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Unfriendly Kitty :(
Our new kitty is about 12 weeks old now. We've had him about a month.
When we first got him, he was sweet and loveable and would come and sit in my lap. That lasted about a week. Now he's completely stand-offish, and runs and hides whenever I approach. If I ever do get to pick him up, he squirms away, not wanting to be held. His aloofness seems to have coincided with when he got to be chums with our 4 year old cat, who's pretty aloof himself. They've bonded (the kitten even tries to nurse from him!) and wrestle a lot. I'm wondering if the kitty has picked up his antisocial behavior from our older cat. So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo |
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in article , Fleemo at
wrote on 6/17/04 3:07 PM: Our new kitty is about 12 weeks old now. We've had him about a month. When we first got him, he was sweet and loveable and would come and sit in my lap. That lasted about a week. Now he's completely stand-offish, and runs and hides whenever I approach. If I ever do get to pick him up, he squirms away, not wanting to be held. His aloofness seems to have coincided with when he got to be chums with our 4 year old cat, who's pretty aloof himself. They've bonded (the kitten even tries to nurse from him!) and wrestle a lot. I'm wondering if the kitty has picked up his antisocial behavior from our older cat. So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo He's being a preteen. Give him space. Sit near him. Be happy when he does want pets. My cats go through big cycles of wanting attention/lap time and times of just sitting near. You will find all kinds of cycles, especially in your very young cats life. They really do have stages just like human preteen/teens/young adult etc. Karen |
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in article , Fleemo at
wrote on 6/17/04 3:07 PM: Our new kitty is about 12 weeks old now. We've had him about a month. When we first got him, he was sweet and loveable and would come and sit in my lap. That lasted about a week. Now he's completely stand-offish, and runs and hides whenever I approach. If I ever do get to pick him up, he squirms away, not wanting to be held. His aloofness seems to have coincided with when he got to be chums with our 4 year old cat, who's pretty aloof himself. They've bonded (the kitten even tries to nurse from him!) and wrestle a lot. I'm wondering if the kitty has picked up his antisocial behavior from our older cat. So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo He's being a preteen. Give him space. Sit near him. Be happy when he does want pets. My cats go through big cycles of wanting attention/lap time and times of just sitting near. You will find all kinds of cycles, especially in your very young cats life. They really do have stages just like human preteen/teens/young adult etc. Karen |
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enlightened us with... in article , Fleemo at wrote on 6/17/04 3:07 PM: So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo He's being a preteen. Give him space. Sit near him. Be happy when he does want pets. My cats go through big cycles of wanting attention/lap time and times of just sitting near. You will find all kinds of cycles, especially in your very young cats life. They really do have stages just like human preteen/teens/young adult etc. Karen I agree, and I'd also try to engage him in some play with one of those "interactive toys" (really just a pole with some streamers or feathers on it *g*) so he can play with you and have time with you without having to be touched if he doesn't want to be. My furkids all go crazy for this cheap toy I got at the pet store. It's like a kid's toy fishing pole with a fuzzy ball attached by a thick string. Fishing for kitties. *LOL* They know where I keep it and when I go to get it, they all come running no matter what they were doing. The more you try to pet him and/or pick him up when he isn't in the mood, the more he'll go away when he sees you. He needs to initiate pet time. And you need to stop petting him before he's sick of it so he's left wanting more. -- -- ~kaeli~ Murphy's Law #2030: If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace |
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In article ,
enlightened us with... in article , Fleemo at wrote on 6/17/04 3:07 PM: So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo He's being a preteen. Give him space. Sit near him. Be happy when he does want pets. My cats go through big cycles of wanting attention/lap time and times of just sitting near. You will find all kinds of cycles, especially in your very young cats life. They really do have stages just like human preteen/teens/young adult etc. Karen I agree, and I'd also try to engage him in some play with one of those "interactive toys" (really just a pole with some streamers or feathers on it *g*) so he can play with you and have time with you without having to be touched if he doesn't want to be. My furkids all go crazy for this cheap toy I got at the pet store. It's like a kid's toy fishing pole with a fuzzy ball attached by a thick string. Fishing for kitties. *LOL* They know where I keep it and when I go to get it, they all come running no matter what they were doing. The more you try to pet him and/or pick him up when he isn't in the mood, the more he'll go away when he sees you. He needs to initiate pet time. And you need to stop petting him before he's sick of it so he's left wanting more. -- -- ~kaeli~ Murphy's Law #2030: If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace |
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In article ,
