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Advice, please...adding a third cat to household?
Hello all,
I haven't read this group before, but I need sage, timely advice! I have two wonderful indoor-only cats: a 3-year old, 20 pound sweet-and-not-very-bright purebred tabby Maine Coon fixed male, and my fiance's cat, a 6-year-old female (fixed) 10 pound all-black DSH who is very "ninja" (small, wiry, always seems on the lookout). The two of them have formed a very nice rappoire (the Coon came into this equation as a kitten). They wrestle and play a lot, and chase each other a lot, but nobody gets hurt. Both are indoor cats only. We live in rural NH with a lot of coyotes and fishercats around; outdoor cats go "missing" here all the time. I'd been on the fence about in/out cats in the past, but when I got the Coon, his breeder actually made me sign a contract saying he'd be indoor only. My fiance's cat had always been indoor-only, as well. We live in a wonderful open-concept post and beam, with lots of fun walkways, balconies and beams for the kitties to hang out on. The place is like a cat playground. A few years ago, my ex-husband took our other cat, a DSH tortie/calico fixed female who is now about 9 (we don't know for sure, as we adopted her from a shelter), after the divorce. She had been an indoor/outdoor cat, but had survived the local predators by being very sensible (she was almost always indoors at night time). She has extra toes, is very agile and small (7 pounds, maybe?), and was an excellent huntress. When I got her from the shelter, they said she was "good with dogs and people, but not good with other cats".In any case, he moved with her to a more urban area, and she became an indoor-only cat in an apartment. Over the past year or so, she's been clawing the furniture like crazy, and he's had it with her (probably mixed into the equation is some lingering anger our divorce, too). He is saying that if he keeps her, he'd probably have to de-claw her...yikes... My ex contacted me a few days ago, asking me to take the tortie/calico. We have determined that we can definitely take her. BUT...under what conditions? Should she be introduced into the household? She has lived indoors for over a year, but apparently not without causing damage to the furniture, etc. (To be fair, I don't know if he's been clipping her claws --- as we do fairly regularly with the DHS and the Coon --- or if he's made a good faith effort at getting her scratching posts, etc.). But the damage to the furniture has been substantial. She never damaged furniture before, when she was an in/out cat. Also, the shelter's assessment of her as not good with other cats scares me. (Again, to be fair, this assessment was made 6 or 7 years ago --- she was a far younger cat then). I would think that if she became a housecat, she should be indoor only, as her potential housemates are as well. OR... Should she become a barn cat, and be allowed to revert to her former savvy huntress "lone cat" mode? We have a snug, dry, very modern barn (less than 20 years old) with lots of mice. It's not heated, but I've done research on building her a snug shelter inside the barn, having a heated water bowl, etc., etc. We live on a seldom-travelled dirt road, hundreds of yards from the nearest paved road, with hundreds of acres of conservation land/forest behind us. I think most cats would be in a lot of danger, but she was always savvy about not being out at night. What to do, what to do? Time is of the essence --- I plan on picking her up from my ex over the next few days. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thank you Elise in NH |
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Advice, please...adding a third cat to household?
Bring her home and isolate her from the other two. Introduce them slowly
and hopefully you will have one big happy family. Don't put her in the barn until you try and if it doesn't work out then why not find her another home where she's the only cat? Anything is better than being put back outside. No matter how smart she's always been in the past it only take once and she could be nabbed by a predator. In all honesty I don't know many men who pay attention to their pets like women do. Like you said he may not have made much effort to keep her claws clipped or provide her with lots of scratching posts. And if he's still harboring resentment about the divorce she may be picking up on it and that could be causing the destructiveness. Cats and dogs alike pick up on our emotions and stress in our lives and it effects them. Good luck Celeste "Elise" wrote in message ups.com... Hello all, I haven't read this group before, but I need sage, timely advice! I have two wonderful indoor-only cats: a 3-year old, 20 pound sweet-and-not-very-bright purebred tabby Maine Coon fixed male, and my fiance's cat, a 6-year-old female (fixed) 10 pound all-black DSH who is very "ninja" (small, wiry, always seems on the lookout). The two of them have formed a very nice rappoire (the Coon came into this equation as a kitten). They wrestle and play a lot, and chase each other a lot, but nobody gets hurt. Both are indoor cats only. We live in rural NH with a lot of coyotes and fishercats around; outdoor cats go "missing" here all the time. I'd been on the fence about in/out cats in the past, but when I got the Coon, his breeder actually made me sign a contract saying he'd be indoor only. My fiance's cat had always been indoor-only, as well. We live in a wonderful open-concept post and beam, with lots of fun walkways, balconies and beams for the kitties to hang out on. The place is like a cat playground. A few years ago, my ex-husband took our other cat, a DSH tortie/calico fixed female who is now about 9 (we don't know for sure, as we adopted her from a shelter), after the divorce. She had been an indoor/outdoor cat, but had survived the local predators by being very sensible (she was almost always indoors at night time). She has extra toes, is very agile and small (7 pounds, maybe?), and was an excellent huntress. When I got her from the shelter, they said she was "good with dogs and people, but not good with other cats".In any case, he moved with her to a more urban area, and she became an indoor-only cat in an apartment. Over the past year or so, she's been clawing the furniture like crazy, and he's had it with her (probably mixed into the equation is some lingering anger our divorce, too). He is saying that if he keeps her, he'd probably have to de-claw her...yikes... My ex contacted me a few days ago, asking me to take the tortie/calico. We have determined that we can definitely take her. BUT...under what conditions? Should