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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
I had to go and collect the medication for ringworm to treat the other
cats,so asked If I could also bring Jasper to her for a quick look at him whilst I was there because for the first time in his life,he has recently started pooping on the floor as well as wetting himself too where he sleeps. I was somewhat shocked when she asked me if I had considered euthanasia yet,because It hadn't crossed my mind at all! It has been happening for the last 2weeks or so.I noticed one day as he was sat on my lap having cuddles,& suddenly I felt a hot wet sensation on my lap too,but since then he has also started pooping where he wants to(or needs to?)I put it down to an accident the first time,but when he started pooping too,I knew the time had come to take him to be seen by the vet.Jasper has been a very faithful family member for around 14years when he moved in with us because his owners abandond him,& has never been a spot of trouble at all.I did mention to the vet that we have a case of ringworm,wondering if that might be the cause...but she tells me that it has no bearing on it at all-that it is age related and that he could have a kidney problem that was not economicaly viable sepecially considering your age;it will only get worse.I am shocked & don't know what to think to be honest.I don't want him to suffer or go through any pain that he doesn't need to,but putting him to sleep was the last thing I was expecting her to say.I must do what is right for him,so feed back would be good and I will accept her opinion if others agree it would be best.It is a bit like planning your friends death though & makes me feel awful;a bit like a betrayal of trust.Thanks peoples... |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
on Wed, 08 Nov 2006 15:52:27 GMT, "
wrote: it is age related and that he could have a kidney problem that was not economicaly viable sepecially considering your age the economic viability of treating your cat for kidney disease is YOUR decision, not your vet's. My cat, a lovely Manx, was diagnosed at the age of 15. We successfully treated him and he lived another 5 happy, healthy years. -- Lynne |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
Dear Sheelagh,
Snagglepuss showed exactly the same symptoms at about age 12. The vet kept him overnight; called the next morning to get my permission for surgery. I agreed. He found tumors on both kidneys. Snag died on the table. When I took Snag to the vet, I anticipated an exam, some meds and we'd go home together. I never got to tell him how much I loved him before he left for the Rainbow Bridge. I don't know what sort of kidney problem Jasper has. Your vet's advice is certainly based on her experience and her commitment to do right for both Jasper and for you. At eighteen, Jasper has had a very long and happy life. You're not betraying his trust. You are giving him a great gift of peace and freeing him from pain. It is so very hard, but we must do this for the little guys. I have been in your spot several times (and very soon again). Breaks your heart. I am sorry. Give Jasper some more snuggles. Tell him how much you love him. Know that you'll see him again. Roby |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
on Wed, 08 Nov 2006 16:55:00 GMT, Roby wrote:
At eighteen, Jasper has had a very long and happy life. You're not betraying his trust. You are giving him a great gift of peace and freeing him from pain. I agree with this. I also meant to say, in my other post, that if you opt not to treat him, that is certainly a viable option, too. Good luck in your decision, Sheelagh. Only you can make it, but you will do the right thing for you and for your kitty, whatever you decide. -- Lynne |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
Thanks Guys,
I shall certainly think hard on what you have all said with regard to Jasper.I thought that it might be a good thing If I were to go back & see the vet to ask her if there is an other option available to us...but on the other hand,your all right.Jasper has had a really good ining's & shared a wonderful life with us and given us as much love as we have invested in him too.18 Is a very ripe old age &we have been lucky&privaliged to get this far with no significant problems at all,haven't we?I cant help the feeling that I am sending him to the rainbow bridge prematurely,but then again,if he were out in the wild,I know that he would have a slow decline to a possibly very painful death,which is the last thing that I would want for him. I am hoping that with a bit of time to consider the idea,that I will get used to it..as you say,@ least I get the chance to explain it all to the children so that we all get the chance to say our goodbye's to him.Our vet told us to consider it over the weekend then get back to her with our decision.I did think about a second opinion,but I don't think our vet is wrong,so it would be a pointless thing to do in retrospect,wouldn't it?He has been such a tolerant friend,accepting all of our new feline family without exeption,so I am certain that they will miss him too.It is one of the most difficult decision's I have ever had to make,&I am certain it will be the right decision after talking to you all about it.Thanks for all of your collective help,it has certainly made me feel a little less guilty as well.I want to do what is best for him rather than ourselves.It is so tempting to try & see if we could keep him for another few years yet,but there is his