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Female cat gone nuts
My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable.
When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. We left her at my mother's house. She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? |
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Female cat gone nuts
"Tim J." wrote in message ... My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. We left her at my mother's house. She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now. |
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Female cat gone nuts
On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote:
"Tim J." wrote in message ... My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. *Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. *Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. *We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. *We left her at my mother's house. *She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. *Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. *My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. *She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. *But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. *When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. *Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. *When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. *I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. *Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. *Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. *Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. *When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. *My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. *I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. *The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. *She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. *Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. *Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. *She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. *If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? or better still not go away on your trip and have a holiday at home getting ot know your new furry friend and help her to settle in better. If you had a new baby woudl you dump it with a relative and sod off on holiday? no i doubt it, so why do it with a young and impressionable cat? i ahve recently had 2 trips away abroad but both times i have organised these to be at times when my housemates will be here to feed and pamper my furbabies so they suffer as little disruption as possible to their routine. the one time there woudl have been none here to look after my precious jasper (RB july 2005) cos we were all away at the same time i got a good friend who knew jasper well to stay inthe huose for a week as there was going to be no question of jasper being uprooted and going to a cattery. As he had come form a rescue centre after his previous mum died i think that putting him in a cattery would have been the end of him and i was not goign to upset him. If i coud not get anyone suitable to live in our house then i would have cancelled my trip away, no question. jasper's welfare, health and emotional well being were my responsibiility just as yoshi's is yours and i have to say that i think you let her down by shunting her about in her formative years from pillar to post. i do not knwo really what you canb do knwo to remedy matters but i hope you do not do this again to yoshi or to another young cat who is depending on you to provide a stable home for them. i despair of some people, i really do bookie |
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Female cat gone nuts
On Jan 11, 12:11 pm, bookie wrote:
On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message .. . My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. We left her at my mother's house. She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? That is what the people in canada did when their cat was killed in a microwave. |
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Female cat gone nuts
On Jan 11, 1:49 pm, wrote:
On Jan 11, 12:11 pm, bookie wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message .. . My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. We left her at my mother's house. She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? That is what the people in canada did when their cat was killed in a microwave. I see no reasoning behind the microwave incident. There are many things that should be done to those individuals however, and my vote is the same treatment they gave the cat. Although the environment may be an issue, there is probably more to it as well, including acting out for attention or some weird testing phase due to abandonment issues by the cat. I wonder what might have been done while you were away and how serious your sitters took her care. Troy www.petadministration.com |
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Female cat gone nuts
wrote in message ... On Jan 11, 12:11 pm, bookie wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message .. . My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. We left her at my mother's house. She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? That is what the people in canada did when their cat was killed in a microwave. aloon... go back and read again....there was NO house sitter there, it was the neighbor stopping in to take care of feeding the cat. and must we keep bringing up that horrible event? it's not that i want to forget it happened but all you're doing is upsetting many people over and over again * |
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Female cat gone nuts
On Fri, 11 Jan 2008 12:11:49 -0800 (PST), bookie
wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message ... My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. *Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. *Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. *We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. *We left her at my mother's house. *She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. *Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. *My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. *She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. *But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. *When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. *Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. *When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. *I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. *Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. *Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. *Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. *When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. *My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. *I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. *The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. *She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. *Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. *Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. *She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. *If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? or better still not go away on your trip and have a holiday at home getting ot know your new furry friend and help her to settle in better. If you had a new baby woudl you dump it with a relative and sod off on holiday? no i doubt it, so why do it with a young and impressionable cat? i ahve recently had 2 trips away abroad but both times i have organised these to be at times when my housemates will be here to feed and pamper my furbabies so they suffer as little disruption as possible to their routine. the one time there woudl have been none here to look after my precious jasper (RB july 2005) cos we were all away at the same time i got a good friend who knew jasper well to stay inthe huose for a week as there was going to be no question of jasper being uprooted and going to a cattery. As he had come form a rescue centre after his previous mum died i think that putting him in a cattery would have been the end of him and i was not goign to upset him. If i coud not get anyone suitable to live in our house then i would have cancelled my trip away, no question. jasper's welfare, health and emotional well being were my responsibiility just as yoshi's is yours and i have to say that i think you let her down by shunting her about in her formative years from pillar to post. i do not knwo really what you canb do knwo to remedy matters but i hope you do not do this again to yoshi or to another young cat who is depending on you to provide a stable home for them. i despair of some people, i really do bookie I guess I can appreciate the comments, even if some of them are quite presumptive, and to be honest, a bit condescending. First, it wasn't like we just dumped her off at my mother's house without any preparation. On our vet's advice, we took her over for several short visits so she could be around my mother and her cat without the stress of being without us. Those visits went exceptionally well. The arrangements were made for her to stay at my mother's house because my mother has some difficulty getting into and out of my property, due to reduced night vision, and her perceived inability to get her car in and out of my driveway. In short, I was trying to accommodate someone who was doing us a favor. And quite frankly, I wouldn't trust anyone else in my house while I'm gone. We also felt it better that Yoshi be around someone 24/7 with whom she was familiar rather than to be left alone, save for short visits by someone to check in on her. I trust you'll agree that was a far better option than boarding her at some kennel. As for "buggering off on a trip to Florida", what's done is done. It wasn't planned that way, but the opportunity came up, and with my health problems of late, I decided, upon doctor's advice, to take my first real vacation in over 14 years. But that's not when her personality changed. Second, it was not my wish, desire, nor with my approval that my daughter so selfishly and thoughtlessly decided to "move out" for a month. But in this state at her age, she is legally considered an adult, and I had very little say in the matter. In fact, it was done without my prior knowledge. I arrived home from running errands one day to a note saying she and Yoshi were staying with her friend until school started back. I've already expressed my extreme displeasure over that situation many times with her, and I think I've impressed upon her the potential damage that has been done to Yoshi. I doubt her mistake will be repeated. But even tonight, with my daughter not at home, Yoshi is being quite a bit more receptive to me. She comes into the same room with me, and I've even had her chasing her red laser dot around the walls, something she seems to enjoy quite a bit. She starts "complaining" when I stop. And yes, I'm quite careful to make sure it isn't shined anywhere near her eyes. She still grumbles when I pet her, but at least she tolerates it. One thing I failed to mention previously is ever since the vet visit, she HATES being touched on her back near her tail. Her biggest fight at the vet was while the vet took her rectal temperature, and it appears to me she's afraid any time anyone touches her "back there", because she thinks she's going to go through that again. I keep going back to that vet visit because that's when I first noticed the personality change. It occurred during my daughter's stay at her friend's house. And her personality now is akin to how belligerent she was when she came home from being spayed, but that episode only lasted a day or so. So given the fact that Yoshi is now home to stay (she hasn't left this house in over 4 months now), I welcome any suggestions that might help her become re-acclamated to her home environment. I just feel additional piling on of criticism at this point would be unproductive. |
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Female cat gone nuts
Tim J. wrote in
