Best wishes to everyone

EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
jmcquown wrote:
I looked in the mirror and freaked out. I look 10 years older than I
did last week. All the Oil of Olay (heh) in the world will not erase
these lines from my face. Thank you, Christine. I still have a long
row to hoe. I might get back home in 2010

Cosmetics won't, but a few weeks of normal sleep, without having to
worry about what fresh crisis will greet you on awakening, will work
wonders, you'll see! I realize you still have a lot of stuff to deal
with, but none of it is "life or death" now, is it? You can take
whatever time it requires, just don't let yourself be hurried into
anything.


You're absolutely right. Maybe some decent sleep, snuggle time with my cat
and a bottle of good wine will help. Got lots to do but I don't have to do
it this weekend or even next week!

Jill

"jmcquown" wrote in message
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EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
jmcquown wrote:
I looked in the mirror and freaked out. I look 10 years older
than I
did last week. All the Oil of Olay (heh) in the world will not
erase
these lines from my face. Thank you, Christine. I still have a
long
row to hoe. I might get back home in 2010

Cosmetics won't, but a few weeks of normal sleep, without having to
worry about what fresh crisis will greet you on awakening, will
work
wonders, you'll see! I realize you still have a lot of stuff to
deal
with, but none of it is "life or death" now, is it? You can take
whatever time it requires, just don't let yourself be hurried into
anything.


You're absolutely right. Maybe some decent sleep, snuggle time with
my cat and a bottle of good wine will help. Got lots to do but I
don't have to do it this weekend or even next week!

Jill

That in itself is going to take some adjusting to. Being able to take
the time to consider things and wait to do them until you are
comfortable. Letting Persia be her luxurious self instead of just a
lifeline. Peace, and purrs and hugs.

Jo

Jofirey wrote:
"jmcquown" wrote in message
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EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
jmcquown wrote:
I looked in the mirror and freaked out. I look 10 years older
than I
did last week. All the Oil of Olay (heh) in the world will not
erase
these lines from my face. Thank you, Christine. I still have a
long
row to hoe. I might get back home in 2010

Cosmetics won't, but a few weeks of normal sleep, without having to
worry about what fresh crisis will greet you on awakening, will
work
wonders, you'll see! I realize you still have a lot of stuff to
deal
with, but none of it is "life or death" now, is it? You can take
whatever time it requires, just don't let yourself be hurried into
anything.


You're absolutely right. Maybe some decent sleep, snuggle time with
my cat and a bottle of good wine will help. Got lots to do but I
don't have to do it this weekend or even next week!

Jill

That in itself is going to take some adjusting to. Being able to take
the time to consider things and wait to do them until you are
comfortable. Letting Persia be her luxurious self instead of just a
lifeline. Peace, and purrs and hugs.

Jo


It would also help if the mattresses in this house weren't hard as rocks
It's no wonder I don't sleep well! I even bought pillow top pads. Why did
my parents sleep on stone? LOL

Jill

Jill, right now there is just too much to do. When you get filled up with
it, just do like you did and tell people you need a break AND take it. It
has been 2 1/2 years since Bob died and I am now down to the nuisance
telemarketer calls for him AND oh yes, the junk mail that still comes in his
name. Around here, no one would be stupid enough to ask you about the date
on a stone, it goes without saying that, yes, there will be a date on it.
How foolish of her.
"jmcquown" wrote in message
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And thank you all for your kind thoughts and words

I've only just been able to start to grieve for my mother. I was here
with my mother died. The caregiver was here from the agency and the
hospice nurse. Then the funeral director. I made all the arrangements.

My brothers showed up and frankly, I thought they'd never leave. LOL They
finally left me alone today. I said just don't come over. I'm done,
leave me alone, I'm not going to talk about this anymore. I'll take care
of everything. Just like I always do.

They don't fly out until tomorrow but thankfully they let me have today to
myself. I really needed time to take a breath, you know?

So the woman from the National Cemetery called today to ask me what I
wanted on Mom's marker. Oh, I hadn't thought about that. When Dad died I
got papers with suggestions. Mom selected something. I didn't get
anything like that so I was at a loss. I said, um, Beloved Wife and
Mother to Paul, Scott and Jill 1-29-26 to 11-22-2008. She said that might
be to long.

Oh, okay. Beloved Wife and Mother. She asked don't you want her years
listed in case someone 100 years from now is doing geneology research? Oh
for gawds sakes, woman! Everyone in her family is dead except us! I
can't think about this right now. It never lets up, does it?

Persia is right there next to me every evening, just head butting me and
tapping my nose with her soft little paw. Used to be just to get me to
feed her, now she's just offering comfort and headbutts. What a sweet
girl I'd be lost without her. My brothers never saw her.

Jill

I really never got how the Holidays could get to people so, yeah the first
one of each. However when someone who was so much a part of your life is
gone, it is horribly lonely. Not just for the person but for all the things
that were. So glad Jill has someone and her furr friends.
"hopitus" wrote in message
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On Nov 28, 7:01 pm, "Cheryl" wrote:
It doesn't let up. The funeral home got the words wrong on Eric's grave,
but we just let it go. It's hard enough to think about what to say in so
many words to describe a life.
Yes. And your circumstances were beyond comparison, a young life with
many future expectations.I'm not a sentimental person, but the
holidays
must be especially draining emotionally.

jmcquown wrote:
Jofirey wrote:
"jmcquown" wrote in message
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EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) wrote:
jmcquown wrote:
I looked in the mirror and freaked out. I look 10 years older
than I
did last week. All the Oil of Olay (heh) in the world will not
erase
these lines from my face. Thank you, Christine. I still have a
long
row to hoe. I might get back home in 2010

Cosmetics won't, but a few weeks of normal sleep, without having to
worry about what fresh crisis will greet you on awakening, will
work
wonders, you'll see! I realize you still have a lot of stuff to
deal
with, but none of it is "life or death" now, is it? You can take
whatever time it requires, just don't let yourself be hurried into
anything.


You're absolutely right. Maybe some decent sleep, snuggle time with
my cat and a bottle of good wine will help. Got lots to do but I
don't have to do it this weekend or even next week!

Jill

That in itself is going to take some adjusting to. Being able to take
the time to consider things and wait to do them until you are
comfortable. Letting Persia be her luxurious self instead of just a
lifeline. Peace, and purrs and hugs.

Jo


It would also help if the mattresses in this house weren't hard as rocks
It's no wonder I don't sleep well! I even bought pillow top pads.
Why did my parents sleep on stone? LOL

Jill

I was a bit hesitant about getting what is essentially an air mattress,
but I certainly love my "Sleep Number" bed! The construction seems to
be more-or-less cat-proof, and being able to adjust the firmness at will
is a real Godsend. However hard or soft you usually want your bed,
there are times when it's nice to be able to adjust it firmer or softer
than your normal sleep-mode.