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Scared kitten
I adopted a new kitten 2 weeks ago. He is now 14 weeks old. Ever since I
have got him home he hides under the bed and runs away if I go anywhere near him. The only time I can get anywhere near him is when my other cat is around. Fortunately they got on from day 1, my older male cat tolerates him well, even though at times he gets annoyed with the kitten. When I do get a chance to touch him he loves it and he will sit on my lap and be really cuddly, but these episodes are few and far between. What can I do to make him tolerate me being near him without him running away scared? It seems to be getting worse not better! |
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Just let him take things at his own pace. The best thing you can do is ignore
him, it indicates calm acceptance. Never look him in the eye and, if you do, blink. Do you know anything about the kitten's background? Was he born to a feral mother? Take a look at case history 2 he http://www.fabcats.org/behaviour_kitten.html Here's another link: http://www.catactiontrust.org.uk/ind...N_position=2:2 AK wrote: I adopted a new kitten 2 weeks ago. He is now 14 weeks old. Ever since I have got him home he hides under the bed and runs away if I go anywhere near him. The only time I can get anywhere near him is when my other cat is around. Fortunately they got on from day 1, my older male cat tolerates him well, even though at times he gets annoyed with the kitten. When I do get a chance to touch him he loves it and he will sit on my lap and be really cuddly, but these episodes are few and far between. What can I do to make him tolerate me being near him without him running away scared? It seems to be getting worse not better! -- Message posted via http://www.catkb.com |
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"AK" wrote in message ... I adopted a new kitten 2 weeks ago. He is now 14 weeks old. Ever since I have got him home he hides under the bed and runs away if I go anywhere near him. The only time I can get anywhere near him is when my other cat is around. Fortunately they got on from day 1, my older male cat tolerates him well, even though at times he gets annoyed with the kitten. When I do get a chance to touch him he loves it and he will sit on my lap and be really cuddly, but these episodes are few and far between. What can I do to make him tolerate me being near him without him running away scared? It seems to be getting worse not better! A friend of mine who fosters keeps kittens like this in her bathroom. She says it works like a charm to get them used to her and to people in general, because there is no place to hide, and they get used to her, errr, smells and sounds. She does not approach the kittens, just talks softly to them and lets them approach her. I cannot imagine this would be a bad thing to do for a day or two. With ferals she does it much longer. |
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I went thru the same thing when I first brought my two cats home. It just
takes time. My suggestions would be to hold out your hand when you get close - let him smell you. Use your hand with food if you use dry food - let him see it's you that's putting it in the dish. Eventually he'll come around sometimes it just takes a lot of time and special attention. Now I have a cat that loves to snuggle and cuddle whenever he can. -- Message posted via CatKB.com http://www.catkb.com/Uwe/Forums.aspx...ealth/200607/1 |
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"cybercat" wrote in message ... A friend of mine who fosters keeps kittens like this in her bathroom. She says it works like a charm to get them used to her and to people in general, because there is no place to hide, and they get used to her, errr, smells and sounds. She does not approach the kittens, just talks softly to them and lets them approach her. I cannot imagine this would be a bad thing to do for a day or two. With ferals she does it much longer. I must admit it has been a lot worse since he has had free run of the house........and many places to hide. I kept him in a bedroom for the first few days, and even though he hid under the bed I could coax him out if I sat there long enough.........sounds like I need to confine him back to the bedroom and start again until he's 100% more confident with me. |
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"AK" wrote in message ... "cybercat" wrote in message ... A friend of mine who fosters keeps kittens like this in her bathroom. She says it works like a charm to get them used to her and to people in general, because there is no place to hide, and they get used to her, errr, smells and sounds. She does not approach the kittens, just talks softly to them and lets them approach her. I cannot imagine this would be a bad thing to do for a day or two. With ferals she does it much longer. I must admit it has been a lot worse since he has had free run of the house........and many places to hide. I kept him in a bedroom for the first few days, and even though he hid under the bed I could coax him out if I sat there long enough.........sounds like I need to confine him back to the bedroom and start again until he's 100% more confident with me. When my friend told me she had kept a feral kitten in the bathroom for something like three weeks I gasped! She said, "Why do people think that is so cruel? It works, just look at her now." And the cat, by then grown up, adored her and was great with the volunteers and other cats too. They are major creatures of habit, so you can train them to a certain extent. And don't forget, they are little Drama Queens too. Maybe it is just instinct and a small forebrain that makes them tend to overreact at times, but they do. Examples: hiding from you as though you are going to kill them just because you make them nervous because you are new; and that ridiculous thing my cats have always did, where they stick their heads over the dry food dish WHILE you pour the food in, as though this is the last food they will ever see even though you FEED them EVERY day. |
