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Friends again
To various people who posted support for my delimna with Sukey and
RIley fighting (after spotting a strange cat outside): thanks for the tips, and problem is finally resolved. I went with the strategy that Phil P. pointed me to (from the maxhouse website). The idea is to keep the cats separated, but maintain sight, smell, sound and even touch contact possiblity with a screen. Move food closer and closer to encourage tolerance of proxemity. This looked perfect, since isolation behind ordinary doors didn't seem to be progressing toward any resolution. Also I have a sunroom that the cats love, and I just needed to move a screen door from the outside door of this room to the door that communicates with the living room. Did that a week ago, put Sukey in the room and she promptly slashed her way through the screen. Leaving the glass door open an inch for communication, I then found a heavy wire shelf that I had cut to fit in the door, and that made a barrier she couldn't breech, but she remained a crazed, howling wreck when put in the room. Her constant howing was freaking Riley, so I modified the plan: during his lock-up time he was in the sunroom and the cats had contact, during her lock-up time she was in the guest room. Don't know why she didn't object to that, but I'm guessing it didn't seem frustrating. (I also dabbled with various combinations of Felaway, catnip plant, and anti-anxiety drugs, but Sukey still freaked). After two days of seeming calm, I did an experimental meet-and-greet on Thursday. Sukey had completely forgotten the problem, but Riley was still off. He watched every move she made and acted a few times like he'd like to start something, so I gave them two more days of separation. Yesterday I reintroduced them again. Riley was still a little different around Sukey - not antagonistic, but he wanted to sniff her a lot. I let them be, and we've had 24 hours of peace. They both slept with me last night like normal, and all seems well. The only alteration I'm maintaining is that I'm giving them each their own food bowl. They used to take turns, but I don't want them to have any excuse now for jealousy or irritation with each other. The best thing now is that the wire barrier, which is actually attractive, can be used in my study to get ventillation from a forbidden balcony. So all seems well. I have one more decision to make. In a week I go away for a 10 day vacation. Do I board the cats in separate rooms at my vets (plan put in place in middle of battle), or do I have their usual pet-minder come in and feed (they hide from her, but have the luxury of being at home together). If they started up another battle, she'd never know it. I'm leaning towards boarding this time, just in case. Anyone have insight on this question? |
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On Sun 19 Jun 2005 02:58:27p, Rebecca Root wrote in
rec.pets.cats.health+behav (news:2005061912582716807%rroot@indracom): To various people who posted support for my delimna with Sukey and RIley fighting (after spotting a strange cat outside): thanks for the tips, and problem is finally resolved. snip That's so fantastic! I'm glad you found a resource that's working for you guys. As for the boarding vs. them staying at home while you're away, I guess I'd probably play it by ear up until the time comes closer, but that's a tough call. A week from now could be a long time for cats who've always been friends, but then again after what's been going on, it might not be. I wish I could help more. Can you keep both options open until the time comes? Another thought is that with 10 days apart from each other *and* away from home, they might be so happy to see you and to be home that they will likely forget their tiff after it's over. Good luck and have a safe trip! -- Cheryl "The clever cat eats cheese and breathes down rat holes with baited breath." - W.C. Fields |
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On Sun, 19 Jun 2005 12:58:27 -0600, Rebecca Root
wrote: So all seems well. I have one more decision to make. In a week I go away for a 10 day vacation. Do I board the cats in separate rooms at my vets (plan put in place in middle of battle), or do I have their usual pet-minder come in and feed (they hide from her, but have the luxury of being at home together). If they started up another battle, she'd never know it. I'm leaning towards boarding this time, just in case. Anyone have insight on this question? Well we don't often get to hear positive results thanks for the good news.........and on a side note I may be totally off base here but I believe that many people especially early on confuse Fillup with PhilP which is an awful think I think if I were PhilP I would seriously consider a name change. I have seen nothing but help from PhilP but I dont admittedly read everything. Brad LIFE'S JOURNEY IS NOT TO ARRIVE AT THE GRAVE SAFELY IN A WELL-PRESERVED BODY, BUT RATHER TO SKID IN SIDEWAYS, TOTALLY WORN OUT, SHOUTING... " HOLY @#$%... WHAT A RIDE!" |
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Rebecca, I'm glad you posted this. My two cats (both adopted in the few
months) have begun playing hard again, with the larger cat (with the mending broken leg), typically attacking the smaller cat. I hear hissing now and then. I have started to put one or the other in a separate room for a kind of time out. I always do this when I'm going to be away for several hours, too. This has helped. They definitely communicate under the door. But I'm going to look for some material like you describe to make a custom door through which they can smell, talk, see, and even touch a bit, too, then try this for a few days. They're very good about their food dishes, though. They both eat in the kitchen now and only interfere with each other if my timing is wrong when I set the food down. Even then, they're gentle. |
