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My British Blue won't stop hiding
Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me.
About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
It takes time cats are like humans each act differently towards stress. You
got to be patient 10 days is not a long time at all If you get a chance stay in the room where she is at when she comes out talk to her quiet don't move towards her . If she will eats treats give her a few Leave the door open no matter what wrote in message ups.com... Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
I would give her more time. If she continues to hide under the bed, see if
you can put her in a room by herself with food, water, litter, and her bed that doesn't have a bed (human's) that she can hide under. Follow the same principles. Provide her with food and sit quietly while she eats. Try to engage her in an interactive toy (feather on a wand). Don't force yourself on her. Gail wrote in message ups.com... Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
On 29 Jul, 00:08, wrote:
Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick as said before 10 days is NOTHING, the cat we got back in february (abandoned by some horrid people who moved house and left her behind) has really only in the last few weeks chilled out to let us come and sit next to her on the floor and stroke her. Now she rolls on her side and present me with her tummy whenever she sees me come near here when she is sat next to the back door birdwatching, as if to say "here's my tum tum, you can start by stroking me here first, thank you!". she still does not actually come to us but she has at least started to stay still when we approach her, whic is start i suppose, and when I stroke her she purrs like a little engine, it is beautiful. anyway, all that has taken about 4-5 months to achieve, mainly just taking it at her pace and not forcing anything, sometimes just sitting next to her on the floor whilst she sits there, 'meatloafing', and eyeballs me with great suspicion. now she eyeballs me when i go near her to see if i have got any treats on me and whether it is worth flirting for a couple of whiskas temptations, she even recognises the pink box now. terri spent 3 days under the kitchen sink when we got her, we did not see anything of her at all, just had to push plates of food and water under for her, all we saw was this pair of huge scared eyes looking out, and all we heard was the sound of munching when another plate of tuna chunks had been pushed under the units. he cat i had as a kiddie, Flossie (RB 2004) spent a good 2 weeks under my bed, refused to come out except at night, spent all night miaowing pitifully. so it can take a while but it really will be worth it so be patient. Have you tried anything like a feliway diffuser? they are like plugin things which emit aynthetic cat pheromones which the cat will find calming. i have never used one myself but other people swear by them, espcially when trying to integrate a couple of cats. get them from a vet I think, about £15? you coudl also read the excellent books by Vicky Halls, cat detective, cat confidential, I have them all and can;t remember which one but one tells you the best way to get a cat to feel safe inyour presence enough to let you stroke her and to be able to build up a relationship with her. Basically as previous psoters ahve said, just sit near where she is, don't try to interact, maybe offer er some treats or tasty food, ignore her after that even, but get her to realise that your presence is not going to be threatening to her and that you mean her no harm. If you start by forcing your attention on her it may push her the other way and make her more scared of you which is definitely what you don't want is it? Also try to avoid direct eye contact as cats do find this intimidating and coudl scare her. The one thing you coud try is to look the cat inthe eyes then pretty much as soon as you have got eye contact, close your eyes slower and blink at them a few times, and then keep your eyes shut whilst facing them. cats sometimes do this to indicate that they are no threat to each other (and to you) and the cat may take this as a positive signal from you too (has worked for me inthe past with nervous cat). certainly when you are offering as treat thnk about looking away or just to the side so the cat doesn't feel as though she is being 'eyeballed'. most of all give her time, she may have come form a traumatic situation and has been shunted from pillar to post with no idea of what is going on and who to trust or where she is going to be next, she is not sure right now whether she can trust you and is beign understandably very wary of you right now until she is completely sure that you mean her no harm (dontl take this the wrong way). remember that she doesn't speak english and you don't speak 'miaow' and that some of the things you may have been doing which have been in the spirit of welcome and to show her you love her she may interpret very differently! you just don't knwo how cats view us sometimes or the stuff we do. just understand that she si probably rather sacred still, rather confused, but if you go along with all the advice about sitting near her but not trygin to inetract at first, just being with her in close proximity, she will calm down and learn to trust you. btw do we get to see any pictures of her? I bet she is real sweetie best of luck, the wait will be worth it, bookie, jessie and terri |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
Thanks for your replies everybody!
