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Help - one of my boys is bullying the other
Hoping someone can give me some advice.
I have two 3 year old persian boys who have grown up togther and always got along. Bailey is a mommas boy, cautious of others and can be a tough little kitty. Cooper is just a sweet cat who loves everyone and never causes any touble. Lately, Bailey has just started bullying Cooper terribly. It started whenever Cooper revieved more attention, Bailey would screetch, jump on top of Cooper and bite him. This happened every so often. Now, Bailey has started doing this to poor Cooper several times a day. Cooper will be laying down and Bailey will stand next to him, stare him down and attack him in this manner. My poor Cooper. Now Bailey is kicking Cooper out of all of his favorite spots and claiming all the territory. He kicks Cooper out of my bed out night so he can sleep with me. I just do not get why his behavior has gotten so aggressive towards Cooper. I thought at first it was jealousy but now he does it all the time. It is getting harder and harder for Cooper to get out of his grasp. Any suggestions? Thank you so much in advance for your input. My EMail is Regards, Alissa |
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Help - one of my boys is bullying the other
Age can be a factor in changing relationships between siblings. I've read
that the best of times are up to the age of eighteen months. After that, siblings can begin to perceive one another as competitors. It would be interesting to know if the environment has been restricted in any way, or whether a vet visit by Cooper may have changed his scent profile. The advice of the UK behaviourist Vicky Halls is to increase favoured resources to one cat per resource plus one. So, in your case, three of the following (in different locations): Litter trays Feeding stations Water bowls Beds High resting places Scratching posts Toys Secret hiding places The rationale is that it is impossible for the bully to deny access to them all. As the resources are plentiful, it can dramatically change behaviour. You'll find Feliway helpful, but get both the spray and the diffuser as the diffuser can take up to a month to work. http://wizz-catz.co.uk/multicat.html Alissa wrote: Hoping someone can give me some advice. I have two 3 year old persian boys who have grown up togther and always got along. Bailey is a mommas boy, cautious of others and can be a tough little kitty. Cooper is just a sweet cat who loves everyone and never causes any touble. Lately, Bailey has just started bullying Cooper terribly. It started whenever Cooper revieved more attention, Bailey would screetch, jump on top of Cooper and bite him. This happened every so often. Now, Bailey has started doing this to poor Cooper several times a day. Cooper will be laying down and Bailey will stand next to him, stare him down and attack him in this manner. My poor Cooper. Now Bailey is kicking Cooper out of all of his favorite spots and claiming all the territory. He kicks Cooper out of my bed out night so he can sleep with me. I just do not get why his behavior has gotten so aggressive towards Cooper. I thought at first it was jealousy but now he does it all the time. It is getting harder and harder for Cooper to get out of his grasp. Any suggestions? Thank you so much in advance for your input. My EMail is Regards, Alissa -- Message posted via CatKB.com http://www.catkb.com/Uwe/Forums.aspx...ealth/200704/1 |
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Help - one of my boys is bullying the other
Lately, Bailey has just started bullying Cooper terribly. It started
whenever Cooper revieved more attention, Bailey would screetch, jump on top of Cooper and bite him. This happened every so often. Now, Bailey has started doing this to poor Cooper several times a day. Cooper will be laying down and Bailey will stand next to him, stare him down and attack him in this manner. My poor Cooper. Now Bailey is kicking Cooper out of all of his favorite spots and claiming all the territory. He kicks Cooper out of my bed out night so he can sleep with me. I have a similar situation with my cats (though they didn't grow up together.) For a while, I had to separate the cats and re-introduce them because things got so bad. I added Rescue Remedy to their water (an herbal blend, very safe) and used Feliway diffusers once they were back together. If you see Bailey get in "the mood" to bully Cooper (dilated eyes, ears back, etc.), try distracting him by calling him over to you sweetly. When he does, praise and pet him. It makes him "forget" about what he was going to do. This sounds lame and takes many tries, but it does work. As catlover said, increase the resources to prevent any bad behavoir, especially litter box avoidance. And be sure to play with Cooper to wear him out and eliminate that energy. |
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