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[OT] Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
Yowie wrote:
It isn' perfect, and can be infuriating sometimes (like a woman on medicare only pays nothing to give birth in hospital, a woman with health insurance can pay $1000 out of her own pocket to have a baby in the same hospital with the same doctor in attendance) but its not half as bad as the US system, where it seems tha peole below a certain income never see a doctor, dentist or optometrist at all. Actually it is the middle group here that has a rough time of it. If you are poor and have children, you get free medical from Medicaid. If you have a health plan that covers most if not all needs, you pay the premium. If you fall between those two extremes, you are screwed. Mike still owes about a thousand dollar ER bill from the van accident. Rob was covered by our military insurance, Mike was not because he was over 21 and not in college at the time. Now he's in college and they still won't cover him, even though he's under the 24 year old cut off age. Pam S. |
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[OT] Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
jmcquown wrote:
Karen wrote: I don't think anyone objects to taking supplements. It's the idea that you are looked at as a potential baby machine only and treated from that direction. Viewed from that aspect. The total sum of any woman is not as a baby maker and to be so pointed about it as this article is, and to say it's been discussed for 20 years, makes one feel rather like a cow. Exactly! I'll gladly take supplements, in fact I take multi-vitamins every day and never noticed whether or not they contain folic acid or not. But I don't want to be made to feel like a potential milk cow. 'cause that ain't gonna happen. I still think it's funny that a husband used to have to "give permission" for a woman to have her tubes tied. Even now, they don't want to do it until one is in their late twenties or early thirties or has had at least two children. Mandy's best friend is a juvenile diabetic and severely thin. She has been told that having a baby would be like signing her death sentence and that of the baby. But they won't tie her tubes, as she may want to have a baby. Pam S. |
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Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
badwilson wrote:
They know that because they ask me when we are having kids and I always say "never". This usually causes a bit of questioning in which I explain that neither me or Dennis has ever wanted kids and so we are not having any. This seems to be an unacceptable answer to the general public, especially the ones that *do* have kids. All sorts of options are explained where I could delay motherhood until the last possible moment, but end up doing "the right thing" and have kids anyway. Ugh. I got asked once when I was going to have another kid, after giving birth to Mandy and having an hysterectomy. I got irked and said that I'd have another baby when the person stopped being stupid. Pam S. |
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Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
W. Leong wrote:
They probably will ask you why you didn't have kids when you were younger. Or something along the line you must be too busy with your career to have kids. New accquitnaces are surprised I have no kids at my age. When they found out I am single, they ask why I am not married. They said I must be too picky etc etc. Why do I have to explain my singlehood? Do married couples got asked why they are married to their spouses? I'd probably tell them I was waiting for their spouse to come along, and you don't mind if I have him/her, do you? If I wanted to be polite, I think I'd say that I was holding out for a person from a certain country with certain traits etc. Pam S. who has a warped sense of humor |
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Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
Cheryl Perkins wrote:
Do married couples got asked why they are married to their spouses? Probably. People certainly will gossip behind their backs 'So-and-so is such a nice person. I can't understand why s/he ever married that loser!' When we were stationed at Ft Bliss in El Paso Texas, people in Rob's unit first wondered why he married me. Then after they got to know Rob and his sense of humor they wondered why I married him. I told one of them that it was because Rob makes me laugh. Pam S. with shades of Roger Rabbit |
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Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2006-05-28, penned: I find that response (ie, "you'll change your mind") soooooo patronizing! I knew at 15 that I didn't want kids, and I never changed my mind. Lots of women don't want kids. Just because as a species we evolved to want to reproduce, that doesn't mean that the tendency is going to work the same way in every individual person. We're different in every other imaginable way, so why not for this? What I don't understand is the people who, when you say you don't want kids, say there's something wrong with you and that they're the best thing in the world. Why, why, why, if there's something wrong with me, would you want me to be responsible for children? This I don't get. This is why I suspect that in fact, "breeders" are simply jealous of all the free time and money that DINKs and SINKs have, and want to fix that situation =P LOL, as an ex-breeder (aka Crone), I think that some of them want an affirmation that they did the right thing by having kids. I used to get strange remarks about my single status (Rob and I married when I was 27) single parenthood (remarks about immaculate conception) and then choice of partner (Rob's personality is not for everyone). I admire those who want kids and have them. I also admire those who don't want kids and have the courage not to have them. There is still enough of the breeder in me to want to adopt orphans, even though I'd also like to be an empty nester. Can you spell confused? I knew you could. Pam S. |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
And besides which, it's a ridiculously selfish reason to have kids! I'd say, if your reason for having kids is to have someone to care from you when you're older, you're too selfish to have kids! If your reason to have kids is to take care of you when you're older, you'd be better off investing in an assisted care plan. We joke about this sort of thing with our crew and they love to tell us about their version of "Shady Acres" where the straw on the floor is changed every month. Pam S. |
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Pre-pregnant? I think I'm gonna pre-puke
W. Leong wrote:
Another change in Ontario is no routeine eye check-up is covered unless you are 65 or over. So if I don't go for my eye checkups until I am 65, I can develop all kinds of eye problems such as catracts without knowing it until it is too late. So again I am going to bite the bullet and pay for it myself. My eyes are worth the ~ $80 checkup fee. That means I have to watch my , and Rusty's, expenses very carefully. WOW, it's over $100 here and that's at the WalMart clinic. Rob is covered through the military the kids and I are not. Pam S. |
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