I guess time is the answer to all of this. I've pretty much left her alone when she's hiding, and plan to keep it that way. I talked to the breeder that I got her from, and she said that she's not surprised that she's a bit shy at first and it's completely normal. It's a b it of a relief, I was getting so worried! I'm trying to track down a feliway diffuser to see if this helps, but no luck so far. I've been trying to slow-blinking and not making lots of eye contact with her, as this was one of the first things I read about when looking up the subject. Hopefully it will help in the long run. I do have 1 picture of her so far, but I don't know how to post them on here! bookie wrote: On 29 Jul, 00:08, wrote: Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick as said before 10 days is NOTHING, the cat we got back in february (abandoned by some horrid people who moved house and left her behind) has really only in the last few weeks chilled out to let us come and sit next to her on the floor and stroke her. Now she rolls on her side and present me with her tummy whenever she sees me come near here when she is sat next to the back door birdwatching, as if to say "here's my tum tum, you can start by stroking me here first, thank you!". she still does not actually come to us but she has at least started to stay still when we approach her, whic is start i suppose, and when I stroke her she purrs like a little engine, it is beautiful. anyway, all that has taken about 4-5 months to achieve, mainly just taking it at her pace and not forcing anything, sometimes just sitting next to her on the floor whilst she sits there, 'meatloafing', and eyeballs me with great suspicion. now she eyeballs me when i go near her to see if i have got any treats on me and whether it is worth flirting for a couple of whiskas temptations, she even recognises the pink box now. terri spent 3 days under the kitchen sink when we got her, we did not see anything of her at all, just had to push plates of food and water under for her, all we saw was this pair of huge scared eyes looking out, and all we heard was the sound of munching when another plate of tuna chunks had been pushed under the units. he cat i had as a kiddie, Flossie (RB 2004) spent a good 2 weeks under my bed, refused to come out except at night, spent all night miaowing pitifully. so it can take a while but it really will be worth it so be patient. Have you tried anything like a feliway diffuser? they are like plugin things which emit aynthetic cat pheromones which the cat will find calming. i have never used one myself but other people swear by them, espcially when trying to integrate a couple of cats. get them from a vet I think, about £15? you coudl also read the excellent books by Vicky Halls, cat detective, cat confidential, I have them all and can;t remember which one but one tells you the best way to get a cat to feel safe inyour presence enough to let you stroke her and to be able to build up a relationship with her. Basically as previous psoters ahve said, just sit near where she is, don't try to interact, maybe offer er some treats or tasty food, ignore her after that even, but get her to realise that your presence is not going to be threatening to her and that you mean her no harm. If you start by forcing your attention on her it may push her the other way and make her more scared of you which is definitely what you don't want is it? Also try to avoid direct eye contact as cats do find this intimidating and coudl scare her. The one thing you coud try is to look the cat inthe eyes then pretty much as soon as you have got eye contact, close your eyes slower and blink at them a few times, and then keep your eyes shut whilst facing them. cats sometimes do this to indicate that they are no threat to each other (and to you) and the cat may take this as a positive signal from you too (has worked for me inthe past with nervous cat). certainly when you are offering as treat thnk about looking away or just to the side so the cat doesn't feel as though she is being 'eyeballed'. most of all give her time, she may have come form a traumatic situation and has been shunted from pillar to post with no idea of what is going on and who to trust or where she is going to be next, she is not sure right now whether she can trust you and is beign understandably very wary of you right now until she is completely sure that you mean her no harm (dontl take this the wrong way). remember that she doesn't speak english and you don't speak 'miaow' and that some of the things you may have been doing which have been in the spirit of welcome and to show her you love her she may interpret very differently! you just don't knwo how cats view us sometimes or the stuff we do. just understand that she si probably rather sacred still, rather confused, but if you go along with all the advice about sitting near her but not trygin to inetract at first, just being with her in close proximity, she will calm down and learn to trust you. btw do we get to see any pictures of her? I bet she is real sweetie best of luck, the wait will be worth it, bookie, jessie and terri |
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I'm glad she's settling in - gorgeous!!!!!
