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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... Once again, I should have read more carefully. The "message failure" I received says that my document is too long for your box or your box is too full. I suspect it is the latter because I have mailed this same document to other hotmail users. Please send e-mail telling me how you would like to receive the document (if you want it). I'll check back this evening. Above all, don't give up on your kitty. You simply need to commit time and patience and work through this slowly. I can see a real sense of companionship between my two furbabies now. MaryL |
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I did post 2 months ago - and got some good advice, some contradicting advice
and some nasty posts, too. Basically, I was sleep deprived and was ready to adopt the new cat out. Today, the cats do sleep together sporadically and both are purrballs. I love 'em. |
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I did post 2 months ago - and got some good advice, some contradicting advice
and some nasty posts, too. Basically, I was sleep deprived and was ready to adopt the new cat out. Today, the cats do sleep together sporadically and both are purrballs. I love 'em. |
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hi MaryL
i have googled Duffy and Holly and read your web site as well as your post on introducing the cats. Have also emailed you seperately... need to ask, at any time during the introduction did your cats fight ? Also, Duffy sounds like a sweetie - it sounds like Holly was the dominant cat? (you mention on your web site she hissed to establish that she was queen) For me, it is the other way around, unfortunately. I was wondering if anybody else could recommend a book on introducing cats as well. I did some more browsing and found a URL someone recommended : http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...t/?msg=13954.1 I would like to purchase or borrow a detailed book on this kind of situation (with chapters on difficult introductions) if there is one. I'm not giving up on this cat ... but my husband doesn't really like her, mostly because he is protective of our resident cat and really loves her, and he has already started suggesting we give her back. I have started the seperation again, and they have not seen each other for about 2 days except for when I opened arwen's room to feed her (caught a glimpse), and then again when I switched rooms for a short stint for resident cat to spend time in arwen's room (i had to hold resident cat in one arm and let arwen out with the other door, etc). thanks for the suggestions "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... Once again, I should have read more carefully. The "message failure" I received says that my document is too long for your box or your box is too full. I suspect it is the latter because I have mailed this same document to other hotmail users. Please send e-mail telling me how you would like to receive the document (if you want it). I'll check back this evening. Above all, don't give up on your kitty. You simply need to commit time and patience and work through this slowly. I can see a real sense of companionship between my two furbabies now. MaryL |
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hi MaryL
i have googled Duffy and Holly and read your web site as well as your post on introducing the cats. Have also emailed you seperately... need to ask, at any time during the introduction did your cats fight ? Also, Duffy sounds like a sweetie - it sounds like Holly was the dominant cat? (you mention on your web site she hissed to establish that she was queen) For me, it is the other way around, unfortunately. I was wondering if anybody else could recommend a book on introducing cats as well. I did some more browsing and found a URL someone recommended : http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...t/?msg=13954.1 I would like to purchase or borrow a detailed book on this kind of situation (with chapters on difficult introductions) if there is one. I'm not giving up on this cat ... but my husband doesn't really like her, mostly because he is protective of our resident cat and really loves her, and he has already started suggesting we give her back. I have started the seperation again, and they have not seen each other for about 2 days except for when I opened arwen's room to feed her (caught a glimpse), and then again when I switched rooms for a short stint for resident cat to spend time in arwen's room (i had to hold resident cat in one arm and let arwen out with the other door, etc). thanks for the suggestions "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... "MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message ... Once again, I should have read more carefully. The "message failure" I received says that my document is too long for your box or your box is too full. I suspect it is the latter because I have mailed this same document to other hotmail users. Please send e-mail telling me how you would like to receive the document (if you want it). I'll check back this evening. Above all, don't give up on your kitty. You simply need to commit time and patience and work through this slowly. I can see a real sense of companionship between my two furbabies now. MaryL |
