Advice pls: what to send my friend's cat who died

That is an excellent way to describe making a donation to honor them. My
vet has always done this for me when I lost a cat and it meant so much
to me.

Julie

Stormmee wrote:
the family will know when it is time for another friend to love, there is in
fact no replacing as such, and as to the donation, it is a way like flowers
to show you noted their loss and wanted a way to let them know that, flowers
wilt but the donation is a bit more practicle as it might buy food for one
more and shows also, imho that you are honoring the fact that they adopted a
cat to care for, soft,
"Sandi" wrote in message
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On Sat 04-Apr-2009 20:09, Stan Brown
wrote:

Sat, 04 Apr 2009 06:03:02 +0100 from Sandi :
I'm in the UK. My friend and her parents had a lovely
friendly cat at home for about 10 or 12 years. It died
earlier today.
When my cat died, the vet sent a notice that she had had a
tree planted in Israel in his name. I thought that was a nice
gesture, but YMMV.

I'd think a donation to any cat welfare organization, in
memory of the pet, would be appreciated. Ideally this would
be a local organization in your friend's town, as opposed to a
less personal national organization.

Dear all, I don't want to be dumb or picky but how does a
donation to a cat organisation help the bereaved feel better?
Isn't a donation really for my benefit as it is a "sensible" or
more permanent way of expressing my condolence.

But it's my friend who is hurting with grief. She's in her early
30s and lives in the countryside with her parents and their cat
has been there almost all her adult life. Thee were no other
pets. They all loved the cat, especially my friend who was there
most of the day. Now he's gone. Her world has changed.

I do not at all mind giving to a good cause like a cat
oranisation but what am I not seeing in terms of how it helps my
friend or her family?

Very sadly, I missed his burial today in one of his favourite
spots in the garden. I do not live nearby and only heard about
it afterwards. I would have dearly wanted to be there.

Does it help to suggest they now get a little kitten to somehow
carry or embody the spirit of the deceased cat? I can see how
that might go very wrong but maybe it can go very right. Oh I
don't know. It's all new to me. What I know is I weep with
sorrow and my friend is devastated by her loss.

Sorry to go on writing so much. Any suggestions would be
welcome. Put me right if I my vision is too clouded. All I know
is that I am a swirling pot of emotion and not really too sure
about anything much.