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What's the best way to deter our cat from scratching at our bedroom door?
With my husband's allergies and our soon-to-be-arriving baby that we will be
cosleeping with, we made the decision a few weeks ago to keep the cats out of the bedroom. We are extremely happy with the decision and we are both breathing better at night (we are both slightly allergic to them). My husband doesn't have to take extra allergy medicine anymore and his asthma has improved. We did a thorough cleanup this past weekend and it is amazing how much cat hair gets around our routine cleanings. Unfortunately, our oldest cat Luna is not pleased with the decision at all. He is a half-Maine Coon neutered male who just turned 4. He is definitely the dominant cat, and I am "his". He is a very intelligent cat and discipline has always been difficult with him. When he gets squirted with a water bottle, he knows that we are doing it (as opposed to our younger half-Siamese Mina who has an almost comical "where the heck did that come from" reaction). He knows the meaning of the word "No" and the tone/gesture for "Out", but being a typical cat, he will usually stall and sulk. He basically has an "I don't care attitude" when we try and discipline him. Early on, he had an obsession with clawing and meowing at the front door to get out. As a kitten, we used to let him out for short, monitored excursions since we've never lived anywhere where I've felt safe letting him wander at will (we're now in the country but we live 100 feet from a heavily traveled road and since we've lived here I've been unable to avoid hitting 2 cats and have dodged dozens more). After a while, though, he used those excursions to try and run and hide in order to stay outside and they only made the clawing and meowing worse, so we discontinued them, except for every couple months or so. He rarely meows or scratches at an outside door (it also helps we have an indoor porch between him and the outside now), but we still have to be on guard for him rushing past us. Well anyways, he has started a campaign of clawing and meowing at our bedroom door once or multiple times during the night. We tried ignoring it, but it made no difference to him, and after several days of interrupted sleep, we found a yelled "NO" would usually suffice. That didn't last long. We tried the squirt bottle, but within a few days of that, when he hears us getting up to squirt him, he'll be all the way down the hall or hiding in the bathroom (I know discipline doesn't count unless you catch them in the act, so what if they know they're doing something wrong and run away from the discipline - I'm really confused about this). We keep the bathroom door closed now, which eliminated a place to hide, but that only worked a few days. What we've been doing now, is that when he scratches the first time, my husband will squirt him into the living room (if he isn't already there) and close the door between the living room and hallway (he'll claw and meow at that door too but we can only barely hear him thank goodness). The only problem is that doing that isolates them from their litter box (and we don't want the mess/hassle of setting up a second one in there), so we can't do that too long. It also hasn't made any difference with his scratching if the door comes open or my husband forgets to close it when he leaves for work in the morning. It drives me crazy that HE KNOWS that its driving us crazy. LOL I wasn't always sure if it was the case, but I'm pretty sure that Luna is aiming for any attention he can get from us, negative or not. When I open the door and he's already down the hall, he's already won for all purposes of the interaction. He's even started trying to run/sneak past us into the bedroom or into the hallway door when we open them to discipline him, like he thinks we won't do anything to him once he gets in there (yeah right). His persistence is driving me crazy, but there is no way that I am reversing my decision. I'm at my wits end and sleeping right now is hard enough without the meowing and scratching (I'm awake at the first scratch). Any suggestions? We've pondered duct tape, which we've used with decent success in the closet where their litter box is due to the very loud scratching/pounding he would do after using the litter box. I think a Scat Mat would be perfect for this purpose, but we honestly can't afford one right now (I've even checked eBay). I've never used Feliway, but I've heard it discussed here. Would that have a chance of working? Am I right in that Luna isn't being picky over positive or negative attention? In that case, is there anything differently behaviorally we could do? I'm very tired, very frustrated, but committed to keeping the family together. - Joanne |
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"jjmoreta" wrote in message ... snip I'm at my wits end and sleeping right now is hard enough without the meowing and scratching (I'm awake at the first scratch). Any suggestions? We've pondered duct tape, which we've used with decent success in the closet where their litter box is due to the very loud scratching/pounding he would do after using the litter box. I think a Scat Mat would be perfect for this purpose, but we honestly can't afford one right now (I've even checked eBay). I've never used Feliway, but I've heard it discussed here. Would that have a chance of working? Am I right in that Luna isn't being picky over positive or negative attention? In that case, is there anything differently behaviorally we could do? I'm very tired, very frustrated, but committed to keeping the family together. - Joanne I wonder if a citrus-scented air freshener in the hallway near your door might not keep him away. Or some citrus scented cleaner around the area of your door. Cats generally dislike the smell of citrus and will avoid things that smell of it. It might not help with the meowing so much, but would keep him away from the door. Aside from that, I think your duct tape idea might be good. rona |
