Visiting Henry...

"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
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On 2005-05-09, Brian Link penned:

So, I'm psychic -

Ya, well thanks, but of course your advice is worth what I scoop out
of the litterbox every day.

[snip]

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that you
wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

More topically, I know what you mean about having to "give up" on a cat.
I have also had to do that, and it was absolutely awful. But he has a
new home now, and Oscar is no longer acquiring new scars (the two she
got from Eros will never completely heal), and DH is no longer in the
hospital ... all good things.


And while we are at it, I still do not believe you had to give
up Eros. But then you know that.

"Brian Link" wrote in message
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On Tue, 10 May 2005 14:59:21 -0400, "Mary" wrote:


wrote in message
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Brian Link made this astute observation about when
he
wrote:

At one point I thought you might have
some sort of mental defect, but now I
realize you're just mean-spirited, and not
very talented. Which of course doesn't
prevent you from trying.

No, it doesn't. Notice how she still goes on about how you "didn't have
to give him up," but has not offered anything in the way of positive,
non-stressful ideas of how you could have kept him?

Ignore her. You made your decision based on what was best for Henry,
rather than doing as Mary wanted and being selfish. You've seen for
yourself how well Henry is doing, how relaxed and happy he is, and it's
best to just ignore her garbage. That's her way, to disrupt and be
nasty, with an extra-large helping of hypocrisy. She doesn't care about
cats, only about being mean and trying to make others as miserable as
she is (and that's enough bandwidth wasted on her in this post.)

Anyway, I (and my dinner guests Joel and Cheryl) very much enjoyed your
and your son's visit Sunday night. I'm glad you stayed for cheesecake
and coffee and were able to enjoy the cats and chat for awhile.

I am so glad you finally got someone to come to your house. Good
for you, Megan.


This is so funny on so many levels, none of which Mary is remotely
capable of comprehending.


Humor good.

Brian dickhead.

Ugh.



8)

On Wed, 11 May 2005 22:57:37 -0600, "Monique Y. Mudama"
wrote:

On 2005-05-09, Brian Link penned:

So, I'm psychic -

Ya, well thanks, but of course your advice is worth what I scoop out
of the litterbox every day.

[snip]

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that you
wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

Nah. It's the mental equivalent of playing Pong. Briefly enjoyable,
but not that engaging.

Though I admit it's unfair to engage in a battle of wits with an
opponent who is un-armed.

More topically, I know what you mean about having to "give up" on a cat.
I have also had to do that, and it was absolutely awful. But he has a
new home now, and Oscar is no longer acquiring new scars (the two she
got from Eros will never completely heal), and DH is no longer in the
hospital ... all good things.

I look at it as similar to having someone you love move to a different
city. You can visit them, they (or in the case of non-internet-savvy
cats, their owners) can send you pics, and you can hear of their
exploits. But you miss them while simultaneously rejoicing that
they've done the right thing.

I learned a lot from my visit with Henry. That he doesn't live with us
anymore is sad, but encouraging due to the fact that the next little
guy who comes along has a much better chance to make a permanent place
in our home. Louis the Bengal may not easily brook new additions to
the household, but at least the next time I know how to speak cat well
enough that he might be convinced.

Good old Henry. He's a great cat - and he's so much more happy now. I
wish you all could meet him! But in fact, most of you know him anyway.
=)

Thanks Megan.

BLink

On Thu, 12 May 2005 02:15:06 -0400, "Mary" wrote:


"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
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On 2005-05-09, Brian Link penned:

So, I'm psychic -

Ya, well thanks, but of course your advice is worth what I scoop out
of the litterbox every day.

[snip]

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that you
wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

More topically, I know what you mean about having to "give up" on a cat.
I have also had to do that, and it was absolutely awful. But he has a
new home now, and Oscar is no longer acquiring new scars (the two she
got from Eros will never completely heal), and DH is no longer in the
hospital ... all good things.


And while we are at it, I still do not believe you had to give
up Eros. But then you know that.


AHH! I've figured it out! You're a bot!

Looking for keywords like "I'm sorry I had to let name go", you fire
off a post like "You didn't have to let name go".

Yeesh. There it is, staring me in the face all this time.

So who is the programmer? This is some pretty nice shiat they've got
going. I could use it in my Mental Health software.

Contact me at . I'd be happy to work out a licensing
deal.

If, of course, you're a real human, then you are so mind-bogglingly
pitiful that I'm embarrassed responding to you after the realization.
And it begs the question, what's your problem? Cat bite your mother?
Rejected by Puss as a child?

Might make a nice paper for a Psych grad student.

BLink

"Brian Link" wrote in message
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On Thu, 12 May 2005 02:15:06 -0400, "Mary" wrote:


"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
. ..
On 2005-05-09, Brian Link penned:

So, I'm psychic -

Ya, well thanks, but of course your advice is worth what I scoop out
of the litterbox every day.

[snip]

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that you
wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

More topically, I know what you mean about having to "give up" on a
cat.
I have also had to do that, and it was absolutely awful. But he has a
new home now, and Oscar is no longer acquiring new scars (the two she
got from Eros will never completely heal), and DH is no longer in the
hospital ... all good things.


And while we are at it, I still do not believe you had to give
up Eros. But then you know that.


AHH! I've figured it out! You're a bot!


You've found me out.

"Brian Link" wrote in message
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On Wed, 11 May 2005 22:57:37 -0600, "Monique Y. Mudama"
wrote:

On 2005-05-09, Brian Link penned:

So, I'm psychic -

Ya, well thanks, but of course your advice is worth what I scoop out
of the litterbox every day.

[snip]

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that you
wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

Nah. It's the mental equivalent of playing Pong. Briefly enjoyable,
but not that engaging.

Though I admit it's unfair to engage in a battle of wits with an
opponent who is un-armed.


I'm not having any battle with anyone. I'm just thinking about Henry.

On 2005-05-12, Mary penned:

"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
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Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that
you wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

What's it to you, Monique?


Just more threads to delete without reading =)

--
monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully

pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca

"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
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On 2005-05-12, Mary penned:

"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message
...

Drat. I thought you'd already said (well, implied, anyway) that
you wouldn't respond to Mary's posts on this matter.

What's it to you, Monique?


Just more threads to delete without reading =)

--

Well now that's not so hard, is it? 8)

Brian Link wrote:
I had to surrender Henry because I did not have the time to properly
integrate him into our two-cat household.

Brian,

Quick kicking yourself in the balls over Henry. You did what you could
to make the situaTION WORK - IT DIDN'T - SO YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY
REHOMING HIM. sOMETIMES WE ARE JUST A CONDUIT TO A DIFFERENT, BETTER
LIFE. sOMETIMES WE ARE THE NEW HOME, OTHER TIMES NOT. (Sorry about
the caps - I have a little "helper"...) Anyway, just think of Henry as
a learning experience. And know that there will be many cats after
him, which you can help in one way or another. You can't save them
all, but you can make a difference.

When I used to do volunteer work at the kill shelters I used to tell
myself every day that I was going to make a difference in the life of
each animal I came into contact with - even if it was just to show them
that at least one person cared about them, if only for one daY. You
have to take the little victories, even if the "big victory" doesn't
have the outcome you had hoped. Henry was more than a little victory -
he lives, and he lives well.

hugs,
-L.