: On Fri, 11 Jan 2008 12:11:49 -0800 (PST), bookie wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message ... My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. *Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. *Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. *We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. *We left her at my mother's house. *She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. *Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. *My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. *She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. *But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. *When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. *Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. *When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. *I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. *Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. *Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. *Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. *When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. *My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. *I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. *The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. *She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. *Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. *Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. *She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. *If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? or better still not go away on your trip and have a holiday at home getting ot know your new furry friend and help her to settle in better. If you had a new baby woudl you dump it with a relative and sod off on holiday? no i doubt it, so why do it with a young and impressionable cat? i ahve recently had 2 trips away abroad but both times i have organised these to be at times when my housemates will be here to feed and pamper my furbabies so they suffer as little disruption as possible to their routine. the one time there woudl have been none here to look after my precious jasper (RB july 2005) cos we were all away at the same time i got a good friend who knew jasper well to stay inthe huose for a week as there was going to be no question of jasper being uprooted and going to a cattery. As he had come form a rescue centre after his previous mum died i think that putting him in a cattery would have been the end of him and i was not goign to upset him. If i coud not get anyone suitable to live in our house then i would have cancelled my trip away, no question. jasper's welfare, health and emotional well being were my responsibiility just as yoshi's is yours and i have to say that i think you let her down by shunting her about in her formative years from pillar to post. i do not knwo really what you canb do knwo to remedy matters but i hope you do not do this again to yoshi or to another young cat who is depending on you to provide a stable home for them. i despair of some people, i really do bookie I guess I can appreciate the comments, even if some of them are quite presumptive, and to be honest, a bit condescending. First, it wasn't like we just dumped her off at my mother's house without any preparation. On our vet's advice, we took her over for several short visits so she could be around my mother and her cat without the stress of being without us. Those visits went exceptionally well. The arrangements were made for her to stay at my mother's house because my mother has some difficulty getting into and out of my property, due to reduced night vision, and her perceived inability to get her car in and out of my driveway. In short, I was trying to accommodate someone who was doing us a favor. And quite frankly, I wouldn't trust anyone else in my house while I'm gone. We also felt it better that Yoshi be around someone 24/7 with whom she was familiar rather than to be left alone, save for short visits by someone to check in on her. I trust you'll agree that was a far better option than boarding her at some kennel. As for "buggering off on a trip to Florida", what's done is done. It wasn't planned that way, but the opportunity came up, and with my health problems of late, I decided, upon doctor's advice, to take my first real vacation in over 14 years. But that's not when her personality changed. Second, it was not my wish, desire, nor with my approval that my daughter so selfishly and thoughtlessly decided to "move out" for a month. But in this state at her age, she is legally considered an adult, and I had very little say in the matter. In fact, it was done without my prior knowledge. I arrived home from running errands one day to a note saying she and Yoshi were staying with her friend until school started back. I've already expressed my extreme displeasure over that situation many times with her, and I think I've impressed upon her the potential damage that has been done to Yoshi. I doubt her mistake will be repeated. But even tonight, with my daughter not at home, Yoshi is being quite a bit more receptive to me. She comes into the same room with me, and I've even had her chasing her red laser dot around the walls, something she seems to enjoy quite a bit. She starts "complaining" when I stop. And yes, I'm quite careful to make sure it isn't shined anywhere near her eyes. She still grumbles when I pet her, but at least she tolerates it. One thing I failed to mention previously is ever since the vet visit, she HATES being touched on her back near her tail. Her biggest fight at the vet was while the vet took her rectal temperature, and it appears to me she's afraid any time anyone touches her "back there", because she thinks she's going to go through that again. I keep going back to that vet visit because that's when I first noticed the personality change. It occurred during my daughter's stay at her friend's house. And her personality now is akin to how belligerent she was when she came home from being spayed, but that episode only lasted a day or so. So given the fact that Yoshi is now home to stay (she hasn't left this house in over 4 months now), I welcome any suggestions that might help her become re-acclamated to her home environment. I just feel additional piling on of criticism at this point would be unproductive. You need to give her much more time. She may never "come around" as much as you hope but you seem to understand how she might feel so you know it will take time for her to see you as a protector and a friend. She does sound like she is warming up if slowly. I would also get a "fishing pole" type toy; the ones with a "prey" on a line that you dangle from a pole. That way she gets to catch it now and then. The red dot is great but they never get the fun of grabbing it and giving it a good thrashing. She will also associate it with you more than she might the laser dot. Andy [yes Matthew, I am taking my own advice also] |