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"jjmoreta" wrote in message ... snip I'm at my wits end and sleeping right now is hard enough without the meowing and scratching (I'm awake at the first scratch). Any suggestions? We've pondered duct tape, which we've used with decent success in the closet where their litter box is due to the very loud scratching/pounding he would do after using the litter box. I think a Scat Mat would be perfect for this purpose, but we honestly can't afford one right now (I've even checked eBay). I've never used Feliway, but I've heard it discussed here. Would that have a chance of working? Am I right in that Luna isn't being picky over positive or negative attention? In that case, is there anything differently behaviorally we could do? I'm very tired, very frustrated, but committed to keeping the family together. - Joanne I wonder if a citrus-scented air freshener in the hallway near your door might not keep him away. Or some citrus scented cleaner around the area of your door. Cats generally dislike the smell of citrus and will avoid things that smell of it. It might not help with the meowing so much, but would keep him away from the door. Aside from that, I think your duct tape idea might be good. rona |
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First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Just remember that the key to getting a cat to do what you want is to BE KIND. Megan "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." -Edmund Burke Learn The TRUTH About Declawing http://www.stopdeclaw.com Zuzu's Cats Photo Album: http://www.PictureTrail.com/zuzu22 "Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way." - W.H. Murray |
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wrote in message ... snip First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Or maybe not. Ours did it for 17 years despite being totally ignored. He died a couple of years ago and I still miss him but the sleep is wonderful! Soft earplugs do help but sometimes you don't hear the alarm! We tried lots of things with William, soon figuring out that reacting to him didn't work. He was a big lad at 15 lbs and letting him in the bedroom was a non-starter - he would walk on me all through the night and keep me awake. Or sit on my head. Or pee on the bed. By ignoring him we did eventually get some sleep but his habit of yowling and rattling the kitchen door persisted. In summer he would sometimes like to spend a night out and as we live in a very safe area away from roads we would let him. Then at 4 a.m. he would come and yowl outside our bedroom window. Double glazing cured that but it was hot in summer with the windows closed! Tried leaving lights and radios on, giving him blankets & jumpers, extra food etc. Even other cats didn't help. Don't mean to sound negative but if you find a cure please post it for my future reference! Thanks TonyB |
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wrote in message ... snip First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Or maybe not. Ours did it for 17 years despite being totally ignored. He died a couple of years ago and I still miss him but the sleep is wonderful! Soft earplugs do help but sometimes you don't hear the alarm! We tried lots of things with William, soon figuring out that reacting to him didn't work. He was a big lad at 15 lbs and letting him in the bedroom was a non-starter - he would walk on me all through the night and keep me awake. Or sit on my head. Or pee on the bed. By ignoring him we did eventually get some sleep but his habit of yowling and rattling the kitchen door persisted. In summer he would sometimes like to spend a night out and as we live in a very safe area away from roads we would let him. Then at 4 a.m. he would come and yowl outside our bedroom window. Double glazing cured that but it was hot in summer with the windows closed! Tried leaving lights and radios on, giving him blankets & jumpers, extra food etc. Even other cats didn't help. Don't mean to sound negative but if you find a cure please post it for my future reference! Thanks TonyB |
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wrote in message ... snip First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Or maybe not. Ours did it for 17 years despite being totally ignored. He died a couple of years ago and I still miss him but the sleep is wonderful! Soft earplugs do help but sometimes you don't hear the alarm! We tried lots of things with William, soon figuring out that reacting to him didn't work. He was a big lad at 15 lbs and letting him in the bedroom was a non-starter - he would walk on me all through the night and keep me awake. Or sit on my head. Or pee on the bed. By ignoring him we did eventually get some sleep but his habit of yowling and rattling the kitchen door persisted. In summer he would sometimes like to spend a night out and as we live in a very safe area away from roads we would let him. Then at 4 a.m. he would come and yowl outside our bedroom window. Double glazing cured that but it was hot in summer with the windows closed! Tried leaving lights and radios on, giving him blankets & jumpers, extra food etc. Even other cats didn't help. Don't mean to sound negative but if you find a cure please post it for my future reference! Thanks TonyB |
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"jjmoreta" wrote in message ...