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"RW" wrote in message om... hi MaryL i have googled Duffy and Holly and read your web site as well as your post on introducing the cats. Have also emailed you seperately... need to ask, at any time during the introduction did your cats fight ? Also, Duffy sounds like a sweetie - it sounds like Holly was the dominant cat? (you mention on your web site she hissed to establish that she was queen) For me, it is the other way around, unfortunately. I was wondering if anybody else could recommend a book on introducing cats as well. I did some more browsing and found a URL someone recommended : http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...t/?msg=13954.1 I would like to purchase or borrow a detailed book on this kind of situation (with chapters on difficult introductions) if there is one. I'm not giving up on this cat ... but my husband doesn't really like her, mostly because he is protective of our resident cat and really loves her, and he has already started suggesting we give her back. I have started the seperation again, and they have not seen each other for about 2 days except for when I opened arwen's room to feed her (caught a glimpse), and then again when I switched rooms for a short stint for resident cat to spend time in arwen's room (i had to hold resident cat in one arm and let arwen out with the other door, etc). thanks for the suggestions I re-posted the message I wrote about introducing Duffy and Holly (basically a compilation of what you may already have read). This time, it seems to have gone through. I don't have any books to recommend, but here are some Internet sources you might want to check: http://www.catcaresociety.org/intro.htm http://www.ddfl.org/behavior/catintro.htm http://www.cuhumane.org/topics/catcat.html http://www.methuen-mspca.org/petcare/htm/catintro.htm http://operationnoblefoster.org/catsanddog.htm http://www.catsinternational.org/ (library of articles) Yes, Holly was the dominant cat -- *very* dominant. We used to call her "the black tornado" because she would attack every other cat in her vicinity. The funny thing is that now that Holly and Duffy have become friends, it is usually Duffy who pounces on Holly and chases her around. It's always playful attacks, though. Once in awhile, Holly will turn around and pounce on him -- just to show Duffy she's still *top cat,* I guess. Actually, it would be hard for me to identify either of them as the true alpha cat now. They get along beautifully, and dominance seems to change from time to time. No, my cats did not get into any actual fights. However, you will see from the message I sent to you that I did a *very* slow and gradual introduction. I think that is essential! In your case, it is important for you to separate the cats and start all over again from the beginning. MaryL |
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"RW" wrote in message om... hi MaryL i have googled Duffy and Holly and read your web site as well as your post on introducing the cats. Have also emailed you seperately... need to ask, at any time during the introduction did your cats fight ? Also, Duffy sounds like a sweetie - it sounds like Holly was the dominant cat? (you mention on your web site she hissed to establish that she was queen) For me, it is the other way around, unfortunately. I was wondering if anybody else could recommend a book on introducing cats as well. I did some more browsing and found a URL someone recommended : http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...t/?msg=13954.1 I would like to purchase or borrow a detailed book on this kind of situation (with chapters on difficult introductions) if there is one. I'm not giving up on this cat ... but my husband doesn't really like her, mostly because he is protective of our resident cat and really loves her, and he has already started suggesting we give her back. I have started the seperation again, and they have not seen each other for about 2 days except for when I opened arwen's room to feed her (caught a glimpse), and then again when I switched rooms for a short stint for resident cat to spend time in arwen's room (i had to hold resident cat in one arm and let arwen out with the other door, etc). thanks for the suggestions I re-posted the message I wrote about introducing Duffy and Holly (basically a compilation of what you may already have read). This time, it seems to have gone through. I don't have any books to recommend, but here are some Internet sources you might want to check: http://www.catcaresociety.org/intro.htm http://www.ddfl.org/behavior/catintro.htm http://www.cuhumane.org/topics/catcat.html http://www.methuen-mspca.org/petcare/htm/catintro.htm http://operationnoblefoster.org/catsanddog.htm http://www.catsinternational.org/ (library of articles) Yes, Holly was the dominant cat -- *very* dominant. We used to call her "the black tornado" because she would attack every other cat in her vicinity. The funny thing is that now that Holly and Duffy have become friends, it is usually Duffy who pounces on Holly and chases her around. It's always playful attacks, though. Once in awhile, Holly will turn around and pounce on him -- just to show Duffy she's still *top cat,* I guess. Actually, it would be hard for me to identify either of them as the true alpha cat now. They get along beautifully, and dominance seems to change from time to time. No, my cats did not get into any actual fights. However, you will see from the message I sent to you that I did a *very* slow and gradual introduction. I think that is essential! In your case, it is important for you to separate the cats and start all over again from the beginning. MaryL |