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Female cat gone nuts
On 12 Jan, 01:51, "Xarri" wrote:
wrote in message ... On Jan 11, 12:11 pm, bookie wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message .. . My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. *Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. *Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. *We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. *We left her at my mother's house. *She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. *Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. *My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. *She took Yoshi with her.. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. *When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. *Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. *When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. *I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. *Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. *Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. *Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. *When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. *My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. *I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. *The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. *She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. *Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. *Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. *She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? That is what the people in canada did when their cwas killed in a microwave. aloon... go back and read again....there was NO house sitter there, it was the neighbor stopping in to take care of feeding the cat. *and must we keep bringing up that horrible event? *it's not that i want to forget it happened but all you're doing is upsetting many people over and over again **- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - quite! i had someone actually living inthis house, actually it was my old housemate who had been living in this house with me before he went abroad and he stayed here for a the week during a return trip. he was in most of the time and he is a big chap, quite capable of seeing off any intruders. if i was not going to be certain of my cats safety with this friend who is very conscientious when it comes to cats i woudl not have gone away as i said before. bookie |
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Female cat gone nuts
On 12 Jan, 11:27, Tim J. wrote:
On Fri, 11 Jan 2008 12:11:49 -0800 (PST), bookie wrote: On 11 Jan, 16:28, "cybercat" wrote: "Tim J." wrote in message . .. My daughter's cat, now 10 months old, has become almost unbearable. When we first got Yoshi at 6 weeks, she was very loving. *Even after her spaying a few weeks later, her personality was great. *Although she's always been partial to my daughter, she used to jump up in my lap to be petted. *We know the history of this cat since birth, as well as her parents (and grandparents), and all were well treated. The problems started not long after our trip to Florida during the summer. *We left her at my mother's house. *She also has a female cat, about 3 years old. *Yoshi came in and took charge, basically ejecting my mother's cat from the house for the entire week we were gone. During that time, Yoshi would follow my mother around and jump up into her lap wanting attention. *My mother has always spoiled her cats, and she treated Yoshi no differently. After we got her home, my daughter stayed with a friend of hers for about a month until school started back. *She took Yoshi with her. They had a small dog, and Yoshi seemed to get along well with it. *But when my daughter moved back home, Yoshi's personality had changed dramatically. *When I went to put her in the carrier to come home, she fought me and scratched my arm up pretty good. *Now, when my daughter is home, Yoshi basically ignores me. *When my daughter is not here, Yoshi will come into the living room meowing at me, but runs when I try to touch her. *I tried ignoring her when she comes into the room until she starts rubbing up against my leg, but she still bolts when I reach down to pet her. *Now it's to the point where she stays in my daughter's room most of the time, only coming out to growl and hiss at me. *Any attempt by me to touch her results in her swatting and clawing at me, sometimes with some serious scratches and puncture wounds on my hands and arms. *Thankfully, the only things she hasn't been doing are biting and using the bathroom outside of her litter box. *When my daughter is holding Yoshi and she comes near me, Yoshi starts growling and clinging to my daughter as though I'm going to do her harm. *My daughter hasn't been completely spared from Yoshi's wrath, but she doesn't get near the reaction from Yoshi that I do. I've had cats for most of my life, and I've never had one act this way. *I don't know of anyone who has abused her, and don't know why she seems to hate me so much. *The only thing I can think of which may have set her off is when we had to take her to the vet soon after our trip because her spaying incision didn't appear to be healing properly. *She fought me ferociously as I took her out of the carrier, and the vet had to call in extra help to restrain her. *Once his assistants took over, I stepped back and let them do their job. *Once in a while, my daughter can lay Yoshi down next to me and she will stay as long as I scratch between her ears, but she does so very reluctantly, with ears back and her growling most of the time. *She then jumps up and runs within seconds after I stop scratching her. *If I go into my daughter's room, Yoshi will hiss and growl at me while crouching down next to her litter box. Any ideas how I can reverse this odd behavior from Yoshi? When you keep ripping your cat out of familiar environments and leaving her at others' homes where there are other animals, how do you expect her to behave? Cats are not objects, they have emotions and minds, albeit little tiny one. lol She needs stability, she is new to you, and look at what you have done to her. Instead of providing a stable, loving home, you keep picking her up and taking her to stay with others. You have NO idea what happened with the dog, other cat, or the people in those homes where you left your cat. Shame on you. Stop carrying Yoshi around like she's some kind of accessory for your daughter and you will see a different cat, if you have not completely ruined her by now.