wrote: snip First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Just remember that the key to getting a cat to do what you want is to BE KIND. Megan You think that I've gone to ignoring him completely? You couldn't be further from the truth. Actually I've been at home for several weeks since I was between jobs and not about to start a new one with a baby on the way. He gets attention from the moment I get up until the moment I get to bed, and usually most of it comes at night (when my husband comes home from work). And to be completely honest, the more attention he gets during the day, the worse he scratches at night. Because he is suffering separation anxiety. He feels neglected. He does not separate love he gets during the day from wanting to be in our room at night. He believes that he is entitled to both as much as he wants to, no matter what. If I was a cruel person, the easy thing to do would be to ignore him completely, but I don't. But the problem is that as much as I love him, HE ISN'T A CHILD, and I can never treat him as though he were human. He is an animal, with animal instincts. He lives in the moment from day-to-day. He will never have powers of reason. You don't understand cats at all. And most of all, I would be highly surprised if I ever became allergic to my child. What is honestly better? That my husband's asthma and allergies degenerate to the point that we get rid of our cats altogether, or we make a compromise to keep a place where we spend a third of our day fur and dander free? (we do bathe regularly but that only works so far) When I was a little girl, my parents had to get rid of my cat because of my brother's allergies and asthma and it still scars me to this day. My husband married me and my two dogs and two cats - all of which he is allergic to. You find ways to make it work for everyone. Megan gave you the solution. Read her suggestions again. I have tried ignoring him, and earplugs do not work for me (I've tried several in the past and they all irritate my ears). He is a very large cat, and his scratching at the door is actually more pounding, like someone is knocking. I can't drown it out with fan white noise or the stereo (if I turn it up enough, then I can't sleep anyways). He has never been interested in scratching posts, even before he was declawed. Oh great. Declawed. Figures. A cat tree and scratching posts are not the same thing. What this cat needs is a tall cat tree near the area of your bedroom. He also needs other distractions to keep him occupied at night, like interactive toys. He needs special attention before bedtime - and play time/interaction that will tire him out. Feliaway may also be effective at calming him at night. He does like rubbing his paws on clothes baskets, though. I wish I had the cats you must have, but about the only way animals are like children is that they all have individual personalities and respond differently. I feel sorry for your cats. We don't have ANY problem with our youngest cat and she is perfectly adjusted to the situation. Luna refuses to adjust and because he is a cat and responds like cats do, we're having problems getting him to see how his life has changed, and will remain changed. God I wish I could accomplish everything by being sweet and kind, but that has never worked, Well, the abusive methods you are using now aren't working, or you wouldn't be here asking us how to solve your problems, now, would you? Squirting and yelling do nothing to train a cat, except to teach it that it cannot trust you - leading to further anxiety. that's not how my situation is, so get off of your soapbox if you don't have any other constructive advice. Stop abusing your cat. Megan's advice is spot-on. She's been in animal rescue for years and is quite knowledgeable about behavior modification. And when you get fed up with your cat and dump him at a shelter after your baby comes, it will be the Megans of the world who rescue him and rehome him. So, heed her advice, and quit being PO'ed at her for stating the obvious. -L. |
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-L. wrote:
"jjmoreta" wrote in message ... wrote: snip First of all, stop being so mean to your cat. Yelling at him, chasing him and squirting him will not work (as you seem to have figured out) and it's abusive. This poor cat has, until recently, spent his whole life sleeping with you and cuddling, and it stands to reason that having that suddenly taken away is upsetting to him. Punishing him so severely and cruelly for what is an appropriate reaction is unfair and wrong. If this were a child I would hope you would approach this with KINDNESS and UNDERSTANDING, and work with him in a way that eases his anxieties about the change and use positive measures to make the change easier. I would suggest that you make the hour before bedtime a special time for you and your cat. Play with him, snuggle him and give him lots of attention. Give him that to look forward to as an alternative to sleeping with you at