she be introduced into the household? She has lived indoors for over a year, but apparently not without causing damage to the furniture, etc. (To be fair, I don't know if he's been clipping her claws --- as we do fairly regularly with the DHS and the Coon --- or if he's made a good faith effort at getting her scratching posts, etc.). But the damage to the furniture has been substantial. She never damaged furniture before, when she was an in/out cat. Also, the shelter's assessment of her as not good with other cats scares me. (Again, to be fair, this assessment was made 6 or 7 years ago --- she was a far younger cat then). I would think that if she became a housecat, she should be indoor only, as her potential housemates are as well. OR... Should she become a barn cat, and be allowed to revert to her former savvy huntress "lone cat" mode? We have a snug, dry, very modern barn (less than 20 years old) with lots of mice. It's not heated, but I've done research on building her a snug shelter inside the barn, having a heated water bowl, etc., etc. We live on a seldom-travelled dirt road, hundreds of yards from the nearest paved road, with hundreds of acres of conservation land/forest behind us. I think most cats would be in a lot of danger, but she was always savvy about not being out at night. What to do, what to do? Time is of the essence --- I plan on picking her up from my ex over the next few days. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thank you Elise in NH |
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Advice, please...adding a third cat to household?
Yes, isolate her in a room of her own with food, water, bed, and litter.
Very slowly (and gradually) expose her to the other two cats. If you can set up a temporary screen door so they can see each other (and not touch), that would be great. I would try to keep her indoors only. All indoor cats need their claws trimmed regularly and to be given scratching posts or pads. I doubt that your ex did this. Give this girl a chance. Also, try using Feliway diffuser to reduce anxiety where the cats are. Gail "Spot" wrote in message news:jiiwf.1388$ID1.555@trndny01... Bring her home and isolate her from the other two. Introduce them slowly and hopefully you will have one big happy family. Don't put her in the barn until you try and if it doesn't work out then why not find her another home where she's the only cat? Anything is better than being put back outside. No matter how smart she's always been in the past it only take once and she could be nabbed by a predator. In all honesty I don't know many men who pay attention to their pets like women do. Like you said he may not have made much effort to keep her claws clipped or provide her with lots of scratching posts. And if he's still harboring resentment about the divorce she may be picking up on it and that could be causing the destructiveness. Cats and dogs alike pick up on our emotions and stress in our lives and it effects them. Good luck Celeste "Elise" wrote in message ups.com... Hello all, I haven't read this group before, but I need sage, timely advice! I have two wonderful indoor-only cats: a 3-year old, 20 pound sweet-and-not-very-bright purebred tabby Maine Coon fixed male, and my fiance's cat, a 6-year-old female (fixed) 10 pound all-black DSH who is very "ninja" (small, wiry, always seems on the lookout). The two of them have formed a very nice rappoire (the Coon came into this equation as a kitten). They wrestle and play a lot, and chase each other a lot, but nobody gets hurt. Both are indoor cats only. We live in rural NH with a lot of coyotes and fishercats around; outdoor cats go "missing" here all the time. I'd been on the fence about in/out cats in the past, but when I got the Coon, his breeder actually made me sign a contract saying he'd be indoor only. My fiance's cat had always been indoor-only, as well. We live in a wonderful open-concept post and beam, with lots of fun walkways, balconies and beams for the kitties to hang out on. The place is like a cat playground. A few years ago, my ex-husband took our other cat, a DSH tortie/calico fixed female who is now about 9 (we don't know for sure, as we adopted her from a shelter), after the divorce. She had been an indoor/outdoor cat, but had survived the local predators by being very sensible (she was almost always indoors at night time). She has extra toes, is very agile and small (7 pounds, maybe?), and was an excellent huntress. When I got her from the shelter, they said she was "good with dogs and people, but not good with other cats".In any case, he moved with her to a more urban area, and she became an indoor-only cat in an apartment. Over the past year or so, she's been clawing the furniture like crazy, and he's had it with her (probably mixed into the equation is some lingering anger our divorce, too). He is saying that if he keeps her, he'd probably have to de-claw her...yikes... My ex contacted me a few days ago, asking me to take the tortie/calico. We have determined that we can definitely take her. BUT...under what conditions? Should she be introduced into the household? She has lived indoors for over a year, but apparently not without causing damage to the furniture, etc. (To be fair, I don't know if he's been clipping her claws --- as we do fairly regularly with the DHS and the Coon --- or if he's made a good faith effort at getting her scratching posts, etc.). But the damage to the furniture has been substantial. She never damaged furniture before, when she was an in/out cat. Also, the shelter's assessment of her as not good with other cats scares me. (Again, to be fair, this assessment was made 6 or 7 years ago --- she was a far younger cat then). I would think that if she became a housecat, she should be indoor only, as her potential housemates are as well. OR... Should she become a barn cat, and be allowed to revert to her former savvy huntress "lone cat" mode? We have a snug, dry, very modern barn (less than 20 years old) with lots of mice. It's not heated, but I've done research on building her a snug shelter inside the barn, having a heated water bowl, etc., etc. We live on a seldom-travelled dirt road, hundreds of yards from the nearest paved road, with hundreds of acres of conservation land/forest behind us. I think most cats would be in a lot of danger, but she was always savvy about not being out at night. What to do, what to do? Time is of the essence --- I plan on picking her up from my ex over the next few days. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thank you Elise in NH |
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Advice, please...adding a third cat to household?
