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Oh, my. We're sending new-job and stress-easing purrs your way.
------ Krista |
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CatNipped wrote:
Posting a quickie just so you won't think I am (or Sammy is) being rude. RL is kicking my @$$ right now. In fact, if you don't mind, a need to rant a bit... rant A year ago I lost my job as a web architect and since the bottom had fallen out of this job market, couldn't find another job doing this. After 4 months of unemployment, I decided to take a job as an Executive Assistant. I had to take half the pay I was getting, but I figured, hey, at least I won't have the job stress associated with the higher salary. Soothing stress relief purrs on the way. Give little (big) Sammy a hug and a kiss. Jill |
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Cheryl wrote:
On Wed 12 Jan 2005 09:05:47p, Monique Y. Mudama wrote in rec.pets.cats.anecdotes ): Here is where you really do need to say no. Your boss is being verbally abusive. Tell him in calm tones that you are working on it, but that you don't deserve to be treated this way. And, as women who have male bosses, we have to remember to treat them as males. Men in the work place don't typically deal well with emotion, especially if the workplace is also stressful for them in their position. They deal with facts. It's best to write down your grievances ahead of time on a daily planner, or a notebook, and refer to it during the meeting. Stick with the facts, leave emotions out. No whining. It just doesn't work with them. Good advice. Unfortunately, when I get very tense or angry if I try to speak I start to cry. Doesn't matter if I'm talking with a male or female, 'superior' or not. So in this situation, if at all possible, it's best for me to not attempt to address an issue until I've had a chance to cool off. This isn't always possible in the workplace when an immediate response is called for. Jill |
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On 2005-01-13, jmcquown penned:
Good advice. Unfortunately, when I get very tense or angry if I try to speak I start to cry. Doesn't matter if I'm talking with a male or female, 'superior' or not. So in this situation, if at all possible, it's best for me to not attempt to address an issue until I've had a chance to cool off. This isn't always possible in the workplace when an immediate response is called for. When I'm really I angry, I also cry. Weird. Then I get angry at myself for crying and looking weak when what I really want to do is beat the snot out of the offender. I've never had a boss who put me through the kinds of things you've described. I've had a boss disappoint me before, but I scheduled time to talk to him, told him what was bothering me, and he apologized. Not the same type of situation at all, it seems. (Then again, I was calling him on one specific lapse, not on recurring behavior.) -- monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!* |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
On 2005-01-13, jmcquown penned: Good advice. Unfortunately, when I get very tense or angry if I try to speak I start to cry. When I'm really I angry, I also cry. Weird. Then I get angry at myself for crying and looking weak when what I really want to do is beat the snot out of the offender. I know that feeling! I've never had a boss who put me through the kinds of things you've described. Actually it was Catnipped's boss who was cussing at her, and I've only had that happen one time. Strangely, it was a former Army guy who was CFO of a (surprise!) now defunct company. He called me into his office one day because an automated backup on one of the Unix systems had failed. Even with the door closed it had to be apparent to everyone because he was shouting at the top of his lungs "What the FU** happened?!" I took a deep breath, looked him in the eye and said, "Do you want me to quit? Because I'll walk out of here right now. No one talks to me like this." He lost his bluster and mumbled something like, "Go back to work." It was the one time I was able to contain the tears and just spit it back at him. I only stayed there for 1 year - couldn't have taken much more of that assinine behavior. Jill |
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"jmcquown" wrote in message . .. Monique Y. Mudama wrote: On 2005-01-13, jmcquown penned: Good advice. Unfortunately, when I get very tense or angry if I try to speak I start to cry. When I'm really I angry, I also cry. Weird. Then I get angry at myself for crying and looking weak when what I really want to do is beat the snot out of the offender. I know that feeling! I've never had a boss who put me through the kinds of things you've described. Actually it was Catnipped's boss who was cussing at her, and I've only had that happen one time. Strangely, it was a former Army guy who was CFO of a (surprise!) now defunct company. He called me into his office one day because an automated backup on one of the Unix systems had failed. Even with the door closed it had to be apparent to everyone because he was shouting at the top of his lungs "What the FU** happened?!" I took a deep breath, looked him in the eye and said, "Do you want me to quit? Because I'll walk out of here right now. No one talks to me like this." He lost his bluster and mumbled something like, "Go back to work." It was the one time I was able to contain the tears and just spit it back at him. I only stayed there for 1 year - couldn't have taken much more of that assinine behavior. Jill Don't these people realize that in today's climate you could probably be sued over verbally insulting an employee like this? I mean, really? |