dignity to consider also,it cant be nice for him either...If only cats could talk directly to you.We intend to make the most of the weekend with him,& take him to his favourite field where he used to follow us when we take the other feline delinquents out..places and memorys are the best gift he ever gave us.It is just such an emotionally hard decision to make..thanks for your support too by the way!I have given a link so that you can meet him too http://picasaweb.google.com/sheelaghmadden/Jasper Dear Sheelagh, Snagglepuss showed exactly the same symptoms at about age 12. The vet kept him overnight; called the next morning to get my permission for surgery. I agreed. He found tumors on both kidneys. Snag died on the table. When I took Snag to the vet, I anticipated an exam, some meds and we'd go home together. I never got to tell him how much I loved him before he left for the Rainbow Bridge. I don't know what sort of kidney problem Jasper has. Your vet's advice is certainly based on her experience and her commitment to do right for both Jasper and for you. At eighteen, Jasper has had a very long and happy life. You're not betraying his trust. You are giving him a great gift of peace and freeing him from pain. It is so very hard, but we must do this for the little guys. I have been in your spot several times (and very soon again). Breaks your heart. I am sorry. Give Jasper some more snuggles. Tell him how much you love him. Know that you'll see him again. Roby |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
Oh dear, my heart goes out to you Sheelagh. He is such a lovely old
gentlemancat. You are right he has had a lovely life. Whichever way you choose, you have his best interests at heart and I'm sure he knows that. If you decide to let him go, don't feel as though you are condemning him to an early death as you said...you are not. You are giving him the dignity he deserves, and preventing a lot of pain and suffering. If you choose to give him treatment, you will get to keep him for a bit longer, and his quality of life may or may not improve; you don't know. Whatever you decide, he knows you love him and cherish him and that is the most important thing. |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
on Wed, 08 Nov 2006 19:23:27 GMT, "
wrote: http://picasaweb.google.com/sheelaghmadden/Jasper Oh my, you certainly have a way with kitties! Jasper is another beauty, and he looks so very young and healthy. He must be very, very happy. What a lucky boy to have found you. It's such a tough decision to let a loved one go. We finally had to make that decision for our manx boy at the age of almost 21. His kidney disease was under control for 5 years, but when he started to deteriote, we did not wait long at all to say goodbye. I will say, though, that we almost made that decision a year prior, but were able to adjust his care so he had one more happy year with us, and us with him. As I said before, whatever you do will be the right thing, no matter how hard it is for you to make your decision. -- Lynne "Every once in a while, the tables are turned and we get to share our lives with an animal who takes care of their human." - Tara, rpdb |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
I regret that in my shock on the day I posted my comment about old
Jaspy,that I ommited to mention that I had already taken Jasper to see the vet a couple of weeks ago.I woul"never" have my faithful companion put to sleep just because of the inconvenience of incontinence...!! I had in fact taken old Jaspy to the vets two weeks prior to that visit because I was concerned that he was loosing wieght,even though I was feeding him seperately,& also that he seemed to be drinking more than he normally did.On that visit to our vet,she told me that it was possible that he could be suffering from one of two things..possibly kidney problems or maybe diabetes.She took a full account of bloods and also a urine sample too.A few days later she called me to say that he had a problem called Decompensated renal failure,& that if there was any further detrioration,that I was to call her & take him back to see her again. On the day that I took him back,I expected her to say that we might be able to consider dialisys,or even possibly a transplant(in my ignorance),but she explained that it was not possible because his condition was so advanced.She explained that some vets would consider it,but in her opinion it would be false economy because I would be prolonging his pain & suffering,& that given his advanced age & her long association with him,that it was her medical opinion that it would be the kindest thing that I could do for him.I am sorry that I did not make this clear on my first posting,but I assumed that no one would even consider doing such a terrible thing;I know that I certainly wouldn't!So My apologies for not making that clear to you. I took him back the other day because In my opinion his condition had got worse,& it was just a shock to hear that there was nothing else that could be considered to make him a little bit more comfortable & to keep him with us a little bit longer,but she explained that when a cat gets to the stage of decompensated renal failure that there is no other option open to him.I also felt terribly guilty that I didn't know that his condition had got so far advanced without my knowing so as he is with me all day most days...but she told me that this is very often the case,& that it wasn't neglectful,merely unfortunate in this case. As I explained in that posting,I was advised to take him home