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Yes, that's what you need to do. Confine him to the bedroom with food,
water, and litter box. Gradually let him get used to you (ie. sit quietly while he eats, etc). As he gets more comfortable, you can increase his space. Gail "AK" wrote in message ... "cybercat" wrote in message ... A friend of mine who fosters keeps kittens like this in her bathroom. She says it works like a charm to get them used to her and to people in general, because there is no place to hide, and they get used to her, errr, smells and sounds. She does not approach the kittens, just talks softly to them and lets them approach her. I cannot imagine this would be a bad thing to do for a day or two. With ferals she does it much longer. I must admit it has been a lot worse since he has had free run of the house........and many places to hide. I kept him in a bedroom for the first few days, and even though he hid under the bed I could coax him out if I sat there long enough.........sounds like I need to confine him back to the bedroom and start again until he's 100% more confident with me. |
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On Sun, 16 Jul 2006 00:04:26 +0100, AK wrote:
"cybercat" wrote in message ... A friend of mine who fosters keeps kittens like this in her bathroom. She says it works like a charm to get them used to her and to people in general, because there is no place to hide, and they get used to her, errr, smells and sounds. She does not approach the kittens, just talks softly to them and lets them approach her. I cannot imagine this would be a bad thing to do for a day or two. With ferals she does it much longer. I must admit it has been a lot worse since he has had free run of the house........and many places to hide. I kept him in a bedroom for the first few days, and even though he hid under the bed I could coax him out if I sat there long enough.........sounds like I need to confine him back to the bedroom and start again until he's 100% more confident with me. I brought kittens into the house (along with the semi-feral momcat) two weeks ago and it's been a re-education for me about what kittens do/don't like. They do not like being picked up over a certain distance from the floor. They do like lots of things to explore and play with ... paper balls, ping pong balls, a short climbing post to get on top of their cage (left open after 2 days), boxes and bags, and a human to drag a string for them to chase. For about a week, I didn't stay long in their room; then, I went in, sat down on the floor and let them approach me. On Friday, I cat-proofed another room and let them into it. They were wary at first and do still return to their room to eat/sleep, but they're ok with me in the new room too. There is some new stuff in that room for them to climb on, explore, and play with. I agree with your decision to take a step back. Establish whatever room you want to be "home" to him and provide him with some "toys", a place to sleep, and the "necessities" ... a litter box and water and feeding station. Sit down on the floor and play with him at a distance that's comfortable to him; he will soon come to you. And of course, some extra attention for your other cat too. Sounds like he's being better about this than a lot of cats would be. |
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"Ann" wrote in message news I brought kittens into the house (along with the semi-feral momcat) two weeks ago and it's been a re-education for me about what kittens do/don't like. They do not like being picked up over a certain distance from the floor. They do like lots of things to explore and play with ... paper balls, ping pong balls, a short climbing post to get on top of their cage (left open after 2 days), boxes and bags, and a human to drag a string for them to chase. For about a week, I didn't stay long in their room; then, I went in, sat down on the floor and let them approach me. On Friday, I cat-proofed another room and let them into it. They were wary at first and do still return to their room to eat/sleep, but they're ok with me in the new room too. There is some new stuff in that room for them to climb on, explore, and play with. I agree with your decision to take a step back. Establish whatever room you want to be "home" to him and provide him with some "toys", a place to sleep, and the "necessities" ... a litter box and water and feeding station. Sit down on the floor and play with him at a distance that's comfortable to him; he will soon come to you. And of course, some extra attention for your other cat too. Sounds like he's being better about this than a lot of cats would be. Although he is on dried food I took a little tinned tuna in with me to the bedroom..........it took him a good 30 minutes to be persuaded out but he went crazy when he tasted it and sat on my lap licking my fingers for 20 minutes more. We also had some play time. Clearly tuna is great stuff! I guess the secret is not to rush him. As my other cat is fine with him and the kitten adores him I think I will let them play in the bedroom for short periods......but I don't want him bonded to my big boy and ignore me. I am amazed at my older cat, he is a Bengal and very territorial.....always fighting outside, so for him to take to the kitten has been a godsend..........the kitten is the most washed kitten ever born!! |
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"AK" wrote Although he is on dried food I took a little tinned tuna in with me to the bedroom..........it took him a good 30 minutes to be persuaded out but he went crazy when he tasted it and sat on my lap licking my fingers for 20 minutes more. That's a great sign! Now is a great time, when he is in a mood like that, to gently handle his feet--all of them. This is so that he will get used to them being handled, so that later you can trim his claws. Not just for your furniture etc., but to keep them from tripping him up, snagging them. I would handle his tail too, so he will not turn into the kind of cat that goes for you if you touch his tail! |
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