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In article , "CatNipped" wrote: Posting a quickie just so you won't think I am (or Sammy is) being rude. RL is kicking my @$$ right now. In fact, if you don't mind, a need to rant a bit... rant A year ago I lost my job as a web architect and since the bottom had fallen out of this job market, couldn't find another job doing this. After 4 months of unemployment, I decided to take a job as an Executive Assistant. I had to take half the pay I was getting, but I figured, hey, at least I won't have the job stress associated with the higher salary. Unfortunately, part of my job duties as an EI was to update their web site. Well, updating the web site quickly became extensively high-end programming. *BUT*, my salary is still half of what it was and I'm still required to do all of the EI duties (step and fetch it type stuff), PLUS they gave me 15 different vendors to handle, and just about everything else that the 20+ people they just laid off were doing. So now I'm: - Going to get the mail and sorting and distributing it (a whole mail bin every day) - Doing personal chores for my CEO (paying his traffic tickets, filling out his kids' insurance forms, renewing his passport, running down to his car to fetch things for him, etc. - ad nauseum) - All meeting presentations in PowerPoint - All Excel spreadsheets with Visual Basic macros - External and internal contact information - All correspondence - email and snail mail - All FedEx-ing, faxing, and scanning of documents - All filing - Answering the telephones - Taking care of all repairs of all telephone, cellular, and computing equipment - Coding invoices for 15 different vendors for accounts payable processing - Taking care of resolving invoice problems for 15 different vendors - Creating all graphics, multi-media, interactive forms, and code for a 250+ page web site - Filming and editing a safety orientation video for the company I feel like I'm going to drop dead from exhaustion - I'm going crazy with stress. For instance, they gave me the project of creating a Safety program on our web site that is about 25 pages of interactive forms using 10+ tables in a SQL database, and editing about 700+ pages of Safety forms that need to be put on the web for downloading. When I worked for a web services company as a consultant, years ago, the web service company would have taken the job and put 4 people to work on it, given the client a 3 month time frame for completion, and charged the client $100,000 for the job. I was given it a few days ago and told the roll-out date is February 1, 2005! I've been working 16-hour days and this is the first time I've forced myself to take a break to come read the group a bit. /rant I promise to take some time this weekend to write a couple of "With Mommy" stories. Hugs, CatNipped It sounds like they are taking advantage of the high unemployment rate and snapped up an overqualified person to take underpay and overwork. Purrs that a better job happens. Suz Macmoosette =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= "People that hate cats will come back as mice in their next life." --Faith Resnick |\__/| (=':'=) (")_(") |
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"Shiral" wrote in message oups.com... I'd say put Sammy on the case. =o) (If you get REALLY fed up with these cheap greed heads who lay people off and then expect one underpaid person to do the work of 20 people, and are on the verge of quitting yourself.) Some possible titles Emptying the Mail Bin with Mommy Scanning Documents with Mommy Shredding the Boss's Parking Ticket with My Very Own Claws Doing Power Point Presentations with Mommy. Just kidding, as I realize you're under stress. But it sounds like you either need to rebel, or find a new, more reasonable job, or both. Melissa What Melissa said -- if you're that good at what you do you're probably quite indispensable to them and I wonder about using that as a point to negotiate to get either or all of -- a pay raise an assistant a clear understanding of what you can and cannot do for these people based on the number of hours in a day you are able to work all of the above? And now you need hot chocolate, a massage, medicinal purrs, and a bubble bath! hugs and purrs Christine (feelin' feisty on your behalf) |
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Karen wrote:
"jmcquown" wrote in message . .. Monique Y. Mudama wrote: On 2005-01-13, jmcquown penned: Good advice. Unfortunately, when I get very tense or angry if I try to speak I start to cry. When I'm really I angry, I also cry. Weird. Then I get angry at myself for crying and looking weak when what I really want to do is beat the snot out of the offender. I know that feeling! I've never had a boss who put me through the kinds of things you've described. Actually it was Catnipped's boss who was cussing at her, and I've only had that happen one time. Strangely, it was a former Army guy who was CFO of a (surprise!) now defunct company. He called me into his office one day because an automated backup on one of the Unix systems had failed. Even with the door closed it had to be apparent to everyone because he was shouting at the top of his lungs "What the FU** happened?!" I took a deep breath, looked him in the eye and said, "Do you want me to quit? Because I'll walk out of here right now. No one talks to me like this." He lost his bluster and mumbled something like, "Go back to work." It was the one time I was able to contain the tears and just spit it back at him. I only stayed there for 1 year - couldn't have taken much more of that assinine behavior. Jill Don't these people realize that in today's climate you could probably be sued over verbally insulting an employee like this? I mean, really? Perhaps in today's climate. And in Lori's situation I'd sure say something. My situation occurred 15 years ago when people weren't so easily able to sue over something like this. Oh, and my CFO boss brought a witness in so he could cuss me out with impunity, if that makes any sense. She was simply going to back up whatever he chose to do. Of course, this is the same place where I was handed a note by one of the route supervisors which said, "When can I get in your pants?" I guess THAT jerk realized the serious implications because when I tried to walk off with it he grabbed it away from me. Jill |
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