Cat euthanization opinions wanted.

This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.

"kraut" wrote in message
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This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.



No you are right on the money. Yes you should have

Either she was to scared to do it herself( unless there was an emergency and
she could not be there) or she was not attached to the cat and it made no
difference to her. Unless you talk to her than these are just guess.

Me unless the furball was in pain and need to be PTS. I would have caught
the concord if I was overseas to be with one of mine in the last few minutes
of there life. And if some one that could wait and did not they would
find out my dark side

kraut wrote:

This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.



Your feelings are what they are. What you do about or with them is
what's most important.

It's not helpful at all to brood over things in the past that you cannot
change.

You know your relationship with your ex-wife infinitely better than I
do, and you know better than I do whether saying anything to her at the
time, or now, in hopes of having something different done next time
(since it sounds like you're sharing 7 cats with your ex or present
wife, whichever she is.)

Cheryl

On May 15, 10:42*am, kraut
wrote:
This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. *Up til then I was an un-cat person. *Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. *I loved that guy. *Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. *Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. *This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. *I wish so much she would have called me. *I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. *I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. *I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? *I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. *Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? *Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? *I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.

Years ago, I let a vet euthanize a cat who would not allow me to be
present in the room. It has bugged me over the years, too. I should
have insisted, or gone to another vet. But, like someone else said,
you can't change the past, and it doesn't make any difference now,
except
I learned something the hard way -- to never allow a vet to make a
decision
that should be mine to make.

Sherry

"kraut" wrote in message
...


This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.




I agree with you. I have had to have two of my cats euthanized. In each
case, I spent some time alone with my furbaby and then held each one on my
lap as the procedure was done. I consider that both an obligation to a cat
that was my companion for many years and also a final act of love. Some
people have said they "can't see how I could do that." My reaction is, I
can't see how anyone would take the risk that their cat's final moments
would be filled with fear or lonliness. I wanted to be there for them.

MaryL

kraut wrote:

This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.

The first couple of times I had to make such a decision, I let the vet
handle it all, simply handing over the cat in its carrier. In one case,
at least, I've often wondered whether my decision was not a bit
premature. (Although the cat had been diagnosed with Feline Leukemia,
she did not appear to be suffering - her only symptom was an occasional
loss of balance.) It was never lack of affection for the ailing animal,
just lack of knowledge.

Over the years I have come to realize that I owe it to the cat to be
there, saying my final goodbyes and at least figuratively holding its
paw during the injection. (Also, vets nowadays seem to be more open to
the idea - even suggesting it.) I can sympathize with a person not
wanting to face the actual event, but next time you might try to
persuade her that, just like a human family member, a pet deserves to
have its loved ones present during its final moments, if possible.

On May 15, 10:51*am, "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER
wrote:
My reaction is, I
can't see how anyone would take the risk that their cat's final moments
would be filled with fear or lonliness. *I wanted to be there for them.

I confess to being a bit of a coward when we had to have Fugazi PTS-
it was my first time and she got ill so suddenly (the morning before
she was fine) the vet was worried that my upset would affect her so
what we did was I held her while the vet gave her a sedative and she
fell asleep in my arms while I told her what a good cat she was and
how we would miss her so she did the final injection and I handed her
to the vet still asleep and left the room- she wasn't conscious by the
second injection and the last thing she would have heard was me
telling her how lovely she was and the last thing she would have felt
was me stroking her and to this day I wonder if I did the right
thingeven now 10 years later I am wiping away the tears when I think
of it

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

MaryL wrote:


I agree with you. I have had to have two of my cats euthanized. In
each case, I spent some time alone with my furbaby and then held each
one on my lap as the procedure was done. I consider that both an
obligation to a cat that was my companion for many years and also a
final act of love. Some people have said they "can't see how I could do
that." My reaction is, I can't see how anyone would take the risk that
their cat's final moments would be filled with fear or lonliness. I
wanted to be there for them.

MaryL

I agree completely!

"kraut" wrote in message
...


This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her
Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and
caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me
for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this
life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.


First off, people feel what they feel. Right and wrong have very
little to do with it.

So I can't say you are right and your wife wrong or vice versa.

I have always taken our dogs and cats to the vet myself and stayed
with them the entire time. Partly to reassure them and partly to
reassure myself. After the first time it wasn't so bad as I knew what
to expect and felt my being there helped them.

Charlie has never been with me in the room. Now he is a bigger softie
than I am. He would do anything for our furkids. Anything but that.
He just can't. And trust me, his presence would not be calming or
reassuring to them since he would be so upset himself.

This is a guy who goes with us to the vet and sits in the back and
hold the cats (wrapped in a towel) so they won't have to be taken is a
carrier. And that's just for shots!

Before I lost my hearing he wouldn't even go into the exam room when
they were sick. Now he has to since it is hard for me to communicate.

Jo

"EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)" wrote in message
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kraut wrote:

This is a little different from what the Subject line implies.

A while back I got REALLY attached to a cat that my ex (Now wife
again) had. Up til then I was an un-cat person. Thanks to her Moses
I got into cats and took in several plus have been feeding and caring
for strays for years now. I loved that guy. Moses was 17 / 18 and
was sick enough to be put down. Got him as a kitten

She called me one day and said she had him put down and had a friend
of hers take him who was a stranger to Moses. This has bugged me for
all these years that he had to spend his last few minutes in this life
with strangers. I wish so much she would have called me. I would
have gladly taken him even though it would have broken my heart. I
have never said nothing to her 'cause it is tooo late to make a diff
now.

I was just wondering what some of your opinions are on this. I know
that no one likes having to do this but would anyone out there do as
she did with Moses? I know she loved him and why she did it the way
she did but I guess I am looking at it from Moses view point.

Opinion please. Am I wrong to feel as I do about it? Should I have
said something to her about how I felt? I will next time and with 7
cats there will be a next time.

Thanks all.

The first couple of times I had to make such a decision, I let the vet
handle it all, simply handing over the cat in its carrier. In one case,
at least, I've often wondered whether my decision was not a bit premature.
(Although the cat had been diagnosed with Feline Leukemia, she did not
appear to be suffering - her only symptom was an occasional loss of
balance.) It was never lack of affection for the ailing animal, just lack
of knowledge.

Over the years I have come to realize that I owe it to the cat to be
there, saying my final goodbyes and at least figuratively holding its paw
during the injection. (Also, vets nowadays seem to be more open to the
idea - even suggesting it.) I can sympathize with a person not wanting to
face the actual event, but next time you might try to persuade her that,
just like a human family member, a pet deserves to have its loved ones
present during its final moments, if possible.

This is an excellent response.

MayL