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On Thu, 12 Feb 2004 02:28:24 -0800, RW wrote:
i believe i have failed at introducing my new cat arwen into the household (has one existing cat). too depressed to give the details now but i'm starting all over again as of today. would like to check if any of you have posted long, detailed success stories about introducing a new cat to a one-cat household, something like a day by day diary, OR if you know of a site that has such detailed guides. Never did anything lengthy, but up until recently when we had more than two cats, the introduction of a new cat usually involved little more than some exploration, some hissy fits that lasted a day or so, and finally just a welcome into the pile o' purr on the bed. -- Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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On Thu, 12 Feb 2004 02:28:24 -0800, RW wrote:
i believe i have failed at introducing my new cat arwen into the household (has one existing cat). too depressed to give the details now but i'm starting all over again as of today. would like to check if any of you have posted long, detailed success stories about introducing a new cat to a one-cat household, something like a day by day diary, OR if you know of a site that has such detailed guides. Never did anything lengthy, but up until recently when we had more than two cats, the introduction of a new cat usually involved little more than some exploration, some hissy fits that lasted a day or so, and finally just a welcome into the pile o' purr on the bed. -- Dennis Carr - | I may be out of my mind, http://www.dennis.furtopia.org | But I have more fun that way. ------------------------------------+------------------------------- |
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I re-posted the message I wrote about introducing Duffy and Holly (basically a compilation of what you may already have read). This time, it seems to have gone through. I don't have any books to recommend, but here are some Internet sources you might want to check: http://www.catcaresociety.org/intro.htm http://www.ddfl.org/behavior/catintro.htm http://www.cuhumane.org/topics/catcat.html http://www.methuen-mspca.org/petcare/htm/catintro.htm http://operationnoblefoster.org/catsanddog.htm http://www.catsinternational.org/ (library of articles) Yes, Holly was the dominant cat -- *very* dominant. We used to call her "the black tornado" because she would attack every other cat in her vicinity. The funny thing is that now that Holly and Duffy have become friends, it is usually Duffy who pounces on Holly and chases her around. It's always playful attacks, though. Once in awhile, Holly will turn around and pounce on him -- just to show Duffy she's still *top cat,* I guess. Actually, it would be hard for me to identify either of them as the true alpha cat now. They get along beautifully, and dominance seems to change from time to time. No, my cats did not get into any actual fights. However, you will see from the message I sent to you that I did a *very* slow and gradual introduction. I think that is essential! In your case, it is important for you to separate the cats and start all over again from the beginning. MaryL Hi MaryL THanks for everything. I will go through and post questions here if i have any. I have started the seperation again and will take it slowly. But reading your post above - i actually have to wonder whether what I'm witnessing is fighting: arwen makes this weird ambulance sound (rreeeeOOOOOWOOOOOEEEEEeeee0) while staring intensely at resident cat (very intense, the word "evil" has come to witnessess' minds), resident cat looks back hissing, then arwen starts after rc, they pick up speed and arwen sinks her paws into rcs back or body, but not teeth, there's (i can't see if claws are out) slapping and rc claws or slaps back, then i SEE FUR in the air. i also picked up a tiny clump of hair ATTACHED TO SKIN. is that fighting or "playing" ? i don't see any blood or bald spots on either cat but RC is SO furry to start with. what i know is, arwen LIKES us humans but appears not to like having RC around. if RC so much as crosses her path she starts that rreeeOOOOwww and staring thing. but she's the GUEST CAT - she's supposed to be SHY. it's probably fighting.. right? i look forward to reading the sites you recommended, and your email. |
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