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - couldn't agree more! i am constantly amazed by these people who shift their cats around as though they were little dogs, cat are veru territorial and are more likely to attach to a place than a person. if yoshi had stayed at her proper home when your daughter went off to her friend's house then she would have had a more stable start in life and would probably not have missed your daughter too much you might have found, why on earth did you let your daughter take her to this friend's house where there was a dog anyway? what a bizarre thing to do anyway. also why on earth did you get a small young vat and then bugger off on a trip to florida and leave her with someone else? it may have been your mother but the cat doesn;t know that and was there any need to shift her out of the home and environment she was already trying to get used (and failing thanks to you) why on earth did you not just leave her at home and get someone to cat and house sit for you? or better still not go away on your trip and have a holiday at home getting ot know your new furry friend and help her to settle in better. *If you had a new baby woudl you dump it with a relative and sod off on holiday? no i doubt it, so why do it with a young and impressionable cat? i ahve recently had 2 trips away abroad but both times i have organised these to be at times when my housemates will be here to feed and pamper my furbabies so they suffer as little disruption as possible to their routine. the one time there woudl have been none here to look after my precious jasper (RB july 2005) cos we were all away at the same time i got a good friend who knew jasper well to stay inthe huose for a week as there was going to be no question of jasper being uprooted and going to a cattery. As he had come form a rescue centre after his previous mum died i think that putting him in a cattery would have been the end of him and i was not goign to upset him. If i coud not get anyone suitable to live in our house then i would have cancelled my trip away, no question. jasper's welfare, health and emotional well being were my responsibiility just as yoshi's is yours and i have to say that i think you let her down by shunting her about in her formative years from pillar to post. i do not knwo really what you canb do knwo to remedy matters but i hope you do not do this again to yoshi or to another young cat who is depending on you to provide a stable home for them. i despair of some people, i really do bookie I guess I can appreciate the comments, even if some of them are quite presumptive, and to be honest, a bit condescending. First, it wasn't like we just dumped her off at my mother's house without any preparation. *On our vet's advice, we took her over for several short visits so she could be around my mother and her cat without the stress of being without us. *Those visits went exceptionally well. *The arrangements were made for her to stay at my mother's house because my mother has some difficulty getting into and out of my property, due to reduced night vision, and her perceived inability to get her car in and out of my driveway. *In short, I was trying to accommodate someone who was doing us a favor. *And quite frankly, I wouldn't trust anyone else in my house while I'm gone. *We also felt it better that Yoshi be around someone 24/7 with whom she was familiar rather than to be left alone, save for short visits by someone to check in on her. * I trust you'll agree that was a far better option than boarding her at some kennel. *As for "buggering off on a trip to Florida", what's done is done. *It wasn't planned that way, but the opportunity came up, and with my health problems of late, I decided, upon doctor's advice, to take my first real vacation in over 14 years. *But that's not when her personality changed. Second, it was not my wish, desire, nor with my approval that my daughter so selfishly and thoughtlessly decided to "move out" for a month. *But in this state at her age, she is legally considered an adult, and I had very little say in the matter. *In fact, it was done without my prior knowledge. *I arrived home from running errands one day to a note saying she and Yoshi were staying with her friend until school started back. *I've already expressed my extreme displeasure over that situation many times with her, and I think I've impressed upon her the potential damage that has been done to Yoshi. *I doubt her mistake will be repeated. But even tonight, with my daughter not at home, Yoshi is being quite a bit more receptive to me. *She comes into the same room with me, and I've even had her chasing her red laser dot around the walls, something she seems to enjoy quite a bit. *She starts "complaining" when I stop. *And yes, I'm quite careful to make sure it isn't shined anywhere near her eyes. *She still grumbles when I pet her, but at least she tolerates it. *One thing I failed to mention previously is ever since the vet visit, she HATES being touched on her back near her tail. *Her biggest fight at the vet was while the vet took her rectal temperature, and it appears to me she's afraid any time anyone touches her "back there", because she thinks she's going to go through that again. *I keep going back to that vet visit because that's when I first noticed the personality change. *It occurred during my daughter's stay at her friend's house. *And her personality now is akin to how belligerent she was when she came home from being spayed, but that episode only lasted a day or so. So given the fact that Yoshi is now home to stay (she hasn't left this house in over 4 months now), I welcome any suggestions that might help her become re-acclamated to her home environment. *I just feel additional piling on of criticism at this point would be unproductive. consult a cat behaviourist and don't post on sites like this if you can't take a bit of grief oh and don't leave your daughter (who obviously has little consideration for any cats welfare when it might compromise her own comfort) alone with the cat again |
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