Apology

I'd like to apologize to Cheryl for any (unintentional) hurt I may have
caused (I've already emailed her privately to apologize and ask her to come
back to the group).

I noticed that in some of the responses to Cheryl's note some others in the
group seemed to be agreeing with her about me (unless I'm being too
paranoid). If I have given offense to anyone else, I'd like to apologize
for that also. I think the is the nicest, kindest, most sensitive and
thoughtful group of people on earth and I would do anything to keep from
causing dissension here or hurting anyone's feelings.

If this is the case, please let me know either by posting to the group or
emailing me privately, and I will unsubscribe myself from the group - no
hard feelings.

Hugs,

CatNipped

CatNipped wrote:
I noticed that in some of the responses to Cheryl's note some others in the
group seemed to be agreeing with her about me (unless I'm being too

I think you're paranoid. Most folks who replied (including myself) said
there was nothing snippy about your post.

If this is the case, please let me know either by posting to the group or
emailing me privately, and I will unsubscribe myself from the group - no
hard feelings.

Let's drop the drama and keep the cat stories going, ok?

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"Victor Martinez" wrote in message
...

I think you're paranoid. Most folks who replied (including myself) said
there was nothing snippy about your post.

OK, I accept that. I've been been worked ragged at my job, I'm in a lot of
pain (either from the fibromyalgia, sore muscles, or - what I think is
probably the case - I have another kidney stone), so I'm feeling a bit
depressed myself.

I don't want to be overly dramatic and I honestly don't want people to rush
to ask me to stay, I just wanted to be sure I'm not causing problems for the
group - the absolute last thing I want to do. So, OK, thanks for the honest
answer, Victor.

Let's drop the drama and keep the cat stories going, ok?

--
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Oh, I can't be a drama queen any more!!?? ; LOL, again, thanks Victor.

Hugs,

CatNipped

CatNipped wrote:
OK, I accept that. I've been been worked ragged at my job, I'm in a lot of

You and I both! I'm so ready for a change of jobs... and my employer
just announced 1000 more layoffs this month! Rumour has it this Friday.
In theory, my job is very safe, but you never know. Purrs to all
those who will no longer have a job.

pain (either from the fibromyalgia, sore muscles, or - what I think is
probably the case - I have another kidney stone), so I'm feeling a bit
depressed myself.

Oh my goodness, I had no idea you were ill. Lots of healing purrs going
your way. Don't feel depressed (I know, easier said than done). Just
remember that you have lots of friends all over the world who are about
you. I hope you've sent Pam your snail address for the card exchange.
It's lots of fun! I promise to send some of Rufous' fur in the
envelope...

I don't want to be overly dramatic and I honestly don't want people to rush
to ask me to stay, I just wanted to be sure I'm not causing problems for the
group - the absolute last thing I want to do. So, OK, thanks for the honest
answer, Victor.

In all the years I've been posting on this group (hmmm... at least 5
years, might be more) we've never asked anyone to leave and we always
beg folks to stay.

Oh, I can't be a drama queen any more!!?? ; LOL, again, thanks Victor.

I'm glad you took it the way I meant it. The last thing I want is to add
to your problems!

*hugs*

--
Victor Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
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"Victor Martinez" wrote in message
...
CatNipped wrote:
OK, I accept that. I've been been worked ragged at my job, I'm in a lot
of

You and I both! I'm so ready for a change of jobs... and my employer just
announced 1000 more layoffs this month! Rumour has it this Friday. In
theory, my job is very safe, but you never know. Purrs to all those who
will no longer have a job.

Oh no! We'll be sending purrs that you keep your job for as long as you
want it, and purrs to those who are laid off that they'll find a better job
soon. The reason I don't complain too loudly is that right now any job is
better than no job!!

pain (either from the fibromyalgia, sore muscles, or - what I think is
probably the case - I have another kidney stone), so I'm feeling a bit
depressed myself.

Oh my goodness, I had no idea you were ill. Lots of healing purrs going
your way. Don't feel depressed (I know, easier said than done). Just
remember that you have lots of friends all over the world who are about
you. I hope you've sent Pam your snail address for the card exchange. It's
lots of fun! I promise to send some of Rufous' fur in the envelope...

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy about minor
problems and yet have found myself going home in tears Friday, Monday and
Tuesday. I think it's just a combination of frustration about my job, being
tired from working non-stop (no breaks even for lunch), and feeling lousy.
I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

I don't want to be overly dramatic and I honestly don't want people to
rush
to ask me to stay, I just wanted to be sure I'm not causing problems for
the
group - the absolute last thing I want to do. So, OK, thanks for the
honest
answer, Victor.

