by the first sentence of the message body here. It was supposed to say "The Peace Talk". Your method works so well with cats sometimes and we so often forget about it. With many cats, you really can talk to them. Explain things to them. And they do seem to get it. And like small children, sometimes it takes more than once. Jo |
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Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli Peace Talks
Bless you for your patience, Pat. We will purr and pray that things calm
down for both furries. Lily & her mama Jazz, RB -- Irulan from the stars we come to the stars we return from now until the end of time "Pat" wrote in message ... Today Eli was laying next to me on the floor when Lily started looking in the cat flap (to make sure Eli not around) so she could come in and have a bite to eat. Eli *always* attacks her. So I hid Eli from her long enough to get them both inside at once, so I could have a talk with them about their fighting. I locked the cat flap right after Lily came in but in that couple of seconds they already started to fight. I whapped Eli and he scampered into the bathroom cupboard. Meanwhile Lily ran under the bed to hide. I locked Eli in the bathroom and dragged Lily, growling the whole time, out from under the bed and carried her into the bathroom, where we all had a long talk. I started off by apologizing to Eli for all the times I had punished him for attacking Lily, and explained to Lily that it "takes two" and that When she *expects* to be attacked, and goes on the defensive, runs away, etc. it is an invitation that Eli cannot resist. I told her that just like Abelard learned to act bored when Eli started challenging him, she too would have to change her attitude, lose the fear, and calm down so we can have a peaceful home again. At first Lily would not take her face out of the crook of my arm and look at Eli, or if I made her look at him, she'd pin her ears and start growling. I just kept talking to the both of them and petting them, and calming Lily down. Eli was very cool about the whole thing, he never growled, hissed or acted the least bit threatening. Although I had a lot of work waiting for me, I promised myself I would stay there in the bathroom with these cats for however long it took for them to make peace. And it did not take a long time. Within half an hour, Lily was laying next to her dear Uncle Eli, with both of them purring. I stayed with them for another five minutes or so and then let them go. So far there have been no further fights, but if it does happen again we will go through another round of peace talk in the bathroom, each and every time until these two cats can co-exist without upsetting everyone else. |
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