I uploaded the only photo I have so far of Burberry - I don't think it does her justice (like all cat owners I imagine ) http://nickonz.smugmug.com/gallery/3...178002152-M-LB T wrote: In article , says... It takes time cats are like humans each act differently towards stress. You got to be patient 10 days is not a long time at all If you get a chance stay in the room where she is at when she comes out talk to her quiet don't move towards her . If she will eats treats give her a few Leave the door open no matter what I'll agree on that. Poor Evangeline (Angie). I adopted her in January of 2007. We had to move in April 2007 but she seems to have rebounded nicely. As you can see in this picture, she's adapted quite nicely and is a lap fungus. http://www.flickr.com/photos/kd1s/39...7594534805296/ |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
Nick we have rules in this group called warn us when you show us a gorgeous
master ;-) wrote in message oups.com... I'm glad she's settling in - gorgeous!!!!! I uploaded the only photo I have so far of Burberry - I don't think it does her justice (like all cat owners I imagine ) http://nickonz.smugmug.com/gallery/3...178002152-M-LB T wrote: In article , says... It takes time cats are like humans each act differently towards stress. You got to be patient 10 days is not a long time at all If you get a chance stay in the room where she is at when she comes out talk to her quiet don't move towards her . If she will eats treats give her a few Leave the door open no matter what I'll agree on that. Poor Evangeline (Angie). I adopted her in January of 2007. We had to move in April 2007 but she seems to have rebounded nicely. As you can see in this picture, she's adapted quite nicely and is a lap fungus. http://www.flickr.com/photos/kd1s/39...7594534805296/ |
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My British Blue won't stop hiding
go to www.photobucket.com start your own web collection and than post a
link to it wrote in message oups.com... Thanks for your replies everybody! I guess time is the answer to all of this. I've pretty much left her alone when she's hiding, and plan to keep it that way. I talked to the breeder that I got her from, and she said that she's not surprised that she's a bit shy at first and it's completely normal. It's a b it of a relief, I was getting so worried! I'm trying to track down a feliway diffuser to see if this helps, but no luck so far. I've been trying to slow-blinking and not making lots of eye contact with her, as this was one of the first things I read about when looking up the subject. Hopefully it will help in the long run. I do have 1 picture of her so far, but I don't know how to post them on here! bookie wrote: On 29 Jul, 00:08, wrote: Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick as said before 10 days is NOTHING, the cat we got back in february (abandoned by some horrid people who moved house and left her behind) has really only in the last few weeks chilled out to let us come and sit next to her on the floor and stroke her. Now she rolls on her side and present me with her tummy whenever she sees me come near here when she is sat next to the back door birdwatching, as if to say "here's my tum tum, you can start by stroking me here first, thank you!". she still does not actually come to us but she has at least started to stay still when we approach her, whic is start i suppose, and when I stroke her she purrs like a little engine, it is beautiful. anyway, all that has taken about 4-5 months to achieve, mainly just taking it at her pace and not forcing anything, sometimes just sitting next to her on the floor whilst she sits there, 'meatloafing', and eyeballs me with great suspicion. now she eyeballs me when i go near her to see if i have got any treats on me and whether it is worth flirting for a couple of whiskas temptations, she even recognises the pink box now. terri spent 3 days under the kitchen sink when we got her, we did not see anything of her at all, just had to push plates of food and water under for her, all we saw was this pair of huge scared eyes looking out, and all we heard was the sound of munching when another plate of tuna chunks had been pushed under the units. he cat i had as a kiddie, Flossie (RB 2004) spent a good 2 weeks under my bed, refused to come out except at night, spent all night miaowing pitifully. so it can take a while but it really will be worth it so be patient. Have you tried anything like a feliway diffuser? they are like plugin things which emit aynthetic cat pheromones which the cat will find calming. i have never used one myself but other people swear by them, espcially when trying to integrate a couple of cats. get them from a vet I think, about £15? you coudl also read the excellent books by Vicky Halls, cat detective, cat confidential, I have them all and can;t remember which one but one tells you the best way to get a cat