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"Seanette Blaylock" wrote in message ... "Pat" had some very interesting things to say about goodbye, Eros: You might even consider getting two ferrets that can play together, that way if Oscar isn't interested then at least you won't have a lonely and bored ferret in the house too, and maybe, if you're lucky, Oscar will like playing with the ferrets, or at least be amused by watching them play together. If Monique lives in California, this isn't an option. For some reason I have no clue about [but it's probably dumb, IMO], California is the *only* state in the US in which ferrets are not legal pets. -- Like that stops anyone who wants one. Big difference in California between what is legal and what just is. Jo |
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On 2004-11-23, Dan M penned:
I know how hard it is to give up an animal. I experienced that with a dog that my ex-wife and I rescued with the full intention of finding it a loving permanent home. Even knowing from day one that the dog would be going to live elsewhere didn't make it any easier. I truly believe that those who provide foster services for animals are a breed apart. I've never been so good with the "If you love something, set it free ..." philosophy. Those who can give of themselves freely to animals (and humans!), then let their charges go to live with another family, are amazing. I know that our local shelter would lose a lot more young and injured animals if not for the generous love of their foster volunteers. You really can't blame yourself. You were motivated by a love for animals and an honest intention to give Eros a loving home. There was no way you could have known that Oscar wouldn't take to Eros. The bottom line is that you tried, you did your best, and it was just one of those things that wasn't meant to be. I can't help but think that I "should have" considered that Eric might get allergies (despite his being fine with Oscar), that I "should have" guessed that Oscar would be unreceptive to a bouncing baby boy, etc. But my brain tells me that you are right. It just takes time to get the message to my heart. From the way you describe Eros it won't take long to find his OneTrueHome. I hope so =) I really do. I called the shelter today to ask about their declawing policy, and of course they told me that they don't declaw, but can't keep adopters from having it done post-adoption. Still, she said that most people around here want clawful cats, and that they have declawed cats in need of homes, to which they'd point the others first. So I guess that's ... somewhat heartening. (I have a friend who would never declaw a cat, but who has expressly looked for declawed clats when finding pets at shelters. I have mixed feelings about that, but I guess that's fair. Declawed cats need homes too!) What is the derivation of the all-one-word "OneTrueHome"? -- monique |
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On 2004-11-23, Dan M penned:
I know how hard it is to give up an animal. I experienced that with a dog that my ex-wife and I rescued with the full intention of finding it a loving permanent home. Even knowing from day one that the dog would be going to live elsewhere didn't make it any easier. I truly believe that those who provide foster services for animals are a breed apart. I've never been so good with the "If you love something, set it free ..." philosophy. Those who can give of themselves freely to animals (and humans!), then let their charges go to live with another family, are amazing. I know that our local shelter would lose a lot more young and injured animals if not for the generous love of their foster volunteers. You really can't blame yourself. You were motivated by a love for animals and an honest intention to give Eros a loving home. There was no way you could have known that Oscar wouldn't take to Eros. The bottom line is that you tried, you did your best, and it was just one of those things that wasn't meant to be. I can't help but think that I "should have" considered that Eric might get allergies (despite his being fine with Oscar), that I "should have" guessed that Oscar would be unreceptive to a bouncing baby boy, etc. But my brain tells me that you are right. It just takes time to get the message to my heart. From the way you describe Eros it won't take long to find his OneTrueHome. I hope so =) I really do. I called the shelter today to ask about their declawing policy, and of course they told me that they don't declaw, but can't keep adopters from having it done post-adoption. Still, she said that most people around here want clawful cats, and that they have declawed cats in need of homes, to which they'd point the others first. So I guess that's ... somewhat heartening. (I have a friend who would never declaw a cat, but who has expressly looked for declawed clats when finding pets at shelters. I have mixed feelings about that, but I guess that's fair. Declawed cats need homes too!) What is the derivation of the all-one-word "OneTrueHome"? -- monique |
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On 2004-11-23, Yoj penned:
I can see why that would make you sad. I hope you will be able to forgive yourself. You are neither irresponsible nor a bad person. You had an impossible situation to deal with, and you have Eros the chance to find a home where he will be loved and appreciated, where there won't be another cat trying to force him out, and where he doesn't make anyone ill. It isn't your fault that your home only fulfilled the first of those three requirements. Joy Thank you =) I often have rather high expectations of myself ... I guess this is just another example. I just wish I could have found him a home with friends, where I could visit often! Maybe in the long run, though, this is better. I'm sure I couldn't have kept myself from being a pet care buttinski. -- monique |
