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My new kitten hates me
About 10 days ago a skinny little tabby kitten came running up to me like he
knew me his whole life (8 months or so). He wanted to be friends so I took him in and he took to my place very quickly. My other 3 cats were pretty cool with it though my 2 year old female cat put him in his place often. He seemed to take it as well as could be expected. So last Saturday my big adult male cat Jack got all worked up seeing a stray cat in the yard. He huffed and puffed trying to push through the window glass then assaulted the youngster and beat him up pretty badly. Tonight I called the vet because he was not coming around. He is depressed. He doesn't want to socialize or play - not even the squeaky mouse toy which he could hardly put down before this happened. They found a small abscess and drained it and treated him for ear mites. Also took blood for his tests. But now his personality is completely gone and has been for 3 days now. Well things have gone from bad to worse. He wants nothing to do with me and tosses a fit when I try to pet him. He growls and hisses fiercely at me when I pick him up. He truly hates me. He is seeing me as a threat and an enemy. He took the vet visit fairly well, though. They had no trouble handling him and he was quiet the whole time. But now here at home, he wants nothing to do with me at all. I just gave him his Amoxy drops and he tolerated it but the howling and hissing was breaking my heart. I suppose he must be a sensitive little guy. He is not as resilient as most other cats I have known and kept. Is there hope for a reconciliation? Do these things become permanent and they hate you for life? He just is so depressed and miserable and now so am I. For now he has a comfy room all to himself with food and a litterbox and soft places to sleep. I've just never known them to be this way for this long, a few hours sure, but not 3 days. Granted we have not bonded and he's only been with me for less than 2 weeks. Thanks. |
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My new kitten hates me
"Paul M. Cook" wrote For now he has a comfy room all to himself with food and a litterbox and soft places to sleep. I've just never known them to be this way for this long, a few hours sure, but not 3 days. Granted we have not bonded and he's only been with me for less than 2 weeks. I imagine this hurts, but give it some time. The baby will settle down. |
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My new kitten hates me
First of all, kudos to you for taking in this baby. Think of all he's
been through in his short life--probably a lot. He's just had a traumatic experience and needs time to recover. Give him lots of love and attention and he will come around. If he doesn't like you to touch him, talk to him softly and play with him. Get a couple of Feliway diffusers and plug one in his room and the other where Jack is to ease the tension. You can also play talk radio softly in the room while you're away. Keep reaching out. He'll come around. |
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My new kitten hates me
That's so sad! I've had cats where if they spotted another cat out the
window or any place they'd go berserk and end up attacking each other. It could be days before they would come around and be themselves. I couldn't go near them when they were in these moods. They do come around after a while. Barb |
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My new kitten hates me
"Paul M. Cook" wrote in message ... About 10 days ago a skinny little tabby kitten came running up to me like he knew me his whole life (8 months or so). He wanted to be friends so I took him in and he took to my place very quickly. My other 3 cats were pretty cool with it though my 2 year old female cat put him in his place often. He seemed to take it as well as could be expected. So last Saturday my big adult male cat Jack got all worked up seeing a stray cat in the yard. He huffed and puffed trying to push through the window glass then assaulted the youngster and beat him up pretty badly. That's called redirected aggression. It happens when a cat gets worked up from seeing another cat that he can't get at- so he attacks a cat or even human that is close to him. Tonight I called the vet because he was not coming around. He is depressed. He doesn't want to socialize or play - not even the squeaky mouse toy which he could hardly put down before this happened. That's not unusual after an attack- especially if the attack was traumatic for the victim. There's also a possibility the victim will develop a fear of the attacker and become defensively aggressive towards him whenever he sees him. So, be on the lookout for future fights and try to head them off before they start. If you see a fight brewing, don't try to touch either cat. Instead, try to break their concentration with a loud noise. If you absolutely must separate them, use blanket or towel. In this state of arousal, either cat can inflict serious injuries to each other and you. Remember, if one of them bites you and the wound requires medical attention, the doctor or hospital is required by law report the incident to the health department. If you don't don't have current rabies certificates, the cat could (probably) be quarantined- usually in the municipal or county shelter for 10 days. Whenever I get bit, I always say the cat was a stray I never saw before or after. They found a small abscess and drained it and treated him for ear mites. Also took blood for his tests. But now his personality is completely gone and has been for 3 days now. Well things have gone from bad to worse. He wants nothing to do with me and tosses a fit when I try to pet him. He growls and hisses fiercely at me when I pick him up. He truly hates me. He is seeing me as a threat and an enemy. He took the vet visit fairly well, though. They had no trouble handling him and he was quiet the whole time. But now here at home, he wants nothing to do with me at all. I just gave him his Amoxy drops and he tolerated it but the howling and hissing was breaking my heart. I suppose he must be a sensitive little guy. He is not as resilient as most other cats I have known and kept. Is there hope for a reconciliation? Do these things become permanent and they hate you for life? He just is so depressed and miserable and now so am I. For now he has a comfy room all to himself with food and a litterbox and soft places to sleep. I've just never known them to be this way for this long, a few hours sure, but not 3 days. Granted we have not bonded and he's only been with me for less than 2 weeks. Give him some time. Don't force yourself on him or try to pet or hold him for awhile. When you go into feed him, just hang out with him for awhile. Sit or lie down on the floor and read a book or take a nap or something. Just don't make any moves towards him. Don't stare at him or make direct eye contact for more a second or two. When you look at him, take long blinks and turn your head away. Give him a lot of treats. He'll come around when he ready. How's the situation between him and the attacker? Phil |