night. You should also, for now, put a tall scratching post next to your door. Once you go to bed, don't respond to his scratching the door AT ALL. No getting out of bed and chasing him, no yelling, no squirting. Wear earplugs if you must, but stop getting up and negatively reacting to him. Just like children, cats will sometimes settle for negative attention rather than nothing at all. It may take a few days or more, but if your cat doesn't get a response to his scratching behavior he will stop the scratching and settle down for the night. Just remember that the key to getting a cat to do what you want is to BE KIND. Megan You think that I've gone to ignoring him completely? You couldn't be further from the truth. Actually I've been at home for several weeks since I was between jobs and not about to start a new one with a baby on the way. He gets attention from the moment I get up until the moment I get to bed, and usually most of it comes at night (when my husband comes home from work). And to be completely honest, the more attention he gets during the day, the worse he scratches at night. Because he is suffering separation anxiety. He feels neglected. I KNOW THAT he is feeling neglected. But I made this choice first of all because I was worried about a 25lb cat crawling into the crib (one side dropped attached to the bed so easy access). If it was just because my baby, he would be allowed back in once the baby could move around on its own. But since we have made this choice, my husband has been able to decrease his allergy and asthma medicine dosage and feels and breathes better every morning, so I will not reverse my decision on that. He does not separate love he gets during the day from wanting to be in our room at night. He believes that he is entitled to both as much as he wants to, no matter what. If I was a cruel person, the easy thing to do would be to ignore him completely, but I don't. But the problem is that as much as I love him, HE ISN'T A CHILD, and I can never treat him as though he were human. He is an animal, with animal instincts. He lives in the moment from day-to-day. He will never have powers of reason. You don't understand cats at all. I never claimed to understand them 100%. That's why I'm trying to find ways to persuade him to give up on this. Our other cat doesn't have a problem with this whatsoever. He doesn't behave any differently once we're up and about and gets lots of attention. I know that he will only truly be happy with the door open, but I made my decision and that's how it is. And most of all, I would be highly surprised if I ever became allergic to my child. What is honestly better? That my husband's asthma and allergies degenerate to the point that we get rid of our cats altogether, or we make a compromise to keep a place where we spend a third of our day fur and dander free? (we do bathe regularly but that only works so far) When I was a little girl, my parents had to get rid of my cat because of my brother's allergies and asthma and it still scars me to this day. My husband married me and my two dogs and two cats - all of which he is allergic to. You find ways to make it work for everyone. Megan gave you the solution. Read her suggestions again. And does it not sound like we found a solution that would work? Bathing them with regular shampoo, no-wet shampoo, and even Allerpet hasn't helped significantly. Keeping the cats out of the bedroom, that has been the best thing in months for his allergies! And he wasn't as allergic to them when we got them. This has become a worsening problem, we don't know why and we can't afford a trip to the allergy doctor to ask. I just can't do what my parents did and take him to some farm somewhere to die of loneliness (which happened to my Snuggles, the most loyal rumpy Manx cat in the universe) I have tried ignoring him, and earplugs do not work for me (I've tried several in the past and they all irritate my ears). He is a very large cat, and his scratching at the door is actually more pounding, like someone is knocking. I can't drown it out with fan white noise or the stereo (if I turn it up enough, then I can't sleep anyways). He has never been interested in scratching posts, even before he was declawed. Oh great. Declawed. Figures. Which I did a lot of research on and found a vet who only excises the claw. My cats are not missing parts of their toes and have none of the problems usually cited. But it doesn't matter anyways and I won't debate it because declawing arguments always turn into circular arguments. A cat tree and scratching posts are not the same thing. What this cat needs is a tall cat tree near the area of your bedroom. He also needs other distractions to keep him occupied at night, like interactive toys. He needs special attention before bedtime - and play time/interaction that will tire him out. Feliaway may also be effective at calming him at night. There is nothing near the area of our bedroom. We have a hallway and at the end is the master bedroom. We also