to feel safe inyour presence enough to let you stroke her and to be able to build up a relationship with her. Basically as previous psoters ahve said, just sit near where she is, don't try to interact, maybe offer er some treats or tasty food, ignore her after that even, but get her to realise that your presence is not going to be threatening to her and that you mean her no harm. If you start by forcing your attention on her it may push her the other way and make her more scared of you which is definitely what you don't want is it? Also try to avoid direct eye contact as cats do find this intimidating and coudl scare her. The one thing you coud try is to look the cat inthe eyes then pretty much as soon as you have got eye contact, close your eyes slower and blink at them a few times, and then keep your eyes shut whilst facing them. cats sometimes do this to indicate that they are no threat to each other (and to you) and the cat may take this as a positive signal from you too (has worked for me inthe past with nervous cat). certainly when you are offering as treat thnk about looking away or just to the side so the cat doesn't feel as though she is being 'eyeballed'. most of all give her time, she may have come form a traumatic situation and has been shunted from pillar to post with no idea of what is going on and who to trust or where she is going to be next, she is not sure right now whether she can trust you and is beign understandably very wary of you right now until she is completely sure that you mean her no harm (dontl take this the wrong way). remember that she doesn't speak english and you don't speak 'miaow' and that some of the things you may have been doing which have been in the spirit of welcome and to show her you love her she may interpret very differently! you just don't knwo how cats view us sometimes or the stuff we do. just understand that she si probably rather sacred still, rather confused, but if you go along with all the advice about sitting near her but not trygin to inetract at first, just being with her in close proximity, she will calm down and learn to trust you. btw do we get to see any pictures of her? I bet she is real sweetie best of luck, the wait will be worth it, bookie, jessie and terri |
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On 29 Jul, 08:47, "Matthew" wrote:
go towww.photobucket.com start your own web collection and than post a link to it wrote in message oups.com... Thanks for your replies everybody! I guess time is the answer to all of this. I've pretty much left her alone when she's hiding, and plan to keep it that way. I talked to the breeder that I got her from, and she said that she's not surprised that she's a bit shy at first and it's completely normal. It's a b it of a relief, I was getting so worried! I'm trying to track down a feliway diffuser to see if this helps, but no luck so far. I've been trying to slow-blinking and not making lots of eye contact with her, as this was one of the first things I read about when looking up the subject. Hopefully it will help in the long run. I do have 1 picture of her so far, but I don't know how to post them on here! bookie wrote: On 29 Jul, 00:08, wrote: Hi everyone, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me. About 10 days ago I adopted a 2 year old British Blue girl. (I have named her Burberry). When I first got her home, I followed all the common advice of setting her up in a room with litter tray/food/water/ bed/toys etc, and opened the cage and let her come out by herself. At first she was fine and sniffed around everything and looked quite bewildered, but as soon as she discovered she could hide under the bed, that's pretty much where she's stayed. She comes out at night for food and litter tray, and I've been closing the door to keep her in the bedroom for about the first 5 or 6 nights. She would meow at me from the side of the bed, often every hour or so, but woudln't come up on the bed or let me near her still. I've started leaving the door open so she can explore the rest of the house while I'm at work all day, and she likes to also hide under the couches and tv cabinet. I'm worried that she'll never come out! I know it takes time for adult cats to adjust, but she seems so frightened and scared, and isn't interested in toys or catnip or treats etc. Pretty much just hides whenever there's someone home. I'm wondering if I'm perhaps doing something wrong or missing something that would make her transition easier? I love her already but don't know what I'll do if she never comes out of hiding! I've managed to pet her a couple of times when she's hid under a small table that I can actually reach under and see her, but she sort of glares at me and clearly doesn't like it! Any advice would be helpful! Thanks Nick as said before 10 days is NOTHING, the cat we got back in february (abandoned by some horrid people who moved house and left her behind) has