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My new kitten hates me
"Paul M. Cook" wrote in message
... I suppose he must be a sensitive little guy. He is not as resilient as most other cats I have known and kept. Is there hope for a reconciliation? Do these things become permanent and they hate you for life? He just is so depressed and miserable and now so am I. He detects your misery. Animals don't think in terms of permanent. They live in the now. They also pick up on your emotions. Just give him his space and do things to get him interested in you. Like sitting on the floor and ignoring him. Or toss a few toys sort of nonchalantly. He'll come around. |
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My new kitten hates me
"Phil P." wrote in message ... "Paul M. Cook" wrote in message ... About 10 days ago a skinny little tabby kitten came running up to me like he knew me his whole life (8 months or so). He wanted to be friends so I took him in and he took to my place very quickly. My other 3 cats were pretty cool with it though my 2 year old female cat put him in his place often. He seemed to take it as well as could be expected. So last Saturday my big adult male cat Jack got all worked up seeing a stray cat in the yard. He huffed and puffed trying to push through the window glass then assaulted the youngster and beat him up pretty badly. That's called redirected aggression. It happens when a cat gets worked up from seeing another cat that he can't get at- so he attacks a cat or even human that is close to him. Tonight I called the vet because he was not coming around. He is depressed. He doesn't want to socialize or play - not even the squeaky mouse toy which he could hardly put down before this happened. That's not unusual after an attack- especially if the attack was traumatic for the victim. There's also a possibility the victim will develop a fear of the attacker and become defensively aggressive towards him whenever he sees him. So, be on the lookout for future fights and try to head them off before they start. If you see a fight brewing, don't try to touch either cat. Instead, try to break their concentration with a loud noise. If you absolutely must separate them, use blanket or towel. In this state of arousal, either cat can inflict serious injuries to each other and you. Remember, if one of them bites you and the wound requires medical attention, the doctor or hospital is required by law report the incident to the health department. If you don't don't have current rabies certificates, the cat could (probably) be quarantined- usually in the municipal or county shelter for 10 days. Whenever I get bit, I always say the cat was a stray I never saw before or after. They found a small abscess and drained it and treated him for ear mites. Also took blood for his tests. But now his personality is completely gone and has been for 3 days now. Well things have gone from bad to worse. He wants nothing to do with me and tosses a fit when I try to pet him. He growls and hisses fiercely at me when I pick him up. He truly hates me. He is seeing me as a threat and an enemy. He took the vet visit fairly well, though. They had no trouble handling him and he was quiet the whole time. But now here at home, he wants nothing to do with me at all. I just gave him his Amoxy drops and he tolerated it but the howling and hissing was breaking my heart. I suppose he must be a sensitive little guy. He is not as resilient as most other cats I have known and kept. Is there hope for a reconciliation? Do these things become permanent and they hate you for life? He just is so depressed and miserable and now so am I. For now he has a comfy room all to himself with food and a litterbox and soft places to sleep. I've just never known them to be this way for this long, a few hours sure, but not 3 days. Granted we have not bonded and he's only been with me for less than 2 weeks. Give him some time. Don't force yourself on him or try to pet or hold him for awhile. When you go into feed him, just hang out with him for awhile. Sit or lie down on the floor and read a book or take a nap or something. Just don't make any moves towards him. Don't stare at him or make direct eye contact for more a second or two. When you look at him, take long blinks and turn your head away. Give him a lot of treats. He'll come around when he ready. How's the situation between him and the attacker? Jack is a really good cat, but he does have this thing about redirected aggression. He is cool with the little guy and gives him no other trouble. Salvador, the kitten, is pretty scared of him. He recognizes his aggressor. We're doing better tonight. He is slowly coming around. His personality is showing signs of coming back. He's not his exuberant and joyful self yet, but this is good progress. I guess I have a sensitive kitty on my hands. I'll just have to be very careful to supervise them for the time being. For now, Sal goes in the bedroom when I have to go out. He doesn't seem to mind, in fact I think he likes the feeling of safety. I'm thinking that abscess must have hurt a lot so now that it's on the mend perhaps his spirits will improve and surely getting rid of those ear mites is bound to be helping. At least he's easy to get the medicine into. He's being more social tonight. No play but he's here with me watching TV and keeping a cautious eye on the others. Paul Phil |
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"Paul M. Cook" wrote He's being more social tonight. No play but he's here with me watching TV and keeping a cautious eye on the others. Yay, Salvadore! |
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My new kitten hates me
We're doing better tonight. *He is slowly coming around. *His personality is showing signs of coming back. *He's not his exuberant and joyful self yet, but this is good progress. *I guess I have a sensitive kitty on my hands. I'll just have to be very careful to supervise them for the time being. *For now, Sal goes in the bedroom when I have to go out. *He doesn't seem to mind, in fact I think he likes the feeling of safety. *I'm thinking that abscess must have hurt a lot so now that it's on the mend perhaps his spirits will improve and surely getting rid of those ear mites is bound to be helping. *At least he's easy to get the medicine into. Hooray! I think it's a good idea to keep them separated when you're away. Take it slow with re-introducing to the other cats, and don't force anything. |
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My new kitten hates me
Glad he's coming around!
Barb |
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