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On 2004-11-23, Yoj penned:
I can see why that would make you sad. I hope you will be able to forgive yourself. You are neither irresponsible nor a bad person. You had an impossible situation to deal with, and you have Eros the chance to find a home where he will be loved and appreciated, where there won't be another cat trying to force him out, and where he doesn't make anyone ill. It isn't your fault that your home only fulfilled the first of those three requirements. Joy Thank you =) I often have rather high expectations of myself ... I guess this is just another example. I just wish I could have found him a home with friends, where I could visit often! Maybe in the long run, though, this is better. I'm sure I couldn't have kept myself from being a pet care buttinski. -- monique |
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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... I never thought I'd ever give away a pet. It's completely against everything I believe. And yet, this morning, I brought the sweetest, most lovely cat I've ever met to a shelter. I feel like the worst person in the world, even though I know that the shelter is extremely caring, that they will keep him until he finds a home, and that a sweet cat like him will easily pick himself an owner. snip I'm posting as a sort of catharsis. I hope you don't mind. Thanks for listening (reading). -- monique I'm so sorry, Monique. Christine |
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"Monique Y. Mudama" wrote in message ... I never thought I'd ever give away a pet. It's completely against everything I believe. And yet, this morning, I brought the sweetest, most lovely cat I've ever met to a shelter. I feel like the worst person in the world, even though I know that the shelter is extremely caring, that they will keep him until he finds a home, and that a sweet cat like him will easily pick himself an owner. snip I'm posting as a sort of catharsis. I hope you don't mind. Thanks for listening (reading). -- monique I'm so sorry, Monique. Christine |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
I never thought I'd ever give away a pet. snip sadness Thanks for listening (reading). Purrs to soothe your heart, and purrs for Eros to find a loving forever home soon. -- Marina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki |
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Monique Y. Mudama wrote:
I never thought I'd ever give away a pet. snip sadness Thanks for listening (reading). Purrs to soothe your heart, and purrs for Eros to find a loving forever home soon. -- Marina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki |
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On 2004-11-23, Pat penned:
Monique, I once had a girl-cat like your Oscar who would get lonely when the house was empty - which it very often was. I got her a kitten but she never accepted him. Still, I didn't give him away, I couldn't bear to, but before he got very old he was killed by a car. After a while, I tried again with another potential companion. This didn't work out, either, and I gave the kitten to a farmer. Tried again with a third, and a fourth new kitten. She never accepted either of them either, and both were given away to new loving homes. I can imagine myself after that process -- I'd be a complete wreck. It's occured to me that Oscar might "get along" with an older cat who would ignore her much of the time, but then, what fun is that? It doesn't address my earlier goal of getting Oscar a playmate, and I'd feel even worse having to give up a cat who, being older, will take longer to place than a young, active kitten. If I had known at the time how well cats get along with ferrets, I might have gotten her a ferret for a companion. They may not have the same dominance issues as two cats will. It's hard to ferret-proof a dwelling but might be worth looking into if you really want Oscar to have a playmate. You might even consider getting two ferrets that can play together, that way if Oscar isn't interested then at least you won't have a lonely and bored ferret in the house too, and maybe, if you're lucky, Oscar will like playing with the ferrets, or at least be amused by watching them play together. Hrm. Our house looks like a computer geek bachelor pad. Way too many tempting cords to nibble upon. Also, in my experience, no matter how cleanly they're kept, ferrets, well, they *stink*. I've found the idea of ferrets intriguing now and again, but Eric has put his foot down. Also, we'd have to cage them some large portion of the time; I don't think that would be fair. To be honest, I think the trouble with Oscar is that she wants to do things on her own schedule. Ani even has a song about her, "Virtue": the one person who really knows me best says i'm like a cat yeah the kind of cat that you just can't pick up and throw into your lap no, the kind that doesn't mind being held only when its her idea yeah, the kind that feels what she decides to feel when she is good and ready to feel it Ahem. Anyway, the trouble with other critters in the house is that Oscar wouldn't get to set the schedule. She has us well enough trained that we tiptoe around her when she's in a sour mood and take advantage of her cuddly moods as they come. Animals are less likely to respect, okay, coddle her that way. Oscar is, however, definitely getting the benefit of my guilt. I'm finding it nearly impossible to drive within a block of a pet store without drifting in and buying some silly toy that, like as not, she'll ignore in favor of an invisible ball of dust. Perhaps, when my emotions are less raw, I'll inventory our cat toy collection and donate some of it to the shelter. -- monique |
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