with pain killers& told to think about it for a couple of day's,then make an appointment to take him back,when we could say our final good bye's to him,& allow her to let him go peacefully with no more pain. It is one of the most painful things I have ever had to go through in my life,I assure you! Jasper is booked in to see the vet tomorrow mid day,when I will have to let him go.I regret that I did not make this clear to you-But I know that I am doing the right thing.I have no wish to wait until he is in agony then dies a slow painful death too. I hope that I have explained myself adequately,& that you all think of old Jaspy as he pass's on to pussy heaven.The only thing that keeps me going is the memories we share & the knowledge that I am doing what is best for Jasper,not myself.... paws2 via CatKB.com wrote: wrote: I had to go and collect the medication for ringworm to treat the other cats,so asked If I could also bring Jasper to her for a quick look at him whilst I was there because for the first time in his life,he has recently started pooping on the floor as well as wetting himself too where he sleeps. I was somewhat shocked when she asked me if I had considered euthanasia yet,because It hadn't crossed my mind at all! It has been happening for the last 2weeks or so.I noticed one day as he was sat on my lap having cuddles,& suddenly I felt a hot wet sensation on my lap too,but since then he has also started pooping where he wants to(or needs to?)I put it down to an accident the first time,but when he started pooping too,I knew the time had come to take him to be seen by the vet.Jasper has been a very faithful family member for around 14years when he moved in with us because his owners abandond him,& has never been a spot of trouble at all.I did mention to the vet that we have a case of ringworm,wondering if that might be the cause...but she tells me that it has no bearing on it at all-that it is age related and that he could have a kidney problem that was not economicaly viable sepecially considering your age;it will only get worse. Hi, I am not as quick as your vet to dismiss Jasper's recent "inappropriate" elimination issues as age related and apparently not worthy of looking into to the point of suggesting euthanasia! I do not understand her assumption (no evidence I have read in your posts and no blood tests) that he may have kidney problems which are not "economically viable" to treat, etc. From your initial post about your new Birman, there was nothing to indicate any problem with Jasper. You have recently brought in a new cat, you have a case of ringworm which has understandably stressed you considerably already prior to diagnosis, you isolated two cats, and you cleaned your home from top to bottom. Cats are exquisitely sensitive to even minute changes and there have been considerable ones in Jasper's territory. In addition, he is an elderly cat whose needs may be changing. You are in the uk, so I wonder whether Jasper up to now eliminated outside, whether there are any and/or sufficient litter boxes in your home, whether they are easily accessible to him, etc. At the very least physical issues must be ruled out via comprehensive blood tests (geriatric blood panel). It doesn't matter how old Jasper is, if his quality of life is good, and nothing you wrote leads me to believe that it is not, you owe it to him to find out why his elimination habits have changed. It may be physical and treatable or behavioral and dealt with depending on what the underlying issue is. It is appalling that a veterinarian would suggest considering killing this cat based on the above alone. Does she assume (and is she right?) that you are overextended in more ways than one with the many cats, kids, and disabled partner? I hope that is not a factor here. Please do right by Jasper. I would not accept a vet who dismisses old cats simply because they are old. I am shocked You should be & don't know what to think to be honest.I don't want him to suffer or go through any pain What evidence is there that he is doing either of those things? that he doesn't need to,but putting him to sleep was the last thing I was expecting her to say.I must do what is right for him,so feed back would be good and I will accept her opinion if others agree it would be best.It is a bit like planning your friends death though & makes me feel awful;a bit like a betrayal of trust. With the info you provided it would be a betrayal and unjustified. Thanks peoples... -- Message posted via CatKB.com http://www.catkb.com/Uwe/Forums.aspx...ealth/200611/1 |
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my 18 year old cat is defacting indoors for the 1st time
On 10 Nov 2006 07:17:43 -0800, "
wrote: I regret that in my shock on the day I posted my comment about old Jaspy,that I ommited to mention that I had already taken Jasper to see the vet a couple of weeks ago.I woul"never" have my faithful companion put to sleep just because of the inconvenience of incontinence...!! I had in fact taken old Jaspy to the vets two weeks prior to that visit because I was concerned that he was loosing wieght,even though I was feeding him seperately,& also that he seemed to be drinking more than he normally did.On that visit to our vet,she told me that it was .... Very tough situation. 18 is certainly a good long life; none of my cats have made it that far. Thanks for the update and clearly you are doing what you have to do. None of us is going to live forerver and it does seem like Jasper's time. Purrs. |
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