My brother died [not all OT]

"Ginger-lyn Summer" wrote in message
4.39...
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

My sincerest sympathies for the loss of your brother. May be RIP.

I think you all could use some prayers. You'll be in mine.

--
Joy


Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the
difference.

"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
it seems so, mom has gone and stayed with him to help him stablilze so he
wouldn't have to do the nursing home route, he is doing pretty good right
now, but he has so many issues it really is just a matter of time, i pray
alost more for them than i do for him. Lee
"Joy" wrote in message
...
Yes, it must be terribly hard on them. I think that losing a child is
the worst thing that can happen to a parent.

--
Joy


Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the
difference.

"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
thank you, its a miricle he has made it this long... i worry for my
parents. Lee
"Joy" wrote in message
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I'm so sorry to hear that, Stormee!

--
Joy




"Stormmee" wrote in message
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i am sorry, i have a brother that is very ill, Lee
"Ginger-lyn Summer" wrote in
message 4.39...
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of
some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only
51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he
left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat
named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One
Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all?
Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward
was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my
little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She
left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to
touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that
was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell
close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to
let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will
probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own
house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My
other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn

On Mon, 8 Feb 2010 23:17:25 +0000 (UTC), "Ginger-lyn Summer"
wrote:

As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all? Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Sending purrs for your grief, and for Renee to start to accept you.

~~~~~~~~~~~~ ^..^

"Life without cats would be only marginally worth living."
-TC, and the unmercifully, relentlessly, sweet calico kitty, Kenzie.

Every day is a treasure with Kenzie; I try to treat them that way. There
will only be so many, and then there will never, ever, be any more.

How you behave towards cats here below determines your status in Heaven.
- Robert Heinlein


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Ginger-lyn Summer wrote:
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all? Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ginger-lyn, I know how painful it is to lose
a brother.

--
Adrian (Owned by Snoopy, Bagheera & Shadow)
Cats leave pawprints on your heart
http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk

On Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:17:25 +0000, Ginger-lyn Summer wrote:

As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of
some sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was
only 51. I am still mourning his death.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Dan

On Feb 8, 4:17*pm, "Ginger-lyn Summer"
wrote:
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. *December, my brother died. *He was only 51. *
I am still mourning his death.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably
help -- lol! *Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! *
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. *My other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn

I'm very sorry. It's a blessing that you will be in a better living
situation. Hope all the kitties adapt quickly.

Candace

thank you, Lee
"Joy" wrote in message
. ..
I think you all could use some prayers. You'll be in mine.

--
Joy


Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the
difference.

"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
it seems so, mom has gone and stayed with him to help him stablilze so he
wouldn't have to do the nursing home route, he is doing pretty good right
now, but he has so many issues it really is just a matter of time, i pray
alost more for them than i do for him. Lee
"Joy" wrote in message
...
Yes, it must be terribly hard on them. I think that losing a child is
the worst thing that can happen to a parent.

--
Joy


Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the
difference.

"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
thank you, its a miricle he has made it this long... i worry for my
parents. Lee
"Joy" wrote in message
...
I'm so sorry to hear that, Stormee!

--
Joy




"Stormmee" wrote in message
...
i am sorry, i have a brother that is very ill, Lee
"Ginger-lyn Summer" wrote in
message 4.39...
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of
some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was
only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he
left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral
cat named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One
Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at
all? Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward
was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my
little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She
left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to
touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately,
it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that
was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell
close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to
let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will
probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own
house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My
other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn

Ginger-lyn Summer wrote:
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all? Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn


Sincere condolences on the loss of your brother. Regarding his kitty,
perhaps scent transfer would work. If you still have some of his
clothes (a shirt or pj's, or whatever) and were to wear them yourself
when you attempt to befriend kitty, it might help. Just a thought.

If you decide to move to the house, don't forget the everlasting expense
of upkeep and taxes, light, heat, yard work, etc. Will you be
physically up to that? Best wishes. MLB

Ginger-lyn Summer wrote:

As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

Ginger-lyn,

I'm so sorry.

Joyce

I'm so sorry for your loss of your brother, Ginger-lyn. I hope things will
start improving for you soonest. If you can get a Feliway diffuser or two
for your house, it might help your kitties transition and maybe lessen some
of the stress reactions from Renee and your kitties. It definitely is
available cheaper online than in pet stores. Purrs for you.
Christine
"Ginger-lyn Summer" wrote in message
4.39...
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some
sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51.
I am still mourning his death.

He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me
one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat
named
Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One Person" and
that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all?
Yep,
Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward was
one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my little
finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She left her
paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to touch
my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's
pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her.

I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on
the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to
her.

But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let
her figure out her own time to approach me.

And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably
help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house!
Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other
cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see.

Ginger-lyn