have a bathroom right off of the hallway. There is no room for a tree in either the hallway or the bathroom. We have a large variety of toys that he doesn't really like to play with. His favorite toys are milk rings and laser pointers, with which he gets exercised every night (laser pointers work better when its dark in the house). Tiring him out is not an issue because he currently has a weight problem I'm also worried about and doesn't get a lot of activity to begin with. He needs to be on a diet because the neverending-bowl-of-food which my husband's family raised several cats on doesn't work for him. I am starting to replace his normal food with diet food. I want to go to thrice daily feedings, but I don't want to make things any more difficult to adjust to. I'll see how the diet food and exercise works and then we'll go to separate feedings AFTER the baby and all the houseguests. We are considering Feliway, which I asked about originally and no one ever commented on. I've heard of it, but never used it. I don't like yelling at Luna. I don't like squirting him. But my sleep is so disturbed right now as it is that I cannot endure the pounding. Ignoring it did not work. I already explained that white noise and earplugs don't work. He has toys available everywhere (that I usually step on if I'm up in the middle of the night) and another cat for companionship. I know Mina is no substitute for us, but I want to make this work for both of us. He does like rubbing his paws on clothes baskets, though. I wish I had the cats you must have, but about the only way animals are like children is that they all have individual personalities and respond differently. I feel sorry for your cats. Which is perfectly okay. I feel bad for Luna that he's at the short end of this, but change happens sometimes. We don't have ANY problem with our youngest cat and she is perfectly adjusted to the situation. Luna refuses to adjust and because he is a cat and responds like cats do, we're having problems getting him to see how his life has changed, and will remain changed. God I wish I could accomplish everything by being sweet and kind, but that has never worked, Well, the abusive methods you are using now aren't working, or you wouldn't be here asking us how to solve your problems, now, would you? Squirting and yelling do nothing to train a cat, except to teach it that it cannot trust you - leading to further anxiety. When I yell at him, that's usually because I'm in bed and he's on the other side of the door. Out of the bedroom, I don't need to yell. As for squirting, I don't know what to say. Every cat owner I've known has used it with good success to train cats from not doing it. I guess the people who stand outside their front doors and squirt their cats with super soakers so they won't run out into danger are horrible abusers too. Or the ones who squirt to keep them off counters. I guess we have different standards. I would be abusing him if I was starving him or kicking him or, well I don't know how else people abuse cats, but that would be more like it. Squirting, no. Yelling is borderline, and I'm going to try and stop it. Denying him entry into one room of the house is not abuse. Its rough because he's never had to deal with it before, but there have been situations with other rooms he hasn't been allowed into (like a basement) and he learned to deal with. that's not how my situation is, so get off of your soapbox if you don't have any other constructive advice. Stop abusing your cat. Megan's advice is spot-on. She's been in animal rescue for years and is quite knowledgeable about behavior modification. And when you get fed up with your cat and dump him at a shelter after your baby comes, it will be the Megans of the world who rescue him and rehome him. So, heed her advice, and quit being PO'ed at her for stating the obvious. -L. Well do you think he would be happier without us? Nevermind, you'd probably say yes. If getting rid of him was an issue, he would be gone months ago, or I would just let him be an outside cat like he wants and get hit by a car like all the other cats around here seem to be. What you both are missing is that I TRIED that advice and it doesn't work. Luna is getting tons of attention, and like I've said, the more attention he gets, the worse he gets with the pounding on the door. I can't ignore the pounding. That's what I mean by constructive advice. All you've done is called me an abuser and pointed out methods I've tried and haven't worked (and by the way, will not work now because we did give up a few weeks ago and opened the door to squirt him - from what I've read on here, he won't give up now). If I loved yelling and squirting him I never would have never have bothered posting here. No wonder so many cats get dropped off if the advice is this useless. We're trying the duct tape method today and I'm going to just buy the Feliway next time I'm by the Petco, just to try it. - Joanne |
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