"Elise" wrote in message ups.com... Hello all, I haven't read this group before, but I need sage, timely advice! I have two wonderful indoor-only cats: a 3-year old, 20 pound sweet-and-not-very-bright purebred tabby Maine Coon fixed male, and my fiance's cat, a 6-year-old female (fixed) 10 pound all-black DSH who is very "ninja" (small, wiry, always seems on the lookout). The two of them have formed a very nice rappoire (the Coon came into this equation as a kitten). They wrestle and play a lot, and chase each other a lot, but nobody gets hurt. Both are indoor cats only. We live in rural NH with a lot of coyotes and fishercats around; outdoor cats go "missing" here all the time. I'd been on the fence about in/out cats in the past, but when I got the Coon, his breeder actually made me sign a contract saying he'd be indoor only. My fiance's cat had always been indoor-only, as well. We live in a wonderful open-concept post and beam, with lots of fun walkways, balconies and beams for the kitties to hang out on. The place is like a cat playground. A few years ago, my ex-husband took our other cat, a DSH tortie/calico fixed female who is now about 9 (we don't know for sure, as we adopted her from a shelter), after the divorce. She had been an indoor/outdoor cat, but had survived the local predators by being very sensible (she was almost always indoors at night time). She has extra toes, is very agile and small (7 pounds, maybe?), and was an excellent huntress. When I got her from the shelter, they said she was "good with dogs and people, but not good with other cats".In any case, he moved with her to a more urban area, and she became an indoor-only cat in an apartment. Over the past year or so, she's been clawing the furniture like crazy, and he's had it with her (probably mixed into the equation is some lingering anger our divorce, too). He is saying that if he keeps her, he'd probably have to de-claw her...yikes... My ex contacted me a few days ago, asking me to take the tortie/calico. We have determined that we can definitely take her. BUT...under what conditions? Should she be introduced into the household? She has lived indoors for over a year, but apparently not without causing damage to the furniture, etc. (To be fair, I don't know if he's been clipping her claws --- as we do fairly regularly with the DHS and the Coon --- or if he's made a good faith effort at getting her scratching posts, etc.). But the damage to the furniture has been substantial. She never damaged furniture before, when she was an in/out cat. Also, the shelter's assessment of her as not good with other cats scares me. (Again, to be fair, this assessment was made 6 or 7 years ago --- she was a far younger cat then). I would think that if she became a housecat, she should be indoor only, as her potential housemates are as well. OR... Should she become a barn cat, and be allowed to revert to her former savvy huntress "lone cat" mode? We have a snug, dry, very modern barn (less than 20 years old) with lots of mice. It's not heated, but I've done research on building her a snug shelter inside the barn, having a heated water bowl, etc., etc. We live on a seldom-travelled dirt road, hundreds of yards from the nearest paved road, with hundreds of acres of conservation land/forest behind us. I think most cats would be in a lot of danger, but she was always savvy about not being out at night. What to do, what to do? Time is of the essence --- I plan on picking her up from my ex over the next few days. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thank you Elise in NH I would definitely try integrating this cat with your household first. Most cats will come to some kind of agreement even if they aren't fast friends if they are given time to work it out. MaryL posted a while ago about introducing a new cat to her household with a resistant resident cat - here's a link that might be helpful. In the post there is a link to a web page where there are pictures showing the introduction that might be helpful. http://tinyurl.com/9h6tm If the cat turns out to truly be an only cat then you could try to find her another home. I suspect the scratching furniture problem could be worked out with a good cat tree or one of those horizontal cardboard things and regular claw clipping. I think a lot of the scratching problems come from people not wanting to spend the money on a good heavy cat tree/scratching post. If they do purchase one they don't want to place it where the cat will use it (near what they were scratching) because it doesn't match the decor etc. It doesn't even have to be an expensive solution. Those cardboard things aren't expensive at all and the cats frequently love them. Good luck with your kitty. W |
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