enlightened us with... in article , Fleemo at wrote on 6/17/04 3:07 PM: So what should I expect? Might the kitty grow out of this "phase" or is this a clear indiciation of what his personality is gonna be? His disregard for human companionship and the fact that he does not cover his poop or pee does not leave me with a warm and fuzzy feeling about our new pet. :\ -Fleemo He's being a preteen. Give him space. Sit near him. Be happy when he does want pets. My cats go through big cycles of wanting attention/lap time and times of just sitting near. You will find all kinds of cycles, especially in your very young cats life. They really do have stages just like human preteen/teens/young adult etc. Karen I agree, and I'd also try to engage him in some play with one of those "interactive toys" (really just a pole with some streamers or feathers on it *g*) so he can play with you and have time with you without having to be touched if he doesn't want to be. My furkids all go crazy for this cheap toy I got at the pet store. It's like a kid's toy fishing pole with a fuzzy ball attached by a thick string. Fishing for kitties. *LOL* They know where I keep it and when I go to get it, they all come running no matter what they were doing. The more you try to pet him and/or pick him up when he isn't in the mood, the more he'll go away when he sees you. He needs to initiate pet time. And you need to stop petting him before he's sick of it so he's left wanting more. -- -- ~kaeli~ Murphy's Law #2030: If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace |
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Well, my two girls (I call them that because I am the one that hangs out in
this news group) were pretty much as much my cats as they were my wife's when we first got them. It took several months, but eventually they really became my wife's cats. They don't act like they want to give me even the smallest amount of attention. If they are on the divan and I sit there, they both move. If they are laying on the floor and I lay down a few feet from them, they move. They never lay on my side of the bed at night, but always with my wfie between us. I am allowed to pet them when they are laying in certain areas which we call "cat safe zones". They sometimes won't even eat food that I put down unless my wife leads them to the cat food bowls to indicate her approval of whatever I have fed them. Conversly, they follow my wife around the house like she had catnip stuffed in her shoes, she is expected to pick them up often, and they will lay with her anywhere. When my wife is out of the house, they are somewhat more amiable towards me, but never as if I was her equal, and as soon as her car pulls into the driveway they begin acting like I had a had an axe hidden in my shirt. My wife says that they have assumed a "pride" social structure, and since I am a male I am not their equal, but at least I do exist in their world. We have no children in our home, and if one comes to visit they head for under the bed. Likewise, they treat most adults this way, but some they accept immediatly and grace the visitor with affection. I think they are just arrogant butheads that enjoy teasing me! BTW, they do not cover up the liter deposits either, but since my wife taught them to use the liter box, I believe she failed to go the extra mile and teach them to cover it up. Allen |
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Well, my two girls (I call them that because I am the one that hangs out in
this news group) were pretty much as much my cats as they were my wife's when we first got them. It took several months, but eventually they really became my wife's cats. They don't act like they want to give me even the smallest amount of attention. If they are on the divan and I sit there, they both move. If they are laying on the floor and I lay down a few feet from them, they move. They never lay on my side of the bed at night, but always with my wfie between us. I am allowed to pet them when they are laying in certain areas which we call "cat safe zones". They sometimes won't even eat food that I put down unless my wife leads them to the cat food bowls to indicate her approval of whatever I have fed them. Conversly, they follow my wife around the house like she had catnip stuffed in her shoes, she is expected to pick them up often, and they will lay with her anywhere. When my wife is out of the house, they are somewhat more amiable towards me, but never as if I was her equal, and as soon as her car pulls into the driveway they begin acting like I had a had an axe hidden in my shirt. My wife says that they have assumed a "pride" social structure, and since I am a male I am not their equal, but at least I do exist in their world. We have no children in our home, and if one comes to visit they head for under the bed. Likewise, they treat most adults this way, but some they accept immediatly and grace the visitor with affection. I think they are just arrogant butheads that enjoy teasing me! BTW, they do not cover up the liter deposits either, but since my wife taught them to use the liter box, I believe she failed to go the extra mile and teach them to cover it up. Allen |
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Well, my two girls (I call them that because I am the one that hangs out in
this news group) were pretty much as much my cats as they were my wife's when we first got them. It took several months, but eventually they really became my wife's cats. They don't act like they want to give me even the smallest amount of attention. If they are on the divan and I sit there, they both move. If they are laying on the floor and I lay down a few feet from them, they move. They never lay on my side of the bed at night, but always with my wfie between us. I am allowed to pet them when they are laying in certain areas which we call "cat safe zones". They sometimes won't even eat food that I put down unless my wife leads them to the cat food bowls to indicate her approval of whatever I have fed them. Conversly, they follow my wife around the house like she had catnip stuffed in her shoes, she is expected to pick them up often, and they will lay with her anywhere. When my wife is out of the house, they are somewhat more amiable towards me, but never as if I was her equal, and as soon as her car pulls into the driveway they begin acting like I had a had an axe hidden in my shirt. My wife says that they have assumed a "pride" social structure, and since I am a male I am not their equal, but at least I do exist in their world. We have no children in our home, and if one comes to visit they head for under the bed. Likewise, they treat most adults this way, but some they accept immediatly and grace the visitor with affection. I think they are just arrogant butheads that enjoy teasing me! BTW, they do not cover up the liter deposits either, but since my wife taught them to use the liter box, I believe she failed to go the extra mile and teach them to cover it up. Allen |
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