In all the years I've been posting on this group (hmmm... at least 5
years, might be more) we've never asked anyone to leave and we always beg
folks to stay.

That's the only real thing that was bothering me - that I might have, even
inadvertently, caused someone to leave the group. This group is about the
best support anyone could ask for and someone who is suffering a major loss
and depression *NEEDS* that kind of support, so Cheryl's leaving really
upset me.

Oh, I can't be a drama queen any more!!?? ; LOL, again, thanks Victor.

I'm glad you took it the way I meant it. The last thing I want is to add
to your problems!

Oh, I would much rather have honest and loving criticism than dishonest and
smarmy @$$ kissing any day of the week - I really do appreciate a needed
kick inthe keister.

*hugs*

--
Victor Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
Send your spam he
Email me he

Hugs back atcha!

CatNipped

CatNipped wrote:

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy
about minor problems

Really? Why??

I don't like it when someone tries to manipulate me into listening to
their problems, no matter how minor, with no regard to whether I have the
time or interest. Is that what you mean by the above? Or do you just not
like people who are more emotive than yourself?

I think everyone has different thresholds of frustration, anger, and
stress level. And we all have different ways of venting it. Better to
be weepy and whiny than to be like *me*, which is to get cranky and
irritable. You don't want to be around me when I'm overstressed or haven't
had enough sleep. Luckily, I no longer get PMS, or I'd have included that,
too. There are advantages to aging.

I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

Our culture is way too focused on the whole "bucking up" thing, if you
ask me. We're soooo uptight about having feelings. Whine a little! Who's
it going to harm? You might even feel better. I think that as long as one
has respect for other people's time and limits, and asks others first if
they're up for listening to us whine (and we get the go-ahead), what's
the problem??

Joyce - aiming to be one of those long-lived, cranky old ladies. (Yes! It's
true! There have been studies: grumpy old people live longer than pleasant
ones.)

CatNipped wrote:

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy
about minor problems

Really? Why??

I don't like it when someone tries to manipulate me into listening to
their problems, no matter how minor, with no regard to whether I have the
time or interest. Is that what you mean by the above? Or do you just not
like people who are more emotive than yourself?

I think everyone has different thresholds of frustration, anger, and
stress level. And we all have different ways of venting it. Better to
be weepy and whiny than to be like *me*, which is to get cranky and
irritable. You don't want to be around me when I'm overstressed or haven't
had enough sleep. Luckily, I no longer get PMS, or I'd have included that,
too. There are advantages to aging.

I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

Our culture is way too focused on the whole "bucking up" thing, if you
ask me. We're soooo uptight about having feelings. Whine a little! Who's
it going to harm? You might even feel better. I think that as long as one
has respect for other people's time and limits, and asks others first if
they're up for listening to us whine (and we get the go-ahead), what's
the problem??

Joyce - aiming to be one of those long-lived, cranky old ladies. (Yes! It's
true! There have been studies: grumpy old people live longer than pleasant
ones.)

CatNipped wrote:

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy
about minor problems

Really? Why??

I don't like it when someone tries to manipulate me into listening to
their problems, no matter how minor, with no regard to whether I have the
time or interest. Is that what you mean by the above? Or do you just not
like people who are more emotive than yourself?

I think everyone has different thresholds of frustration, anger, and
stress level. And we all have different ways of venting it. Better to
be weepy and whiny than to be like *me*, which is to get cranky and
irritable. You don't want to be around me when I'm overstressed or haven't
had enough sleep. Luckily, I no longer get PMS, or I'd have included that,
too. There are advantages to aging.

I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

Our culture is way too focused on the whole "bucking up" thing, if you
ask me. We're soooo uptight about having feelings. Whine a little! Who's
it going to harm? You might even feel better. I think that as long as one
has respect for other people's time and limits, and asks others first if
they're up for listening to us whine (and we get the go-ahead), what's
the problem??

Joyce - aiming to be one of those long-lived, cranky old ladies. (Yes! It's
true! There have been studies: grumpy old people live longer than pleasant
ones.)

"Victor Martinez" wrote in message
...
CatNipped wrote:
OK, I accept that. I've been been worked ragged at my job, I'm in a lot
of

You and I both! I'm so ready for a change of jobs... and my employer just
announced 1000 more layoffs this month! Rumour has it this Friday. In
theory, my job is very safe, but you never know. Purrs to all those who
will no longer have a job.