really only in the last few weeks chilled out to let us come and sit next to her on the floor and stroke her. Now she rolls on her side and present me with her tummy whenever she sees me come near here when she is sat next to the back door birdwatching, as if to say "here's my tum tum, you can start by stroking me here first, thank you!". she still does not actually come to us but she has at least started to stay still when we approach her, whic is start i suppose, and when I stroke her she purrs like a little engine, it is beautiful. anyway, all that has taken about 4-5 months to achieve, mainly just taking it at her pace and not forcing anything, sometimes just sitting next to her on the floor whilst she sits there, 'meatloafing', and eyeballs me with great suspicion. now she eyeballs me when i go near her to see if i have got any treats on me and whether it is worth flirting for a couple of whiskas temptations, she even recognises the pink box now. terri spent 3 days under the kitchen sink when we got her, we did not see anything of her at all, just had to push plates of food and water under for her, all we saw was this pair of huge scared eyes looking out, and all we heard was the sound of munching when another plate of tuna chunks had been pushed under the units. he cat i had as a kiddie, Flossie (RB 2004) spent a good 2 weeks under my bed, refused to come out except at night, spent all night miaowing pitifully. so it can take a while but it really will be worth it so be patient. Have you tried anything like a feliway diffuser? they are like plugin things which emit aynthetic cat pheromones which the cat will find calming. i have never used one myself but other people swear by them, espcially when trying to integrate a couple of cats. get them from a vet I think, about £15? you coudl also read the excellent books by Vicky Halls, cat detective, cat confidential, I have them all and can;t remember which one but one tells you the best way to get a cat to feel safe inyour presence enough to let you stroke her and to be able to build up a relationship with her. Basically as previous psoters ahve said, just sit near where she is, don't try to interact, maybe offer er some treats or tasty food, ignore her after that even, but get her to realise that your presence is not going to be threatening to her and that you mean her no harm. If you start by forcing your attention on her it may push her the other way and make her more scared of you which is definitely what you don't want is it? Also try to avoid direct eye contact as cats do find this intimidating and coudl scare her. The one thing you coud try is to look the cat inthe eyes then pretty much as soon as you have got eye contact, close your eyes slower and blink at them a few times, and then keep your eyes shut whilst facing them. cats sometimes do this to indicate that they are no threat to each other (and to you) and the cat may take this as a positive signal from you too (has worked for me inthe past with nervous cat). certainly when you are offering as treat thnk about looking away or just to the side so the cat doesn't feel as though she is being 'eyeballed'. most of all give her time, she may have come form a traumatic situation and has been shunted from pillar to post with no idea of what is going on and who to trust or where she is going to be next, she is not sure right now whether she can trust you and is beign understandably very wary of you right now until she is completely sure that you mean her no harm (dontl take this the wrong way). remember that she doesn't speak english and you don't speak 'miaow' and that some of the things you may have been doing which have been in the spirit of welcome and to show her you love her she may interpret very differently! you just don't knwo how cats view us sometimes or the stuff we do. just understand that she si probably rather sacred still, rather confused, but if you go along with all the advice about sitting near her but not trygin to inetract at first, just being with her in close proximity, she will calm down and learn to trust you. btw do we get to see any pictures of her? I bet she is real sweetie best of luck, the wait will be worth it, bookie, jessie and terri- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Exactly. I know it is easy for us to say don't worry, when we are not there with you going through this. But I would say the same thing- 5 6 days is not a long time, believe me!! Taz spent 2 weeks under my bed, doing exactly what Burberry is doing now. I tried every trick in the book, but he wasn't having any of it, Lol;o) You know what to do, all you can do now is sit back and wait until she is ready. She *Will* come out in her own time, & trust you the most for not forcing her to do anything against her will. What a sweetie Pie, by the way!! Welcome to the Cat-Slave society too, Sheelagh "o" |
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