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On 2005-06-19 19:35:21 -0600, "Elle" said:
But I'm going to look for some material like you describe to make a custom door through which they can smell, talk, see, and even touch a bit, too, then try this for a few days. Elle, Here's the link that Phil P sent me about the introduction method: http://www.maxshouse.com/introducing_cats.htm I used a room with a sliding door, so my barrier was one long wire shelf, 16" X 6.5'. It was really easy to deal with, because I could just slide the door open the rest of the way and walk in to do food and litter detail. This website shows some other possibilities for rigging up the barrier. |
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"Rebecca Root" wrote in message news:2005061912582716807%rroot@indracom... To various people who posted support for my delimna with Sukey and RIley fighting (after spotting a strange cat outside): thanks for the tips, and problem is finally resolved. I went with the strategy that Phil P. pointed me to (from the maxhouse website). The idea is to keep the cats separated, but maintain sight, smell, sound and even touch contact possiblity with a screen. Move food closer and closer to encourage tolerance of proxemity. This looked perfect, since isolation behind ordinary doors didn't seem to be progressing toward any resolution. Also I have a sunroom that the cats love, and I just needed to move a screen door from the outside door of this room to the door that communicates with the living room. Did that a week ago, put Sukey in the room and she promptly slashed her way through the screen. Leaving the glass door open an inch for communication, I then found a heavy wire shelf that I had cut to fit in the door, and that made a barrier she couldn't breech, but she remained a crazed, howling wreck when put in the room. Her constant howing was freaking Riley, so I modified the plan: during his lock-up time he was in the sunroom and the cats had contact, during her lock-up time she was in the guest room. Don't know why she didn't object to that, but I'm guessing it didn't seem frustrating. (I also dabbled with various combinations of Felaway, catnip plant, and anti-anxiety drugs, but Sukey still freaked). After two days of seeming calm, I did an experimental meet-and-greet on Thursday. Sukey had completely forgotten the problem, but Riley was still off. He watched every move she made and acted a few times like he'd like to start something, so I gave them two more days of separation. Yesterday I reintroduced them again. Riley was still a little different around Sukey - not antagonistic, but he wanted to sniff her a lot. I let them be, and we've had 24 hours of peace. They both slept with me last night like normal, and all seems well. The only alteration I'm maintaining is that I'm giving them each their own food bowl. They used to take turns, but I don't want them to have any excuse now for jealousy or irritation with each other. The best thing now is that the wire barrier, which is actually attractive, can be used in my study to get ventillation from a forbidden balcony. I'm glad the gate method worked! I use this method for introducing new cats into the population at the shelter. Works like a charm. So all seems well. I have one more decision to make. In a week I go away for a 10 day vacation. Do I board the cats in separate rooms at my vets (plan put in place in middle of battle), or do I have their usual pet-minder come in and feed (they hide from her, but have the luxury of being at home together). If they started up another battle, she'd never know it. I'm leaning towards boarding this time, just in case. Anyone have insight on this question? To avoid the possibility of exacerbating the feud, I would leave them at home with the gate in place. The stress and anxiety of boarding and the change of environment and scents coupled with the stress of re-acclimating to your home and re-establishing territory or favorite spots- plus smelling different- could severely stress a healing relationship. If you feel you must board them- board them *together*. If you separate them at the vet's office, they might not recognize each other by scent when joined because they will have both acquired strange and unfamiliar scents. They may even need to be formally reintroduced. Boarding, to me, is a last resort. I would rather cancel the trip than board my cats. But that's me. Best of luck, Phil |
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"Rebecca Root" wrote
snip Here's the link that Phil P sent me about the introduction method: http://www.maxshouse.com/introducing_cats.htm I used a room with a sliding door, so my barrier was one long wire shelf, 16" X 6.5'. It was really easy to deal with, because I could just slide the door open the rest of the way and walk in to do food and litter detail. This website shows some other possibilities for rigging up the barrier. Thanks Rebecca and Phil P. A neighbor of mine had tossed a huge roll of baling wire fencing, four-foot high, yesterday, and he said I could have it. It's extremely flexible. Right now I have a section that extends about a foot beyond each side of the doorway. A couple of weighted, former buckets of kitty litter keep it in place. I can pretty easily get in and out. I cut off the sharp ends where I cut the baling wire. So far so good for just a quick, inexpensive temporary fix... The cats don't hiss but chatter happily through it. I'll try the timeframe Phil P.'s site suggests. |
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