Oh no! We'll be sending purrs that you keep your job for as long as you
want it, and purrs to those who are laid off that they'll find a better job
soon. The reason I don't complain too loudly is that right now any job is
better than no job!!

pain (either from the fibromyalgia, sore muscles, or - what I think is
probably the case - I have another kidney stone), so I'm feeling a bit
depressed myself.

Oh my goodness, I had no idea you were ill. Lots of healing purrs going
your way. Don't feel depressed (I know, easier said than done). Just
remember that you have lots of friends all over the world who are about
you. I hope you've sent Pam your snail address for the card exchange. It's
lots of fun! I promise to send some of Rufous' fur in the envelope...

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy about minor
problems and yet have found myself going home in tears Friday, Monday and
Tuesday. I think it's just a combination of frustration about my job, being
tired from working non-stop (no breaks even for lunch), and feeling lousy.
I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

I don't want to be overly dramatic and I honestly don't want people to
rush
to ask me to stay, I just wanted to be sure I'm not causing problems for
the
group - the absolute last thing I want to do. So, OK, thanks for the
honest
answer, Victor.

In all the years I've been posting on this group (hmmm... at least 5
years, might be more) we've never asked anyone to leave and we always beg
folks to stay.

That's the only real thing that was bothering me - that I might have, even
inadvertently, caused someone to leave the group. This group is about the
best support anyone could ask for and someone who is suffering a major loss
and depression *NEEDS* that kind of support, so Cheryl's leaving really
upset me.

Oh, I can't be a drama queen any more!!?? ; LOL, again, thanks Victor.

I'm glad you took it the way I meant it. The last thing I want is to add
to your problems!

Oh, I would much rather have honest and loving criticism than dishonest and
smarmy @$$ kissing any day of the week - I really do appreciate a needed
kick inthe keister.

*hugs*

--
Victor Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
Send your spam he
Email me he

Hugs back atcha!

CatNipped

"Victor Martinez" wrote in message
...
CatNipped wrote:
OK, I accept that. I've been been worked ragged at my job, I'm in a lot
of

You and I both! I'm so ready for a change of jobs... and my employer just
announced 1000 more layoffs this month! Rumour has it this Friday. In
theory, my job is very safe, but you never know. Purrs to all those who
will no longer have a job.

Oh no! We'll be sending purrs that you keep your job for as long as you
want it, and purrs to those who are laid off that they'll find a better job
soon. The reason I don't complain too loudly is that right now any job is
better than no job!!

pain (either from the fibromyalgia, sore muscles, or - what I think is
probably the case - I have another kidney stone), so I'm feeling a bit
depressed myself.

Oh my goodness, I had no idea you were ill. Lots of healing purrs going
your way. Don't feel depressed (I know, easier said than done). Just
remember that you have lots of friends all over the world who are about
you. I hope you've sent Pam your snail address for the card exchange. It's
lots of fun! I promise to send some of Rufous' fur in the envelope...

I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise people who get all weepy about minor
problems and yet have found myself going home in tears Friday, Monday and
Tuesday. I think it's just a combination of frustration about my job, being
tired from working non-stop (no breaks even for lunch), and feeling lousy.
I started taking extra vitamins and gave myself a stern lecture, so
hopefully I'll start bucking up and quit whining.

I don't want to be overly dramatic and I honestly don't want people to
rush
to ask me to stay, I just wanted to be sure I'm not causing problems for
the
group - the absolute last thing I want to do. So, OK, thanks for the
honest
answer, Victor.

In all the years I've been posting on this group (hmmm... at least 5
years, might be more) we've never asked anyone to leave and we always beg
folks to stay.

That's the only real thing that was bothering me - that I might have, even
inadvertently, caused someone to leave the group. This group is about the
best support anyone could ask for and someone who is suffering a major loss
and depression *NEEDS* that kind of support, so Cheryl's leaving really
upset me.

Oh, I can't be a drama queen any more!!?? ; LOL, again, thanks Victor.

I'm glad you took it the way I meant it. The last thing I want is to add
to your problems!

Oh, I would much rather have honest and loving criticism than dishonest and
smarmy @$$ kissing any day of the week - I really do appreciate a needed
kick inthe keister.

*hugs*

--
Victor Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
Send your spam he
Email me he

Hugs back atcha!

CatNipped